Hi there,
THis is what my Ear Nose & Throat Dr told me to do (we all have trouble in my family) and here it is, I included the websites for the products, you should look it all over before using anything:
1 squirt of Afrin in each nostril 45 min before take-off to reduce swelling in the ears (the ear & nose are connected).
http://www.afrinsprays.com/product.aspx?prodid=1
1 dose of original Sudafed, its not the new formula and sits behind the counter with the pharmasists(I use the lower dose recommended & have adults and kids versions) 45 minutes before take-off (also for the ears by reducing fluids)
http://www.sudafed.com/faq.html
1 dose of Benedryl 1 hr before take-off (again for the ears by reducing fluids)
http://www.pfizerch.com/product.aspx?id=247
Earplanes for everyone, although DH refuses to wear them and suffered terribly 2 trips ago...DS followed his lead and suffered too.
Also, I keep perscription strength eardrum numbing drops on hand 'just in case', I needed it once for DS.
So far this works for us (with the exception of DH's stuborness) and I've been collecting all the stuff for our trip late in January. Of course, you should probably test all this stuff before you get into the air to make sure no-one has any weird reactions and check with your Dr & Pharmasist to make sure they won't react with anyone's other meds or conflict with any health conditions before taking any medications. I've found that most Pharmasists are more knowledgable about drug interactions than Dr's but the Dr. can tell you if there are any health concerns.
I really hope you all feel better and won't need this stuff.
Have fun