Have you ever threatened to throw a teen out of the house?

[njmom47]

I've posted already!

 

[marcyinPA]

I have told DS15 that if he doesn't like our rules and believes he knows everything, that on the day he turns 18, he is more than welcome to leave and support himself and make his own rules. I meant that.

Doesn't mean that I don't love him. Doesn't mean that that's the outcome I want to see happen.

No two kids, no two parents are the same. I wouldn't make a judgment about either until I've walked a mile in their shoes.

Same here.

I've also pulled over in the car and told him he can walk home (less than a mile) when he was giving me grief and wouldn't let up. Sorry, but I will not be spoken to that way, and if you can't control it, you need to get out and walk. He's almost 16...the walk won't kill him.
BTW, I have a "good kid" too...he's great actually. But even good kids do stupid things and can be PITA's sometimes.

 

[Missy1961]

Once again, a newbie bumps up an old thread.

 

[LisaNJ25]

yep!! I have a 18yo son who is a high school senior. I had told him that a few times. He does horrible in school, will not go to college. I have been after him to get a job for over a year. He just got his license in October and now has a car. He was told he is responsible for the car insurance. Hard to do without a job. He has lied about filling out applications. The final straw was earlier this week and I told him the car was being taken away today. Than he got a phone call yesterday about a job. He just has to go for a physical next week and it looks like his is in.

Overall he is a good kid but just has no motivation. I am hoping this job will be a wake up call for him.. when he has to leave to head to work at 4:30 every morning I am hoping he will decide to hear to college or a trade school next year.

I moved out of my parents home when I was 17.

 

[Jedana]

My now 17 year old was saying (pretty much constantly, anytime we told her to do something thta she didn't want to do) "you know, I'll be 18 in July, and I graduate in June. I can leave whenever I want.". She was making us both soooo irritated with this crud. So...

The last time she said it, I told her she can go. I wouldn't stop her, I'd even help carry her stuff outside. However, I told her, the money stops. There will be no graduation bbq, no $$ for prom hair/nails/grad bash, etc. She would need to find a job (she's been trying, but around where we are--it is bad--people with masters degrees are working at the mall and walmart) so she could fend for herself. It would be just like it is for DD1--who gets a small amount of $ on her bday and Christmas (usually $50 for her Bday and around 100-150 for Christmas).

She was like no no no, I need the bbq and money. I told her if she made that comment about leaving again, that she WOULD be going, because I wasn't going to tolerate her attitude. It is affecting DS (he is starting to pick up her bad attitude and habits, and I am NOT going to go through that with a 7 year old boy).

In fact, she is grounded until next Friday--no one comes over and she is only allowed out for grad bash (and truthfully, if I hadn't paid $150 for it already, she wouldn't be going to it), because she didn't do the kitchen right. (I mean, she left dirty dishes unwashed, didn't wipe down counters and didn't sweep--because her boyfriend was here and she wanted to go over to her friend's house--the one that will let her live there if she leaves here).

this is a sticking point with me. I expect that things be done correctly. I'm not saying that they have to be done any certain way, just that they be done. If the kitchen is done, that includes all the dishes, counters and floors. If the bathroom is done, taht includes the tub, sink, counter, toilet (all the way from top to floor) and floors. No half-a**ing them. EDIT: this has been a battle with her for the last few months. I know she has "senioritis" and feels that she is grownup, but this is my home, and things will be done. It's not let she didn't do it correctly just once, and then we're punishing her.

I don't care if she is almost an adult--until she is paying rent in my house, she will follow my rules. If she wants to pay rent, well, then we'll work out a lease agreement and we'll go from there.
I am the meanest mom EVER!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!