Have you kept medical info from spouse or SO?

[lisajl]

Someone I know started having serious issues with depression a couple years back. They kept it from everyone, until it became impossible to keep secret and everyone was noticing symptoms anyway. The symptoms were pretty severe and obvious to most family and friends. They didn't go to the doctor or use any treatment whatsoever, until they were confronted and forced to.
I've learned since then that they were having serious suicidal thoughts.
The treatment worked and they are fantastic today. It could have been so much worse. This person "knew" that things were NOT right, knew that they probably needed treatment, but didn't want to deal with other people finding out, didn't want to admit they needed help. So, yes, I get why someone might keep medical concerns to themself.

All that being said, I was one of the ones who confronted this person and pushed them to the doctor, even went with them, to make sure it was addressed and not brushed under the rug. While I wouldn't "out" your sister, I would have a LONG heart-felt talk with her, let her know how worried you are about HER (not just her driving abilities/safety). She needs to find out what is going on. It could be just a "little" thing, but it could be something much more serious and I think she really needs a push from someone who loves her and cares about her.

Thank you.

 

[Disney Doll]

No I have not.
He is my spouse. If some thing happened to me where I was not coherent, they would go to him for medical decisions so he needs to know what he's working with.

 

[Gigi22]

Where I live, if you suffer from a medical condition that causes unconsciousness, your doctor is required by law to report it--and you lose your driver's license, at least for a number of months. Happened to my mom, who had a major stroke, and lost her license.

 

[barkley]

as to the original question-no, i do not keep these things from my husband for a variety of reasons including if i were to need emergency medical care and could not provide the information myself i want him to have the appropriate information and knowledge.

as to the situation presented by the op-i would be looking into how to make a complaint to the dmv. reason being is i lost a friend and her young toddler due to an individual who had 'black outs' driving his car and causing an accident which sheared off the top of my friends volkswagen as well as the passengers inside. family members knew of his condition but felt it was'nt thier place to get involved i also lived up until recently in a town where 10 young children were mowed down by a driver at a school crossing (2 of the children were killed), and again it was a driver who had siezure issues that his family did'nt feel it was their place to contact the dmv ('his ability to drive meant so much to him, we figured he would try to be extra careful if he felt a blackout coming on)

 

[tlbwriter]

Yes, up until a few weeks ago, DH didnt know how frequent/bad my seizures had become in the last year(since they mostly happened at work). And until this evening he had no idea that I have also become suicidal. He got into the medicine drawer and started questioning me about all the antidepressants I was on and why.

Its simple, he worries enough about me. No need to worry him more.

What if you'd had a reaction to one of those antidepressants, or if anything else happened, and your husband was asked what medications you were on? He wouldn't have the right answer.