HELP! Non-dissers are invading my turf!

[kstinw19]

Okay, all you dissers, I need your help and to vent all at the same time.

We are leaving for WDW in 2, yes 2, days!

My lovely yet clueless dh just invited two different work friends and their families to hang out with us at the World while we are there.

Family #1: Not a big deal. They have come with us before on our trip and are very accommodating. They go where we go and I have already added them on to our dinner ressies and they are also going with us on our Illuminations cruise. Great!

Family #2: Never met them but I am sure they are very nice. BUT...dh is really the problem here. He first tells me to check what we are doing for dinner on Sunday. Didn't make plans that day...great...problem solved. Now dh tells me they will be going to the parks with us that day....
Okay...we have a character bkfst that morning in MGM but they can probably get a ressie since it's new. Then we can tour MGM. BUT my plan is to go to EPCOT that evening and don't know if they want to do that.

THEN...dh tells me that they are coming on Monday. Monday we have character bkfst at Cape May, then Pool Day, then dinner at WCC. DH now wants us to do a park instead of the pool. I really don't want to b/c that is our day of rest. With 3 under 6 I really need to have a day in between to get them some rest.

DH asks me "why can't you change our plans"? HUH??? Cause I made them 7 months ago and there are no more ADR's left!!! Then he says (2 days before we leave, mind you), why can't I plan something? HUH??? 2 days before??? Are you kidding?? Do you want to be tarred and feathered by my fellow Dissers???

So here is where you come in...

1. Can you get a one day park hopper ticket? If they do decide to go to MGM with us, they will have to go to EPCOT with us too. Can they do that?

2. How do I "put my foot down" on the pool day on Monday...or should I go to a park and just let the kids be tired. What do you all suggest?

3. I really want to go to WCC. Should I try to get a ressie for them for that night or just go there and see if they can get in standby?

Thanks for listening and for all your help!

Won't...let...non-Dissers...ruin...our...trip

 

[PrincessJasmine08]

I feel your pain! I went on a trip with myself and a few friends this past year. ADR's and plans made months in advance of course. Well, we get to WDW and my friend mentions that she has a friend in the area who would like to join us for a day. No problem, I say I will try to add them to our ADR. She then mentions her friend is with her boyfriend and another friend, that's 3 extra people. I couldn't change the ADR and my friend acted very indignant that I wanted to just not include them in that evening's plans.

People don't get how much work is involved in the planning. Yes, most of us here love doing it, but it's still hard. It can be stressful, and we spend hours pondering what meals, what parks, etc. People don't get that and that's why they get mad when we aren't willing to change on a whim.

As far as the park hopper goes, yes, they can get one day hoppers, but they are VERY expensive, somewhere in the neighborhood of $100.

You know your kids better than anyone else. You know their needs, and in this situation is sounds like you know that your kids will need a pool day. Explain that to your husband. Also, wouldn't choosing to go to a park on your previously scheduled pool day mean buying another day's admission? Do you want to spend that money? Just tell your husband how hard you have worked to plan this, hopefully he will understand and you can include the other families to some extent while still doing your own thing. Good luck, and HAVE FUN!

 

[tmt martins]

I think a true DISser will figure something out to please Her DH

Come on It's not like he's asking you to change the entire trip or even cancel it

I think your being a bit unreasonable as they seem like such small request

OK I have nothing else to sit here and laugh at as DW is always inviting people to our DVC and I have to remind her we only have so many points and it's 4 to a room not 10.

 

[Califgirl]

Maybe it's a DVC mentality (we've owned since '98) but I don't see the big deal either. So you change your plans a little. You might have an even better time with the new plans and new friends. Life is an adventure. Enjoy it!

 

[Smooshdog]

Maybe there is a way to compromise here. The most important thing here is to enjoy your trip at WDW. I understand all the plans you've made and I understand because I HATE last minute changes...however maybe you can try somethings. Can you move the pool day up or back a day (just a thought)? Or just let the other families do their own thing on Monday. I would call and try to add the extra people to your dinner res instead of just showing up. best of luck to you, I hope it works out, just remember to enjoy the Disney trip!

 

[PrincessJasmine08]

Maybe it's a DVC mentality (we've owned since '98) but I don't see the big deal either. So you change your plans a little. You might have an even better time with the new plans and new friends. Life is an adventure. Enjoy it!

I do know what you mean here, with DVC we know there will always be another trip. But, not everyone has this reassurance, for some it may be the only trip for a few years so they plan accordingly.

 

[Lisa_Belle]

So here is where you come in...

1. Can you get a one day park hopper ticket? If they do decide to go to MGM with us, they will have to go to EPCOT with us too. Can they do that?

2. How do I "put my foot down" on the pool day on Monday...or should I go to a park and just let the kids be tired. What do you all suggest?

3. I really want to go to WCC. Should I try to get a ressie for them for that night or just go there and see if they can get in standby?

Thanks for listening and for all your help!

Won't...let...non-Dissers...ruin...our...trip

I'm a people-pleaser in real life, so this is what I would do ...

1 - Yes, but give them the option of whether they want to hop or not. I wouldn't change your plans, though.

2 - I would put my kidlets to bed early Sunday night and try the park on Monday. The moment they're tired, head back to the hotel (with or without friends). Personally, my 4-year-old could outlast me any day of the week.

3 - I would see if you could get them a ressie, but would go without them if you can't. OR - if there is someplace really cool that could accommodate everyone, I would go there.

Use Disology - if you don't get to see and do everything you need to, it's just an excuse to come back again.

 

[DisneyMommyMichelle]

I like everything Lisa Belle said. HAVE FUN!!!

 

[tarheelmjfan]

Then he says (2 days before we leave, mind you), why can't I plan something?

Tell your DH he did plan something. It was a great plan, when he married you. If he'd married me, he would be planning the appropriate way to uninvite the other 2 families.

 

[MariaEllerºoº]

Tell your DH he did plan something. It was a great plan, when he married you. If he'd married me, he would be planning the appropriate way to uninvite the other 2 families.

ROTFLMAO!!!! I love your answer! LMAO

 

[Hope73]

I would be soo mad at hubby. If he had a clue he would knkow how hard it is to plan all of these things. Wow good luck with this one.

 

[the Fidge]

Heres the best I got: provied your visitors ahead of time with a link to this website don't forget to remind them firstly to print out the abbrevaitons! Give them your itinary for your stay with your ADRS and tell them to get busy!!!!

They have alot of planning to do and you cannot meet them unless they are sporting lime green crocs!!!

Have a great time and good luck besides my intelligent suggestion you received some great advice!!!!

Have a great trip!

 

[JediDan2773]

I think you should just do what you had planned. It's your vacation, and he invited them. Fock them.

 

[kstinw19]

Thanks for all of your answers....love em!!

I am a bit calmer now and dh did leave a message with an apology (he's out of town during the packing stage...go figure ).

I am still not sure what we will do but those were great suggestions. We could always suck it up and go to the park the extra morning, have lunch with them, and then head our own ways for dinner. That seems to be the best plan.

If this doesn't work...I will sic all of the LGMH people on them

Okay...back to packing

 

[Temair]

You could always sugest your DH might enjoy the time with his friends at the parks and you and the kids can enjoy the pool and the hotel.

Temair

 

[sticker231]

Some people don't get the whole planning part. The friends we are going with kept talking about a character breakfast. We had gone before and the kids just aren't crazy about the characters. They get scared. So we said if you want we will go. So we decide on a place. She says ok I will book it and get back to you. We get a message on our machine saying, "We got Crystal Palace, you better hurry up because it if filling up fast." OK hello, if we were going together why not book for all of us. Needless to say we were unable to get the ressie and nothing is available within a close timeframe. I need to relax already or will have a nervous break down one month prior to leaving!!!!!

 

[Katwillow1]

I agree with a previous poster. I think you should stick with your plans, be strong with your husband on that, give your 'guests' the itenerary (whatever on the spelling) and let them work on your schedule. Who's vacation is it? Why were you going on vacation? Good luck in making everyone happy. I hope it works out for you and your family.

 

[Frantasmic]

I think if you explain free dining to them and how hectic it has made dining plans, that should do it. Don't change your dining plans.

You can change your park plans though to go with the flow.

 

[kstinw19]

sticker231 - I totally know what you mean. People don't realize that you have to "plan" Disney...you can just show up but it won't be as fun. I planned our vacation 2 years ago and my dh, who has gone every year of his life, said that was the best one he had ever been on.

Kat - Thanks for the pep talk. You are right...my dh travels 3-4 days a week and we really never spend quality time together without the phone ringing. He hasn't taken a vacation in a year, and this is our only time together as a family. So you are right, I am going to have them adhere to our schedule. I am a people pleaser too, but when it comes to Disney I get tough.

Thanks

 

[the Fidge]

Krisitin I think I have the answer.......ready....here goes tell him you will have to plan another trip in the event this one gets derailed!!!!!!! Courtesy of him!!!

The other option will be adding an additional week to your stay and he will have to make all the ADR"S!!! That should frighten him!!!

Good Luck