Health Issues and Family Problems

[pepples22]

Hello all,

I need to vent my post wedding frustrations and your support.

I have only done a weeks work this year; I have been off sick for the rest of the time. I have suffered from stomach cramps and been to A&E twice. I was just diagnosed in the last two weeks with an ovarian cyst over my left ovary (they can't tell me if it is attached to my ovary or not). It measures 10 x 9 x 6 cm - apparently the size of a grapefruit. I am now facing an operation, either keyhole or slicing my stomach open. My stomach blows up to three times the size of my actual tummy. I can't diet or exercise to fit into my wedding dress - I had a goal of losing a couple of inches around my stomach. The Doctor has told me to rest; I am slowly getting bored at home and frustrated. I have my first fitting in the next couple of weeks, when I can bring myself to book it. I can't shop for holiday clothes. The NHS in England is terrible, I am on an urgent waiting list, but it is still taking 4 weeksto my outpatient appointment with the Hospital on 6th March, for a consultant to assess what they are going to do.

My next problem is my finance's dad. He had a small heart attack in December. The doctors could not find evidence of a heart attack. They found he has a heart fibrillation that makes his heart beat faster (He was one of twins and I have researched this is very common). On Monday he goes into hospital to have it fixed, should be out the same day, a really simple procedure. Originally the wedding party was my family (Dad, Mom, Sis and her boyfriend), and his family (Dad, Mum and Sis). All my finance's family have cancelled coming, yesterday due to my finance's Dad not working since December and they can't afford it - which is untrue as they live in a posh house with four very expensive cars AND they can't come to their own son's wedding. I can't understand how to remove his pain and get his parents on the plane to America.

I am looking for opinions on how to handle my finance's parents, bearing in mind they aren't the friendliest people towards me and I still call them by their first names, where my finance has always called my parents Mom and Dad. And I am still on the best behavior at their house to try and impress. I think the problem, is his dad, he has a very anti-american view (he has never been to America). And it is a lot of money. I think he wanted us to have a traditional English wedding. We are not those kinda people.

I really didn't see this happening three months before my wedding. I thought all my problems would be not enough spending money.

 

[TinkBride]

I have had the surgery to remove ovarian cysts 3 times before. yep.....3 times. And one time I had one the size of an orange hanging from my fallopian (sp?) tube.

Just a word of encouragement: The pain from the cysts is worse than the surgery. My only problems after the surgery was the gas they used settled into my shoulder and I couldn't move my shoulder for about a week.

Do not favor one side when you are laying down more than another, because if that gas they use to blow you up settles soemwhere, it is painful. But the surgeries were not bad at all.

If you have any questions feel free to PM me.

 

[myprincessgirlisa]

Im so sorry you have to go thru all this just before your wedding....life sure does like to throw in some curve balls.

Be strong...Ive had "female" issues down below & it s no picnic in the park, but the good thing is it can be fixed.
I think the reason its taking so long to get you in for surgery is cause its not life threatening,,,at least thats how it seems to work around here.
Hang in ther & take it easy...read lots or hang with us on DIS...we love to talk!

As for your FIL, I hope he is feeling better...but it is a shame that he has to be a little difficult.
We americans arent that bad....jerry springer & other shows tend to give us a bad rap...but generally most of us arent bad....its to bad hes quick to judge.
Anyway, most of my & DH family couldnt attend & unfortunately that was their loss...we had a great time.
Its nice to have them present, but things were fine in the end.

Short story:
My coworker recently got married & really pushed for her mom to go(galina,IL)
so she went. When she came back, she was so upset because her mom made it miserable for her....she said she had a sourpuss face & would barley speak to her......no offense to anyone, but I would've rather had her stay at home.

So you just relax, get some rest, dont get upset & just let things happen...just focus on the fact that you and your DF will soon be married & it will be grand!!

 

[mermaidbride1108]

as for the DF's family I have crazy future in-laws too and I can't really give advice on that

I had female issues too all last year and finally feel somewhat recovered but not completely. I was out of work alot too and I hated bein known as the 'sick girl'

I feel your pain but it will get better.

 

[PrincessBride07]

I can't relate to either of your situations. I hope that you get well soon. Here are some hugs for you. (They always make me feel better.)

 

[DisneyBrideWannabe]

Although things are rough right now, everything will work out in the end My advice is to just concentrate on getting better, and worry about wedding stuff after: your health is the most important!!!
I would tell you DF's family that you understand what how hard health problems can be (since you're facing them too), and you hope they can make it b/c it would crush DF if they weren't. Since the wedding is so close, you can't change plans and you hope they realize how important this is to both of you. This is your day and they'll be the ones missing out. You'll be in my thoughts.