Having a bad mommy day

[Mickeyorbust]

Agreed, must be in the water. DD13 in 8th grade informed me last night that she is going to live with her Dad. Because she's not allowed to be herself in my home. All I ask is that she get good grades, which she's not and is on restriction for her last report card. When I replied that she is not going to live with her Dad she had a total melt down and let me know that I better get a Lawyer cause her Dad's going to take me to court for custody.

 

[sunnyday123]

to all the moms!!! It's the hardest thing we'll ever do, and you get no appreciation, until they need you!! I swear my 10 yr old has been pms'ing for the last year and a half!


she can go from this to this in 5 seconds flat!

 

[badblackpug]

I don't know when your school year ends, but around here the threat of "If you don't (pull up your grades, improve your attitude, stop getting reports for talking in class..you name it) you are not going to WDW always works!"

 

[PrincessKsMom]

Agreed, must be in the water. DD13 in 8th grade informed me last night that she is going to live with her Dad. Because she's not allowed to be herself in my home. All I ask is that she get good grades, which she's not and is on restriction for her last report card. When I replied that she is not going to live with her Dad she had a total melt down and let me know that I better get a Lawyer cause her Dad's going to take me to court for custody.

First to OP, thanks for the invite. It's been so long since I've been to a party, that even a pity party sounds like a blast!

To mickeyorbust: call her on it. I have a 12 year old DD, who sometimes likes to play mom and dad against each other (although we're still married). Deep down inside though, she knows who's the one that's always there for her, who makes sure she has everything she needs, always asks about her day, etc. I also speak from the point of view of having been in a divorced family. If that's how she feels, let them both have each other. See how quickly one or the other bails out of their little plan. DH and I were fighting one night and I told him I was leaving. He told me if I went I'd be going without our DD. I said, okay, I call your bluff. Let's see how long you last. You think you want the hassles and headaches, you think you want to be a full time parent, as well as a full time employee, she's all yours. You'll be begging me to come back inside of three months. Right then and there he agreed he could never do it, nor did he want the sole responsibility. I say, let them have each other, while you have a little vacation. Just make sure she knows you love her, and will ALWAYS be available to her, no matter what. Kids are only manipulative if you allow them to be.

 

[jackskellingtonsgirl]

DS12 is right up there with the rest of them.

DH wanted him to have a cell phone (I didn't). We got him one for Valentine's Day. It won't send or accept e-mail or text, we haven't ever set up the voice mail, it is pretty limited on what it can do. BUT it can record audio and it takes pictures. Since he discovered how to use those functions he plays with it relentlessly on weekends. Monday he decided to show it off to his friend at lunch and it got confiscated. Cell phones are a big NO-NO at school, even though all of the kids have them. DH had to pay $15 to get it back. DH was furious, DS was all upset, and the two of them were having a huge fight about it.

DS had a bunch of missing assignments in science a few weeks ago. I pulled out his binder and found every single one. I e-mailed his teacher and he turned in all the work. Luckily she took pity on him and gave him credit for all of it.

He's a smart guy, but he has inattentive ADD so he is kind of flighty. My mom has recently been diagnosed with breast cancer so I think that is distracting him more than he is typically distracted. And there is only a month of school left.

Hang in there, everybody!

 

[jacobsmom]

I can somewhat relate. My DS8 has special needs and there are days when it gets overwhelming and frustrating.... and then....
There are days like today when I have his IEP (school/therapy planning meeting) and afterward will be attending a funeral showing for one of my coworkers sons. He was 20 years old, and hit by a car as he turned into his driveway on sunday. I think of all the ups and downs we have talked about--and how she would give ANYTHING for one more moment as his Mom-----even if it woudl be a "bad" one. Then I remember how blessed I am. We all have rough days, now I realize how good they still are in those times.

 

[momof1princess]

Can I join your pity party????

Here is my sad tale.... I have a 5 month old. No, he does not sleep through the night. No, he doesn't sleep for more than 3 hours at nighttime. I have read a million books. The only things that work to get him to sleep more are all the things the books (and the Dr) say NOT to do. I am at my wit's end.

Unfortunately, your post (and others) are not giving me much hope for the teen/pre-teen years. Maybe by then he will be sleeping through the night?!?!

**Of course, I probably won't be. I'll be too busy worrying about his grades, his school, college, girls (GASP!)****

Thanks for allowing me to let it out! I should feel better for it -- but I don't.

i'm sorry if this is kinda hijacking the thread, but your post really stood out to me. this is just a suggestion that worked for me, which my pediatrician automatically pooh-poohed as ridiculous-mix a few baby spoonfuls (only you know your baby's appetite-give him however much you think will satisfy) of baby cereal and add drops of formula (or breastmilk) while stirring until it has an oatmeal-like texture and feed it to him before bed. when i did this my DD started sleeping 6 hours or more at a time and no, she didn't gain weight or suffer any stomach problems from it. it's an old wives' tale which doctors discount, but it DID work for me, so i just had to share because i KNOW the kind of sleep deprivation you're talking about and my heart goes out to you. i hope that, if this doesn't work, you find something that will very soon.