He Left My Rings & I Beside Myself

[MunFam]

rkwier, I am so sorry you left your rings behind. So heartbreaking.

For the people that are just reading along, I travel a lot for work. I always put all of my jewelry in one of the glass cups that are in the hotel room and then I put the cup in the safe. It helps contain them and then you see it in there.

 

[lillygator]

hope someone turns them in for you!

 

[Aerin75]

OP, I have been where you are (in a way); somehow I took my rings off - my grandmother's diamonds and my wedding ring - for some reason....and haven't seen them since. This was eight years ago. I am heartbroken for you, and I really hope you have better luck in finding them! In my case, I had kept hoping it was in the house or at my office (we looked under my desk many times at my cubicle), but most likely I was way foolish and took them off to eat pizza and left them at a restaurant.
You left them in a safe, which was the smart thing to do! So I agree with everyone else - don't listen to any naysayers! That is the last thing you need!

Best of luck in your search!

 

[canyoncam]

There was a FB page, but I was not even aware of it until we were on the ship. Actually, it never dawned on me to look for one. I thought that I found one yesterday, but the link was invalid.

I was on that page and can post for you. However I think the next cruise or two would be the page you would really want to try. I also think you can fairly easily get onto the main disney cruise FB page (just need to ask) and get it out that way.

 

[kiford]

I left a pair of ruby earrings that DH bought for me in a hotel room and didn't realize it until weeks later. That was about 10 years ago and I still feel the loss of them as he bought them for me when we were still dating so they have a lot of sentimental value. He's never said anything to me about being careless or anything as I'm sure he knows how I feel about having left them behind.

Even if we receive insurance money to cover the loss, those items can never actually be "replaced."

If you do get the insurance money if you aren't able to recover them, it's true that you can never replace them. However, maybe the two of you could go and pick out something new together. I'm sure he feels horrible about it so make the replacement something that is about the two of you together. Pick out something that may have meaning for the both of you or have something made that is personal. While it can never replace what you've lost, it may help to heal the loss a bit and create something new but that is in memory of what has been lost. I still have my fingers crossed that you may recover them; but do remember that even if you don't have the physical items, you will always still have the memories of the people and occasions that they represent. That cannot be lost or taken away.

 

[joyjanet]

I know how you feel. Have faith that whoever finds them will turn them in. I took off my wedding ring when I was working on clay and put it in my wallet. I stopped to pick up milk from Walgreen's and did not realize that it fell out of my wallet. The next day I went to take the ring out of my wallet and it was not there. I tore my purse apart looking for it and decided to call Walgreen's go see if by chance it was there. When the clerk told me she had it and it was in the safe I could not believe it. There are honest people in the world.

 

[rkwier]

1. Ignore everyone's "helpful advice" or "scolding". You can ignore my advice here if you wish.
2. You have experienced a loss of something with emotional attachment. It is ok that it hurts for the time being. It is normal. don't let anyone to tell you to "just get over it". Or "it's just stuff."
3. You will go through a grieving process. This means that, over time, you will get over your loss. You will build new positive memories that overlay the old. You will appreciate what you still do have - your family, your friends, your memories of good times. It won't happen instantly, but it will happen. So give yourself the gift of patience with yourself, forgiveness, even the permission to eventually "let it go". Remember, 95% of the rest of your cruise was amazing, I"ll bet. one day, but not right away, when you look at photos, you'll remember how happy you were in the pictures, what you were doing, the fun you've had, and notice less and less the jewelry you were wearing.
4. One final note -- your willingness to share your story with others is a gift you have given. You have already probably helped someone avoid making a similar mistake in the future. Your loss will help somebody else in the future not have to go through the same thing. It doesn't bring your items back to you, but it is an act of selflessness for others. You might not ever know their gratitude, but I'll bet everyone who reads this post is thinking "I am really, really, really going to make sure that I triple check our safe before we leave our cruise". And at least one person will find something they nearly left behind, and they will have you to thank for it.

I cannot tell you how much it means that you posted this. Thank you for your willingness to allow me to grieve though this trial.

OP, I have been where you are (in a way); somehow I took my rings off - my grandmother's diamonds and my wedding ring - for some reason....and haven't seen them since. This was eight years ago. I am heartbroken for you, and I really hope you have better luck in finding them! In my case, I had kept hoping it was in the house or at my office (we looked under my desk many times at my cubicle), but most likely I was way foolish and took them off to eat pizza and left them at a restaurant.
You left them in a safe, which was the smart thing to do! So I agree with everyone else - don't listen to any naysayers! That is the last thing you need!

Best of luck in your search!

I am so, so sorry that you went through this as well. I would not wish it upon anybody. Thank you for telling me your story.

 

[rkwier]

I want to express my gratitude for all of your care and encouragement through this difficult circumstance. Thank you for recognizing that these rings are not just things, but treasures to my heart. Thank you for granting me permission to grieve instead of judging me. I appreciate those of you who have shared their similar stories as well. I have a very dear friend who was struck with a disease when she was 30. She remains highly medicated in order to control it and it sends her body completely out of whack. I told her one time that I wished that I could take it away from her. She said that she would not want me to because she has been able to see how it has helped others through their trials. Thank you all for being here to help me through my trial. It truly, truly touches my heart. I wish you all only blessings.

 

[ohMom]

Hey don't give up! I lost my phone, not comparison but a newer iPhone and I had pictures from the cruise, personal info, etc on it. I emailed DCL a very descriptive report of my items, where I believe them to be..and it took a few weeks before the call came that it had been located. They fed ex it back to me. All in all it took almost 5 or 6 weeks....I sure hope for you that they are returned

From what I was told, I don't even think they would be at DCL Corporate in Celebration yet

 

[Weedy]

I can totally understand how this happened. The safe is in the closet, in the hallway. It's about hip high, it's about 8 inches high, and 18 deep. It's black and the interior is black. It's hard to see inside the safe. We now use a flash light and look inside to make sure we have everything. I so sorry hopefully you will get your things returned.

 

[anna08]

The safe is in the closet, in the hallway. It's about hip high, it's about 8 inches high, and 18 deep. It's black and the interior is black. It's hard to see inside the safe. We now use a flash light and look inside to make sure we have everything. I so sorry hopefully you will get your things returned.

You said just what I was thinking - it's so low that you have to really bend down to see the interior of it and it's pitch black in there. My DH's wallet blends in completely as does an iPhone with a dark case or a passport even. It's one of those things that is ridiculously positioned and just begging to be an issue for DCL.
You really have prevented so many cruisers from the same outcome and I know you're not alone in your grief in missing those precious items.

 

[Sir William]

The safe is in the closet, in the hallway. It's about hip high, it's about 8 inches high, and 18 deep. It's black and the interior is black. It's hard to see inside the safe. We now use a flash light and look inside to make sure we have everything. I so sorry hopefully you will get your things returned.

I also check the safe with a flashlight. At various times we've almost left behind jewelry, wallet, and phone because we couldn't see them in the dark interior and missed them in a hand sweep. Now I use a flashlight to look into the safe.

As a regular practice when traveling, I check every drawer, shelf, flat surface, closet, electrical sockets, door hook, and safe in our room (hotel or ship) at least 3 times before leaving to make sure nothing is left behind. I also put a post it note on the mirror reminding me about chargers for any electronics.

 

[Expatriat]

All items I put in the safe go into a clear gallon sized ziploc bag first, even if they are in their own little baggie (like my keys and passport) or container. If needed, I use a second gallon ziploc bag. This makes everything easy to locate also. Then on debarkation morning I just grab the bag(s) and go, confident I've left nothing in the safe. I've been doing this for many years.

 

[tnshsms]

I am sorry for your lost to the OP but this has made me think of new ways to put things in my safe. I really like the ideas of bags and glasses to make it all together. Thanks for the tips.

 

[FigmentSpark]

I am sorry for your lost to the OP but this has made me think of new ways to put things in my safe. I really like the ideas of bags and glasses to make it all together. Thanks for the tips.

Also, the idea of a sticky note is a good one. You might even put a sticky note at the front of the safe saying "check the back" as a reminder. Too many things to think about before 8am on disembarkation day.

When I travel, I am paranoid of forgetting my rings and watch in the rush of the morning, so I put my rings on my watch band and attach it to my purse strap or put it in my purse. Of course, that didn't help me the time I left my purse behind. Luckily I remembered it in time to get it back!

 

[socaintexas]

Have you called to ask someone to specifically go to the room and look in the safe? I left my jewelry on a cruise (in the bathroom) but luckily remembered it before we left the port. They would not let me back on but sent someone to look, and he did not find it. A nice lady who worked there went herself for a second look and found my jewelry and returned it to me. It can be easy to overlook if you are not specifically looking for it, and even if you are it can be overlooked (cruisers after you, the room steward, etc). Your ring may still be tucked in there somewhere.

 

[MinnieMouse64]

Any new updates on your rings? I have been following your post. So sorry to hear about your jewelry. I would be calling DCL every week to check on the status.

 

[jerseygal]

I SO HOPE that you get your rings back Maybe some good news by now!!!