Help Me Enjoy My Trip To WDW...Long

[Sandy321]

no it doesnt sound funny at all!

it it would make for a miserable time to be in his company - but you cant change him - you can only change you - so maybe you will have to go to counseling to see how you can better enjoy your life - live your life without having him downplay you! He doesnt respect you - and that has to hurt!

Good Luck!

 

[Disney Doll]

I'd "yes dear" him to death, ignore what he says and spend my vacation paying attention to my kids and planning how I was going to start the process to leave him when we got home.

And I am serious. I would never be able to tolerate that constant negativity, challenging and need to be right. Easy to say, hard to do, but your DH seems to be the type who likes to get a "rise" out of people. If he sees he's not getting a rise out of you, that'll tick him off more! So do it, play with his head a little, make a game.

And really, start thinking baout what you need to do to leave him....finances, savings, where you'll live etc.

 

[chell]

Is he like this about other things at home? I was married to a man like this. He made my life miserable. He wasn't like that about WDW but he was like that about life and anything I enjoyed in life. ANYTHING I enjoyed he tore it apart. When we were at WDW he didn't really tear it apart but he didn't really let me enjoy it either. I hope and pray he isn't tearing you down like my ex tore me down. I was such a miserable person. The person I turned into never even laughed or smiled anymore. I was so afraid to be myself out of the fear he had me living in. Please tell me your husband isn't heading you down this path. If he is I suggest you seek out more assistance. Sorry I went deeper than what you asked for. But I don't want you to go where I was, it isn't pretty. I still suffer the side effects. I do thank God that I survived that relationship and am in a much, much better place today and that I now have a smile on my face and a wonderful man in my life.

As far as your trip goes, you can yes him to pieces but if he wants to make you miserable he will. It sounds like he knows how to push your buttons. It will take a TON of will power from you to keep him from getting to you. Is it worth it? Just give him a ton of meds each morning that will knock him out and leave him in the room. Of course I'm kidding!

PM me if you need someone to talk to.

 

[sbell111]

I have no clue what your issue is. Your DH and ytour mom don't get along. Luckily, they won't both be on the trip.

Enjoy your vacation.

 

[sbell111]

The problem I am aving with DH is that he is not trying to make me feel like WDW is a replacement. He wants me and my mom (whom he hates) to be wrong. He wants us to know he is right. We must admit that WDW is better. He doesn't actually come out and say "admit it is better". He will just say WDW is better. California sucks.

But, WDW IS better. Do you think that maybe he gets as tired of you saying that DL is better as you are of him saying that WDW is better?

Is this really the worse thing in the world? Is this worth arguing about and having a bad vacation over?

 

[GOOFY4DONALD]

But, WDW IS better. Do you think that maybe he gets as tired of you saying that DL is better as you are of him saying that WDW is better?

Is this really the worse thing in the world? Is this worth arguing about and having a bad vacation over?

This is not the issue. I have never in my life said DL is better. When I say I would like to take the kids to DL because XYZ or I love California he shoots it down. And BTW stating WDW is better is your opinion... not fact. If I enjoyed the beach better that a theme park that would be my opinion but I wouldn't try and force you to like it better.

 

[GOOFY4DONALD]

I have no clue what your issue is. Your DH and ytour mom don't get along. Luckily, they won't both be on the trip.

Enjoy your vacation.

I am not sure if you were trying help or not. The first sentance seems a bit harsh... like I'm the one with the problems...wait is this my DH?

 

[sbell111]

This is not the issue. I have never in my life said DL is better. When I say I would like to take the kids to DL because XYZ or I love California he shoots it down. And BTW stating WDW is better is your opinion... not fact. If I enjoyed the beach better that a theme park that would be my opinion but I wouldn't try and force you to like it better.

Ummm, I think that it's pretty clear that I was kidding. While I like WDW more than all the DLs, I get that some things at the various DLs are better. In my opinion, the fact that you took me so seriously is a little telling.

I am not sure if you were trying help or not. The first sentance seems a bit harsh... like I'm the one with the problems...wait is this my DH?

Don't you see? You are the one with the problem. Otherwise, you wouldn't have started this thread. Your husband is taking you to WDW. Enjoy your vacation. Let him believe that WDW is terrific. It is, after all.

BTW, given that your mother isn't going on the trip, I'm not sure why you keep bringing her up. I wonder if this isn't part of the problem. If your husband and mother don't get along, don't force it. You can be a good wife and a good daughter without forcing them to do anything.

 

[GOOFY4DONALD]

Ummm, I think that it's pretty clear that I was kidding. While I like WDW more than all the DLs, I get that some things at the various DLs are better. In my opinion, the fact that you took me so seriously is a little telling.

Don't you see? You are the one with the problem. Otherwise, you wouldn't have started this thread. Your husband is taking you to WDW. Enjoy your vacation. Let him believe that WDW is terrific. It is, after all.

BTW, given that your mother isn't going on the trip, I'm not sure why you keep bringing her up. I wonder if this isn't part of the problem. If your husband and mother don't get along, don't force it. You can be a good wife and a good daughter without forcing them to do anything.

Glad that it was a joke. I guess I do have a problem..but not the one you think. My Dh isn't taking me to WDW. We were going. And before the trip in 2007 he didn't want to go there either.

 

[sbell111]

Glad that it was a joke. I guess I do have a problem..but not the one you think. My Dh isn't taking me to WDW. We were going. And before the trip in 2007 he didn't want to go there either.

I swear that I'm trying to figure out what in the world this thread is about. Can you perhaps help me out?

Where will you be in 146 days? Will your husband be with you?

 

[GOOFY4DONALD]

Is he like this about other things at home? I was married to a man like this. He made my life miserable. He wasn't like that about WDW but he was like that about life and anything I enjoyed in life. ANYTHING I enjoyed he tore it apart. When we were at WDW he didn't really tear it apart but he didn't really let me enjoy it either. I hope and pray he isn't tearing you down like my ex tore me down. I was such a miserable person. The person I turned into never even laughed or smiled anymore. I was so afraid to be myself out of the fear he had me living in. Please tell me your husband isn't heading you down this path. If he is I suggest you seek out more assistance. Sorry I went deeper than what you asked for. But I don't want you to go where I was, it isn't pretty. I still suffer the side effects. I do thank God that I survived that relationship and am in a much, much better place today and that I now have a smile on my face and a wonderful man in my life.

As far as your trip goes, you can yes him to pieces but if he wants to make you miserable he will. It sounds like he knows how to push your buttons. It will take a TON of will power from you to keep him from getting to you. Is it worth it? Just give him a ton of meds each morning that will knock him out and leave him in the room. Of course I'm kidding!

PM me if you need someone to talk to.

Thank you for this. I will PM you when I have some more time. I think you understand what I am going through. Not sure about some others. Most of you have been very helpful and for those of you...thank you.

 

[chell]

Thank you for this. I will PM you when I have some more time. I think you understand what I am going through. Not sure about some others. Most of you have been very helpful and for those of you...thank you.

You are very welcome. PM anytime.

 

[HunnyPots]

Count me as another one confused by your post. I read it as your husband wants to prove WDW is better than DL and wants to plan your trip. Then in a later post you said, "My Dh isn't taking me to WDW. We were going. And before the trip in 2007 he didn't want to go there either. "

Who is going on this trip and why is it such a big deal that he thinks WDW is better than DL? Sorry, I'm lost...

 

[Sandy321]

You know I think you hit the nail on the head. My DH is walking through life with an ax to gring. He acts this way about many things. He always has a chip on his shoulder.

I couldn't care less which place he prefers. Everyone is entitled to their own opinion. But with him no one is entitled to their own opinion. If they do not agree with him he will not only disagree but he will put down whatever the opposition is and try to make that person feel like a loser. If they do agree with him he will still bash anything else. You see nothing can ever be different it has to be an all out war. Remember the old Saturday Night Live skit.."If it's not Scottish it's Crap"..that is what it is like in my house. "If I don't like it it's crap"...only it's not quite as funny if you are living it.

This is not the issue. I have never in my life said DL is better. When I say I would like to take the kids to DL because XYZ or I love California he shoots it down. And BTW stating WDW is better is your opinion... not fact. If I enjoyed the beach better that a theme park that would be my opinion but I wouldn't try and force you to like it better.

I am not sure if you were trying help or not. The first sentance seems a bit harsh... like I'm the one with the problems...wait is this my DH?

Glad that it was a joke. I guess I do have a problem..but not the one you think. My Dh isn't taking me to WDW. We were going. And before the trip in 2007 he didn't want to go there either.

It sounds to me more like you need, and want help with your relationship issues -

I sincerely hope you can focus on your trip with your kids. I get the impression in your perfect world, you'd leave dh behind and take your mom and your kids and have a much better, stress free time...

You have plenty of time to take action - you've been given some great help and support for your relationship - PLEASE dont play the victim - dont let him CONTROL or DEMEAN you! Know that what you are feeling, how he is acting, behaving, whatever - the kids, YOUR kids are not immune to it - you are not sheltering them!

 

[GOOFY4DONALD]

Count me as another one confused by your post. I read it as your husband wants to prove WDW is better than DL and wants to plan your trip. Then in a later post you said, "My Dh isn't taking me to WDW. We were going. And before the trip in 2007 he didn't want to go there either. "

Who is going on this trip and why is it such a big deal that he thinks WDW is better than DL? Sorry, I'm lost...

I think I am upset by mu DH's attitude. I also get upset when people say how lucky I am that he is taking me. I am taking him. I worked my tail off to pay for this trip. So I don'y use the term 'he is taking me' I use the term we are going.

 

[GOOFY4DONALD]

I am going to go ahead and leave this thread. I would like to thank all of those that tried to help my and offered to let me PM them. I will take you up on your offer. I thought this might be a place that I can turn to when I needed to talk and it wasn't in the real world. I have found that many Dis people will judge you worse than 'real life' people. So again thanks to those that tried to help.

 

[Sandy321]

wow.

I think this is a place where you can ask for advice. I didnt get the impression you were being judged.

 

[sbell111]

I think I am upset by mu DH's attitude. I also get upset when people say how lucky I am that he is taking me. I am taking him. I worked my tail off to pay for this trip. So I don'y use the term 'he is taking me' I use the term we are going.

In my marriage, that wouldn't matter. You see, once money comes into our household, it's no longer 'mine' or 'hers', it's ours. Therefore, it matters not who earned the dollar that we used to squish a quarter.

I'll revert back to what I posted prior, with a twist. The two of you are going to WDW. Have fun.

I still have no idea why you are so angsty or what anything has to do with your mother.

 

[sbell111]

I am going to go ahead and leave this thread. I would like to thank all of those that tried to help my and offered to let me PM them. I will take you up on your offer. I thought this might be a place that I can turn to when I needed to talk and it wasn't in the real world. I have found that many Dis people will judge you worse than 'real life' people. So again thanks to those that tried to help.

Frequently, people post in internet forums with the desire that only people who are in total agreement will reply to them. This is an error. Those people would be better served by creating a blog.

 

[SydneyFalco]

Not to go off topic or anything, but this seems to me to be eveyone on television and on the radio and 90% of the people I meet, online or off.