Help me make a life-changing decision

[sharbear]

My Mom and Dad moved away from their hometown about 5 years ago. I think that they are happy and found friends but I really miss the relationship that we used to have. When my kids were younger and my mom lived an hour away, she would see the kids at least once a month. The kids came to her house for the weekend and my parents could come to my kids activities. Now they live 8 hours away and they never see my kids activities unless they are around a time when they can get up here. My kids are getting older and don't have the time to travel 8 hours away to see my parents. My sister has younger kids and my mom only see us a couple of times a year. With teenagers you don't have a lot of time to go places because they have so much stuff going on.

When my mom lived closer, we would go to lunch and shopping and she helped my with stuff. She can't do any of that anymore. I used to call and talk to her a lot more than I do now. Some of it is that I am just much busier than when I had little kids but some of it is the distance.

I know that you want to move and if you do I'm sure that things will work out. Your kids may not even be able to live close to you and most of my mom's friend's kids live far away. I just miss my mom and the time when she lived closer to us and was more a part of our lives.

 

[grinningghost]

I would go. But that's coming from someone who is counting the days until she can sell the northern house and live in Florida.

 

[FOJMO]

We are both from PA originally, and lived in Rochester, NY before moving to FL 14 years ago!

Our situation is not exactly the same, as we did not leave long-standing jobs and we HATED it in Rochester! Our DD at the time was only 3 and she's now grown up in FL (she's 17 now) and will be attending Univ. of South FL next year.

Just seeing the sun nearly every day and although we originally moved to the Orlando area, we now live in the Tampa Bay area and LOVE IT!

Any questions, please let me know and good luck! VAL

 

[Michelemouse]

Originally posted by peg2001
If it were me, and I was used to seeing my adult kids on a regular basis, and I had a good job with good benefits, I wouldn't even THINK about moving.

But you aren't me, and you should do what is best for you.

Peggy

This reminds me of a CM at Coronado Springs that I spoke with. She and her husband had moved to the Orlando area from New Jersey. They were in their late 50's (not able to retire) and had to get new jobs in Florida. She said that her husband had to take quite a pay cut and lost all of his benefits. She also said that if she had to do it again she would wait until they retired and then move.

So...I guess I really have no opinion on the subject. I'm just passing along the opinion of someone who was in your shoes.