Help and your thoughts on this (long!)

[Doooodlebug]

Hi, I am a regular here but re-registered to post annonymously as I am a little confused about what I'm (or could be) going through right now.
I will start from the beginning...

At the start of May I started having some issues with periods etc and basically ended up having a month long period which the Dr prescribed some hormone tablets for as he thought that it was just a normal bleed and to make me more comfortable etc he thought it best to stop it with these, anyway they worked and I took them for 10 days, 3 days after coming off the tablets it started up again and was awfully heavy, so I went back to the Dr and saw a lady Dr with gyne as her specialisung subject. She said that she wondered if it could be a breakthrough bleed, or possibly could be a misscarriage. She also asked me if there was any chance that I was pregnant which I said no to as at the time I thought there was no chance of this. I was sent for a blood test for thyroid function and this all came back as fine so we were thinking that it could just be a hormonal imbalance. She has asked me to come back on the 18th for an internal examination and a smear test.

So anyway last week I was feeling a bit off colour and was sick a couple of times, all be it not in the morning, put it down to just burning the candle at both ends and generally working too hard, but it continued up until Saturday, this is when DH says "you don't think you are pregnant do you?" I hadn't even thought of it until he said and then MIL said the same on Saturday night so they both got me kind of wondering what was going on, so I toddled off to Tesco this morning and bought a twin pack of tests, now here is the bit that has confused me, I took the test and waited the alloted 3 minutes and there was just the control line, so woo hoo I was happy negative result. But then when I have gone back into the bathroom a while later I am convinced that I can see a very faint line in the positive box. I could just be looking at it and seeing something that isn't there but I don't think so. Could this be accurate when I left it for so long - it does say on the box that you shouldn't read the result after the time stated, but I am sure that a false positive is very hard to come by? I am also worried because I have been taking all manor of prescribed pills that could have done harm to any feotus that is there?

I am now completley beside myself as (please don't flame me for this) I don't want any more kids, we already have 2 and they are more than enough, we love them dearly and they are the best thing in our lives and I feel that having another could upset the balance, obviously if I am then I will have to deal with it and get used to the idea. DH and I only ever planned to have two, and I don't think I could cope with it right now as they are both of preschool age too. Plus we have WDW booked for early next year and that will have to be cancelled as I don't think I will be allowed to fly. I am really worried now and feel that if this has happened then I am letting so many people down. I don't feel like I want to talk to anyone in real life about this as I am embarrassed that we have let this happen, I think of myself as being a pretty smart person and to have let this happen is such a dumb thing to do.

If anyone has and advice on this I would appreciate it, I just don't know what to do.

Thank you (and well done if you stuck with me this far!)

 

[Cinderella2006]

Sending you lots of hugs

I posted a similar thread a few months ago ... wish i could find it

I had similar symptoms to yourself, bleeding heavily for three weeks just before Christmas. I felt sick, mild cramps, terrible back pain. I took a pregnancy test after and had a faint line. My doctor confirmed that i had miscarried and sent me home with some tablets. I continued to bleed, maybe a few days break in between but i could of had shares in 'always'!

After nagging my doctors persistently for months i was finally refereed for a scan which showed i had retained the baby, unfortunately mine was a bit more complicated as they found cancer in the womb. I had a D and C, hysteroscopy and a few biopsies.

There are many reasons you may bleed, i know because i had googled my condition so many times before seeing the gyae consultant!

Have you had a hormone test? I think an ultra sound as well as a internal probe would be a good idea, especially if you think there could be the slightest chance of you being pregnant.

If i can help anymore dont hesitate to ask, i am still under my consultant

 

[Head_in_the_clouds]

Wouldn't it have shown up automatically in your blood test if you were pregnant? Also you said you bought a twin pack of pregnancy tests so was one positive and one negative? The first thing you need to do is find out if you definitely are pregnant, I would imagine they would be able to tell you when you go for your internal. Maybe buy a couple of more tests. I remember seeing something where a man kept getting positive pregnancy test results and it was baffling the medical community but obviously he wasn't pregnant, it was an underlying condition! I understand you are worried but until you know for definite, you aren't going to feel any better. Also, don't feel bad or dumb, women are designed to get pregnant lol so you haven't done anything awful and also hubby is part responsible if you do have to cancel your holiday ! As for not really wanting another baby, I do understand but sometimes these things are just meant to be for whatever reason. I was an accident (BTW, if you ARE pregnant, don't do what my parents did and tell the child that you didn't really want any more kids when they came along as it doesn't really do much for the old self-esteem!) and my mum REALLY didn't want anymore children (I'm baby number 5). I have actually turned out to be her best friend and the person she is closest to, she looked at me the other day and said, "I know you weren't planned but you were meant to be here, you know." How young are your other children? If you are worried about whether they would resent a new baby, chances are they if you handle it right, they will love the adventure. If you are worried about how you would cope with three then that is something I'm sure people on the DIS could offer you advice with. What is it that you are particularly worried about with having another? Is it just the holiday that would feel you were letting people down? I'm sure that is the last thing people would think hun. Hugs .

 

[PoppyAnna]

Oh my, I don't where to start but you've asked for opinions and advice, so here goes.

Firstly, I have taken prgnancy tests in the past and what you're describing (the faint line after waiting much longer) has happened to me and I haven't been pregnant. The Nurse at my GP confirmed that you should take the reading at the given time and not too much later. Basically, I think what happens is the urine moistens the paper fully which makes a faint line appear rather than a deeper coloured line caused by the chemical reaction of the pregnancy hormone and the paper.
I think the horrible truth is that if you were to be pregnant there is something not quite right.
You don't mention if you're in any pain? My SIL suffered irregular, pain and heavy prolonged bleeds like this and she was found to have Polycystic ovarian syndrome (PCOS). However, I would say this is more common in women that haven't yet had children.
I also don't know how old you are, could this be the onset of the Menopause? I know you have two preschool children but some women do get early onset Menopause. Is there a history of this in your Mum's family?

You won't be flamed from me about your family balance and the desire to have no more children. This doesn't mean you don't love the ones you have. I think it's very responsible attitude. I feel the same, I have very little family support and DH and I would be tipped over the edge with the pitter patter of tiny feet now. I'm in an odd situation whereby I can't carry another baby but DH and I do get pregnant very easily, so we have to be VERY careful - I really sympathise with you.

If I were you, I'd go back to your GP until your mind is settled.

Best of luck

 

[PoppyAnna]

Sending you lots of hugs

I posted a similar thread a few months ago ... wish i could find it

Here is the thread

 

[Netty]

Hope you get your problems sorted out quickly pregnant or not

 

[Cinderella2006]

Here is the thread

Thanks

 

[jen_uk]

I would do a pregnancy test in the morning as the urine is more concentrated and so if you are pregnant you might get a clearer result.

I hope everything is ok, don't worry about being flamed, everyones situations are different and noone has the right to judge you for making a decision that is right for you.

 

[Doooodlebug]

Oh my, I don't where to start but you've asked for opinions and advice, so here goes.

Firstly, I have taken prgnancy tests in the past and what you're describing (the faint line after waiting much longer) has happened to me and I haven't been pregnant. The Nurse at my GP confirmed that you should take the reading at the given time and not too much later. Basically, I think what happens is the urine moistens the paper fully which makes a faint line appear rather than a deeper coloured line caused by the chemical reaction of the pregnancy hormone and the paper.

Thank you, I must say that your post has really made me feel better, I am wondering if the line could have soaked in, I am 28, so I doubt that it's the menopause, and we have no history of that in our family

We also get pregnant VERY easily, literally twice with our second and the deed was sealed! Which is why I am so wary of it now. DH is sceduling a V, but right now we are only using barriers (don't want to type it incase I get starred!)

 

[mandymouse]

Oh hun, what a worrying time you're going through. I hope the tests you're having done on Thursday make things clearer for you

Take care, and I hope everything works out ok

 

[wideeyes]

The Nurse at my GP confirmed that you should take the reading at the given time and not too much later. Basically, I think what happens is the urine moistens the paper fully which makes a faint line appear rather than a deeper coloured line caused by the chemical reaction of the pregnancy hormone and the paper.

Yes, you shouldn't go back to a test later as it can be given an inaccurate positive, most positive results would show up by 3 minutes and you should discard the test after 10minutes.

I hope you can get some answers from your doctor.

 

[Queenie]

Sorry you're having these problems, *hugs* You have not done anything "dumb" by any means, as said above it takes 2 to tango and we are designed by nature to get pregnant if that is the case. I would never flame anyone for saying they have enough kids as is, both my sis and SIL have 2 kids, both love them dearly but both do NOT want any more thank you very much.

I know that pregnancy tests are really not to be trusted after the alotted time frame, the ones I've used in the past state they musn't be relied on after 10 mins or so. However I would agree with Jen about doing another test in the morning, if only for your own peace of mind. I would also suggest using a different brand of test from the one you used for this result, just in case there's a faulty batch going around.

Hopefully the smear will bring up something conclusive, nothing too serious for your sake. It is not normal for a healthy woman to bleed for a month at a time like you described so if it doesn't I'd persist at the doctors until an explanation can be found.

Remeber people here are always ready to lend an ear

 

[wideeyes]

Thank you, I must say that your post has really made me feel better, I am wondering if the line could have soaked in, I am 28, so I doubt that it's the menopause, and we have no history of that in our family

We also get pregnant VERY easily, literally twice with our second and the deed was sealed! Which is why I am so wary of it now. DH is sceduling a V, but right now we are only using barriers (don't want to type it incase I get starred!)

have you recently come off or started any oral or injective hormone contraceptive, I know that the injection and inplant can sometimes cause abnormal bleeding due to the hormone shift, I know someone who bled for 6 weeks after coming of the injection.

 

[Doooodlebug]

have you recently come off or started any oral or injective hormone contraceptive, I know that the injection and inplant can sometimes cause abnormal bleeding due to the hormone shift, I know someone who bled for 6 weeks after coming of the injection.

No I was taking Norethisterone (sp?) for 10 days to stop the bleeding, I haven't taken the pill since Christmas. I used to have depo shots about 5 years ago but they sent me doo lally so I never went back to that - I also had a 6 week bleed after stopping that so maybe that is common with that?

Thank you all for your answers. You are the best

 

[natalielongstaff]

I think you should go to the docs and see what they think

 

[mushumadness]

hiya if a line appears after the time said its a negative,

if your still worried try another test i a few days

 

[aaronandterri]

i found out i was pg wth no 4 from a faint line afterwards ike that, did it then when i was gonna chuck it away a few hours later noticed the line, next day another was there on a new test.
id test again then just to be sure and put your mind at rest.

blood tests would only test for pregnancy if it was requested, it is not a standard test.

 

[buzz for boys]

First I want to give you a big hug
Then I thouroughly reccomend the new digital tests a little more expensive but well worth it IMHO I worried myself sick recently about was there a blue line or noe basically with these tests it is idiot proof it says in words pregnant or not pregnant!! A major breakthrough if the line is only faint !!
I know exactly how you feel I would be totally besdie myself if I found out i was pregnant again and can only offer you a shoulder !!! Pm me if you need to chat anytime!!

 

[Cinderella2006]

No I was taking Norethisterone (sp?) for 10 days to stop the bleeding, I haven't taken the pill since Christmas. I used to have depo shots about 5 years ago but they sent me doo lally so I never went back to that - I also had a 6 week bleed after stopping that so maybe that is common with that?

Thank you all for your answers. You are the best

I take norethisterone as well as many other cocktail drugs Have they checked your iron levels? Sometimes when you have had a bleed previously and your iron levels are low, that can cause further bleeding. I am not a doctor though and without examining you fully and knowing your past history its hard to diagnose. Good luck with the doctor

 

[joolz1910]

What a worrying time. It is possible to get a positive result, even if you have miscarried. It might be possible that this has happened. I hope you get this sorted out quickly for your own peace of mind.