Laurabearz
I cant load my bobbin!
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The back story....
The above link gives you a bit of the back story of my brother....
Things have progressed, kinda of sort of. I still have not contacted him, but Rob and I are flying out to L.A. on Weds. to see Adam. Currently Adam only knows that Rob is coming out.
We are wavering about telling him I am coming out becasue we both think there is a good chance Adam wouldnt 'show' himself once we were there, if he knew I was coming too...
Not sure if this is the right choice, but as of now that is the plan. My thoughts are, if I just show up, I have a better chance to talk to him, becasue on the phone, he could hang up and that's the end of it. In person, it is harder to walk away... does that make sense??
This of course needs to we weighed against how mad he will be that both Rob and I lied to him... again, I hope that given the chance, we can explain things from our side of it... I hope we have made the right choice, but who know if there are ANY right choices that can be made in this mess.... ya know.
I also hold an ace card.... which promted this short notice trip....
I found out that the bank that holds our dad's estate has been trying to get in touch with Adam for the past year to give him a check for 6 grand. Something Adam really needs, and hopefully will be thankful for and not blow right away.... anyway, they are letting me deliver it to him.
I cant hold the check for ransom for the tapes, I am not that type of person... but...... I may not tell him about the check until we make our deal for the tapes, so he is still money hungry. I struggle with that... is it moral? But at the same time, my first goal is to secure the tapes. Secondary is the well being of my brother.... I struggle with those feelings to. In a pure heart, my brother would come first, but then again, my heart is damaged from years of abuse from him.... ::::: shrug ::::::
Anyway, if you could send good thoughts to myself and my brother next week it would be wonderful. We both need them.
The above link gives you a bit of the back story of my brother....
Things have progressed, kinda of sort of. I still have not contacted him, but Rob and I are flying out to L.A. on Weds. to see Adam. Currently Adam only knows that Rob is coming out.
We are wavering about telling him I am coming out becasue we both think there is a good chance Adam wouldnt 'show' himself once we were there, if he knew I was coming too...
Not sure if this is the right choice, but as of now that is the plan. My thoughts are, if I just show up, I have a better chance to talk to him, becasue on the phone, he could hang up and that's the end of it. In person, it is harder to walk away... does that make sense??
This of course needs to we weighed against how mad he will be that both Rob and I lied to him... again, I hope that given the chance, we can explain things from our side of it... I hope we have made the right choice, but who know if there are ANY right choices that can be made in this mess.... ya know.
I also hold an ace card.... which promted this short notice trip....
I found out that the bank that holds our dad's estate has been trying to get in touch with Adam for the past year to give him a check for 6 grand. Something Adam really needs, and hopefully will be thankful for and not blow right away.... anyway, they are letting me deliver it to him.
I cant hold the check for ransom for the tapes, I am not that type of person... but...... I may not tell him about the check until we make our deal for the tapes, so he is still money hungry. I struggle with that... is it moral? But at the same time, my first goal is to secure the tapes. Secondary is the well being of my brother.... I struggle with those feelings to. In a pure heart, my brother would come first, but then again, my heart is damaged from years of abuse from him.... ::::: shrug ::::::
Anyway, if you could send good thoughts to myself and my brother next week it would be wonderful. We both need them.
