Help... DH doesnt want to go

[Fourfun]

Hi All... I need help... I have planned and payed for a trip to WDW in Aug
staying for 8 nights at the POR... Now I need help convincing my DH..
He said we could go... but now he keeps making tons of excuses... He first said He would go but only if we flew...absoulty NO WAY was he driving to Disney.. It is 19 hours... So I searched and searched and found a good deal on Delta.. I booked and paid them in full.. Then he said the food would be to expensive ... So I told him to look at the menus on Allears and we would decide if we wanted to add the Dining... well.. he looked at all of 3 menus..
I am so frustrated.. I'll I hear is .. I dont want to go.. it will be too hot.. too crowded.. I keep trying to explain.. Yes it is going to be HOT .. but there is a ton of stuff in the ac ... and we can take breaks back at the hotel in the pool... (thats one of the reasons I booked a 9 day trip) he doesnt want to waste 6 vacation days on someplace he doesnt want to go anyway
(he gets 5 weeks) six days barley puts a dent in it..... We live in OH he says if you want to go to a park.. we will just stay at Cedar Point or Kings Island... He doesnt understand how Cool Disney is... he nor the kids have ever been there.... He would rather sit on the beach for 7 days...(did that the last 2 years in a row)......
Sorry for going on and on .. but just wandered if anyone else has had this problem???? And What the Heck do you do About IT ???
(I said he could stay home.... but I Really dont want him to miss the experience either)
Sorry .. I am just SOOOO FRUSTRATED ....

 

[laura001]

Yeah, leave him home and take the kids yourself if that is an option.

Seriously though, it sounds like he really doesn't want to go, although I guess it doesn't matter to him that you want to go. Somewhere there has to be a compromise, like you did his kind of vacation the past few years.

If it is not too hot for him to sit on a beach somewhere else, what is up with doing it at WDW? My DH is no where near into WDW as I am, but he does respect the fact that I am....he does think I am crazy sometimes. I could guarantee you though that if we could afford for me to go more often, we would, that is a fact! I have taken my kids a few times by myself over the years because he was really not into going, BUT our last trip I tried to center it around things that he would like to do.........like the ESPN club, The Boardwalk area, some golf etc. and he had a fabulous time, so much so that we are making our 25th a WDW one. On that one we will do some of the tours and of course take advantage of the Illuminations Cruise, dinner at V & A etc.

I don't know what your DH is into, but perhaps you could find something that he would be interested in, maybe that would help.

 

[First-timer]

wow......... i almost thought my hubby was leading a double life... he was the same way!!! it took me 2 years to talk him into it!!!! then in jan. he finnaly gave in just to shut me up!!! i booked in jan. we went 2 weeks ago!!! it was great we had a blast!!! but he said he probably wont ever go back again......sooooooooo i am taking my kids back myself....... i felt very secure and my kids are 15 and 9 both girls so i know i can do it. ...... and i am from ohio and i am missing disney(since it has been 2 weeks since i left there) so if you need someone to take your hubbys place i guess i can sacrifice a 9 day vacation back to the mouse... so let me know when i should pack my bags.... no but seriously once you get him there he will have a blast!!!! vicki

 

[DLBDS]

We're going at the end of the year. The only way I could get DH to go was to pay for it myself. DH's aren't such DH's. At least mine isn't MOST of the time. I'm having issues with mine at the moment....

 

[maddhatir]

I also love Disney more than DH- however, in sept- it will be our 11th trip. he usually goes with the flow......i would love to go every year- but he says he is "disney-ed out"

so- what i did- i doubled our vacation budget just so that we can afford to take 2 vacations a year- one for him and one for me! but if we happen not to take 2 in a year- there is more money for the next!

this way we dont have to say-- "well we did what YOU wanted to do last year-- its MY turn to pick the vacation!" it is MY warped sence of compromise!

 

[byoung]

My DW doesn't have that problem with me.

 

[ozarkmom]

My DH is always unhappy on vacation, no matter where we go. I really wish he'd just stay home. It really dawned on me reading that post that the kids and I could probably have a better time without him. The thing is if I suggested that he'd be mad and probably hurt.

 

[swillis]

My DH is staying home. He doesn't want to do Disney. It's not his kind of vacation at all. So he told me to take the kids and bring a friend. That's exactly what we are doing in May!!

 

[Unregistered]

Do just like me and leave him at home. I am taking my best friend, my mother, and my 2 sons. Planning on having a WONDERFUL time!!!!

 

[Fourfun]

Thanks.. Maybe your right.... Maybe I will just leave him at home and take my brother or MIL ... Since the trip is already paid for except food I am sure it wont be hard to find someone to go.....I just dont understand how someone wouldnt want to go ... At least once... (next time he isnt invited )
My DS is 17 and he is so excited... and the other DS is 10. Every 10 year old wants to go.......

Thanks Again ... I know we will have a great time ... Even if DH decides to stay home.... (I just want him to go once)

 

[bowlesx3]

My DH HATES going. A couple days he stayed at the hotel while DS and I went to MK. Actually one morning they both stayed and I went by myself, rode Space Mtn (DS is too little) and I looked in all the shops I never get to go into. I had a blast!!!!!!!!!!!!!

I know what you are feeling.

 

[eblack0409]

I would leave him at home....take your kids and enjoy it!

 

[AJKMOM]

Unfortunately, when you check out the DIS, you think everyone must love Disney. But, in the "real world" there are a lot who don't want to ever go "too expensive, too crowded, too hot". No matter when you went, they would have an excuse not to go.

We are a Disney family, so that's not the issue, however, I have taken the kids plenty of times to other places DH didn't want to go, and it was fine. We are still married , still going to Disney, and going without him to places he isn't interested in.

 

[sajetto]

I say leave him at home. You and the kids will have a great time and you'd probably just hear him complaining the whole time if he went

 

[disgram]

I got tired of pleading with DH to go with me. No dice. Finally he paid for me to go with my DD and DGDs. (Think that he was getting tired of hearing me!) We had a great time!!! Now this trip he is paying for and I am going with my DGD and her friend and her family...Not going to miss him at all!!!! Shoot, if he would pay, I would go by myself!!! I am really into Disney and, sadly, he is not. He would rather stay at home and work. Maybe in a couple years he will go with me again but until then, I am going to go and I am going to enjoy the Magic. This Gramma loves Disney!!!!!

 

[Disneynutbsv]

Your dh must be my dh's secret twin. I usually go to DW w/o him. Last time he went was 2003. We are all going this August. I had to be sneaky...I booked it during out anniversary and if he wants to be with me he better go (cause I'll go w/o if he puts up a fuss), but its our 15th and he knows this will be an anniversary to always remember so he's humoring me and I think in a way, looking forward to it...once he gets there, he has a great time!! So, I'm not going to get too nervous about it. If its $$ and food he's worried about, maybe you should do the dining plan. That is what I'm doing so that everything will be paid for. The less dh has to pull out his wallet...the better.

 

[kesha]

My DH isn't a big Disney World Fan either but I have got him there twice. His friends made fun of him going. But after we came back I over heard him telling them that it was nothing like he expected. He really had a good time. Of course he would rather be out west on a hunting trip of some kind. So i go with whoever I can talk in to going (usually my SIL). Hopefully if your DH goes he doesn't ruin the trip for everyone else. I think he will enjoy it if he gives it a chance.

I live in Ohio also, a few hours from Cedar Point. I try to explain to friends that Cedar Point and Disney World are nothing alike. Cedar Point is an amusement park, Disney World is a theme park. I like Cedar Point but I Love Disney World. Thats just my opinion. My daughters would be different.
(She's 27) She hasn't been bitten by the Disney bug yet.

I hope everything works out for you and you have a Great Trip! If your DH keeps giving you a hard time about the trip, go without him. He'll be the one missing out.

 

[momrek06]

I would make sure that DH went along, as in the end you know you really want him there BUT give him some options....do a day at the POOL, if that is what he wants. Do you really want to go all that way for that length of time without him. Think about that! I mean you already have the plane tickets, unlikely you will be able to get a refund on that ticket.

Also there is Blizzard Beach as well as Typhoon Lagoon to consider. How about an evening at DTD to see Cirque Du Soliel, surely he will LOVE that as that is an OUTSTANDING show.

The character breakfasts are so unique, book one of those and he will certainly love that It does not matter what your age is, those characters bring the kid out in ALL of us!!!

The MAGIC you feel as soon as you walk into the KINGDOM is the GREATEST feeling in the WORLD....yup, in DISNEY'S WORLD!!!

 

[pepe of ohio]

My DW doesn't have that problem with me.

No problem in our household, we look for excuses to go, we're both crazy over how much there is to see and do in WDW, and still after 30 some trips and 30 some years. Its even gotten better now that the kids are gone and grown, cheaper because now we multiply by 2 instead of 4 but our daughter and son in law usually go to or meet us there.

DW always wanted to go to Vegas, we don't gamble and I have no inkling to go there, rather have my relaxation at Disney, so I told her to go with her sisters and I'll go to Disney, well, thats not happened yet. We tried the ocean thing, its fun for 2 days, then staring at the water is boring and its in the care looking for something to do. At WDW, everything is there and no car is needed and after you buy tickets you rarely reach in to you wallet for anything besides food.

 

[Fourfun]

Thanks again for all the ideas... (mostly going on our own) I told him today if he goes today ... I wont ask again ... next times the kids and I will be going it alone... Maybe take a friend.... Thanks again

Only 147 days to go.....