Having a bad mommy day

[java]

Can I just come and cry for a while. Today is just overwhelming and it seems so small compared to other's sadness today.

Got a disappointing email about my son's science grade right now(a class he aces normally- not so much right now) He is in 8th grade and has checked out in his mind already and it is so upsetting. I have taken away everything I can and offering to help but still nothing. I'm at my wits end.

And then add the other 3 kids on top of it. Minor problems but all on today just seem too much. I'm in a hole.
So welcome to my pity party.

 

[Zeebs]

ahhh kids shame you can't sell them on ebay.......

Hope things get better for you soon.

Kirsten

 

[thegrimdwarf]

You want to come over? Today I'd give DS2 to anyone who happened to come to my door. And I wouldn't worry about what happened to him because he's being so obnoxious they'd return him within 20 minutes.

 

[SharpMomOfTwo]

ahhh kids shame you can't sell them on ebay.......

Hope things get better for you soon.

Kirsten

Yeah really - I'd put my 3 year old up right now - .99$!
Sorry your having such a hard time - I only have a 3 year old and 19 month old. I think my 3 year old is trying to kill me - she just LOVES waking up at 1am and kicking and screaming that she wants to go downstairs, and then stays up down there for 2-4 hours, running around while we just sit there asking her to stop and go back to bed. But shes ok, shes able to take a nice long nap durring the day!!!
Ahhh kids, can't live with them, can't...... oh you know!
Anyway, sorry for what your going though - I'm sure it will get better, I mean, one day he'll get married and be some other womans problem!!!!!

 

[djackow]

8th grade boy- raging hormones- worried about going to high school- worried about girls and friends- needs to challenge everyone-

Sounds like he needs a trip to wdw to bring back the kid in him!

(raised 4 myself- someday things will be better!)

 

[PollyannaMom]

Subscribing partly for any leftover sympathy - have to tell DS7 today that the hermit crab died, and I don't think it's going to be pretty....


But to the OP, I definitely second the PP's comment on 8th grade boys...I'm a substitute teacher, and it's all true! If there's an outsider (not the parent or teacher) available to help with homework, sometimes that is best. - It removes the emotional baggage. An extended family member, a neighbor, someone from church, maybe? Best of luck!

 

[liznboys]

Can I just come and cry for a while. Today is just overwhelming and it seems so small compared to other's sadness today.

Got a disappointing email about my son's science grade right now(a class he aces normally- not so much right now) He is in 8th grade and has checked out in his mind already and it is so upsetting. I have taken away everything I can and offering to help but still nothing. I'm at my wits end.

And then add the other 3 kids on top of it. Minor problems but all on today just seem too much. I'm in a hole.
So welcome to my pity party.

I'm sorry.

I feel for ya, I had a bad mommy day last week...I was about ready to walk out and go to Disney World by myself right then and there. lol

Hang in there!!

 

[kimgof]

I have a 13 yr. old boy myself. Also 7yr old boy and 4 yr old girl. I totally get it. Me and my bestfriend were both having a bad day the other day so after putting the kids to bed we left them with the hubbies and went to a dinner for some comfort dessert and coffee. It was what we both needed. Sometimes we just need a break. There are no vacations for moms. The teenage years are gonna break me. I understand that sometimes you just look at him and think, "who the heck are you and what did you do with the sweet boy that was hear such a short time ago?" Try to remember how tough that age is and how the mood swings are just natural. As long as his grades aren't bottoming out , don't sweat it. Let him know its not acceptable but try not to get too heated, 13 yr olds just don't respond well to that. If you can go out with a girlfriend to vent do that. If not , go out by yourself, window shopping or something like that. It will be better tomorrow....

 

[tmatthews]

Sorry for your sad moments right now....I have a high schooler, a 7th grader, and preschooler as well as teach...!!! What I am seeing in our 8th graders now....they are done...the weather is getting nicer, field trips are coming, some are scared about the changes taking place...going to new school, new friends,graduation etc. They are on top now and soon will be on the bottom of the pecking order! Did you talk to your son? Maybe he truly is having trouble in this area...some like physical science while others prefer life sciences....Otherwise, I would have him stay after for tutoring if possible until his grade comes up. Praise him on his good points and reassure him that he NEEDS to always try his best to get places in life.He needs to be self motivated to do well...maybe he dug himself so much in a hole he can't figure out how to get by himself. Don't take his bad grades personally...I am sure you are a great mother or you wouldn't care!

 

[Captain_Hook]

Can I join your pity party????

Here is my sad tale.... I have a 5 month old. No, he does not sleep through the night. No, he doesn't sleep for more than 3 hours at nighttime. I have read a million books. The only things that work to get him to sleep more are all the things the books (and the Dr) say NOT to do. I am at my wit's end.

Unfortunately, your post (and others) are not giving me much hope for the teen/pre-teen years. Maybe by then he will be sleeping through the night?!?!

**Of course, I probably won't be. I'll be too busy worrying about his grades, his school, college, girls (GASP!)****

Thanks for allowing me to let it out! I should feel better for it -- but I don't.

 

[java]

Thanks for all the support. I knew the mommies here would understand. Some days it is just all out blah. But I know they are few and far between and I am sure the sun will shine tomorrow. Well maybe not sure it will but I will still go to bed optimistic that tomorrow will be better- it has to be. To all of those that are feeling the same way.
I need a movie.

 

[DisneyMomx7]

Been there, done that!

Some days are just "bad mommy" days for all of us.

 

[Crisgw]

Can I just come and cry for a while. Today is just overwhelming and it seems so small compared to other's sadness today.

Got a disappointing email about my son's science grade right now(a class he aces normally- not so much right now) He is in 8th grade and has checked out in his mind already and it is so upsetting. I have taken away everything I can and offering to help but still nothing. I'm at my wits end.

And then add the other 3 kids on top of it. Minor problems but all on today just seem too much. I'm in a hole.
So welcome to my pity party.

Sorry you're having such a bad day We've *ALL* been there....TRUST me on this one.

 

[Debbiebee68]

I tease my husband all the time- telling him I'm selling the kids on ebay when I can not take the constant fighting anymore.
Here is the ad:
2 kids
extra attitude
free accessories
free delivery

I am only kidding- I love my kids more than life, but sometimes they are a handful.

While it is upsetting to have "one of those days", please take comfort in the fact there are legions of moms who sympathize with you and have been in your shoes. It is much healthier to let it out than keep it in. And the next time one of our kids makes us so proud that our hearts want to burst, we'll forget all of the bad stuff, and that is what makes what moms go through worth while!!

Chin up!!! Sending you good wishes!!

 

[Zeebs]

I tease my husband all the time- telling him I'm selling the kids on ebay when I can not take the constant fighting anymore.
Here is the ad:
2 kids
extra attitude
free accessories
free delivery

I am only kidding- I love my kids more than life, but sometimes they are a handful.

While it is upsetting to have "one of those days", please take comfort in the fact there are legions of moms who sympathize with you and have been in your shoes. It is much healthier to let it out than keep it in. And the next time one of our kids makes us so proud that our hearts want to burst, we'll forget all of the bad stuff, and that is what makes what moms go through worth while!!

Chin up!!! Sending you good wishes!!

People always want to take the baby when I say they are a packaged deal they aren't so keen

Kirsten

 

[Katy Belle]

Can I just come and cry for a while. Today is just overwhelming and it seems so small compared to other's sadness today.

Got a disappointing email about my son's science grade right now(a class he aces normally- not so much right now) He is in 8th grade and has checked out in his mind already and it is so upsetting. I have taken away everything I can and offering to help but still nothing. I'm at my wits end.

And then add the other 3 kids on top of it. Minor problems but all on today just seem too much. I'm in a hole.
So welcome to my pity party.

Hugs to you! I'm right there with you. My oldest DS just turned 13, 7th grade. He is soooo bright and he has no applied himself this year at all. He's lost all video game privilages, etc. Ugh. Now he's been out with strep throat...I just know that he'll fall even lower and won't put out the effort to bring his grades up.

On top of that the nurse called and the youngest DS has a fever! Been to the Dr., waiting for strep result!

I feel crummy and have to figure out what to take for "snack" for the other DS to take to Cub Scouts this afternoon! All without leaving the house, which I haven't left since Friday due to sick kiddos!

How's that? I fully joined your pity party!

The sun will shine on all of us soon and these great kiddos will grow up and be great adults
Katy

 

[tink20]

I'll trade you, 8th grade daughter for your son. Ha Ha! We had a bad science grade for her progress report (an E) luckily by the grace of God she pulled it up to a 70 C by report card time. Her teacher gave her some extra credit.
Just hang in there and take some time for yourself. If only its a 20 min. bubble bath or a walk.

 

[hoosiergirl7]

Welcome to the club. I'm dealing with a 4 yo DS who is going on 35!!!! He's become very sassy and mouthy. Not to mention he screams at you and throws a temper tantrum when you tell him to do something he doesn't want to do. It's become a nightmare and I hope he gets over this really soon because I don't know how much longer I can stand it. I love him more than he thinks I do but parenting is really, really hard!!!

 

[Disneygirl26]

Maybe its something in the water lately, I was feeling the same way yesturday my DS10 and DD16 were fighting and arguing so bad that I put them on porch and told them not come back in until they learned to get along like that was really going to work they were out there arguing about whos fought it was that they were out there. DH came home walked right pass them and came in the house and asked me why they were out there I told him they were bonding. I felt so bad that I let two kids the best of me. So if anyone has any suggestions on how to deal with this I sure could use it.

I like the selling them on e-bay but I think instead of selling them I going to pay someone to take them

 

[bzzymom]

a big hug from one stressed out mom to another