Have you ever lived alone for a while?

[Dug720]

Since I finished my MTS in 1999.

 

[mrsstats79]

No, never. Got married at 18, this year I will be married 55 years. Never lived alone.

 

[georgina]

Yes, my last year and a half of college I had my own apartment, then for 2 years after graduating I also lived alone.

 

[tvguy]

No, never lived alone. I know some people thrive on being alone, and others need people around. During the pandemic I was surprised by the number of my co-workers who were "forced" to work from home and were in living situations where their significant other or room mates were still working in the office. They really had issues with being alone just for 8 or 9 hours that their housemate was at work. My company provided counselors for those folks. In the ultimate twist, the counselors only met with people virtually, no in person because of the pandemic..

 

[neverlandsky]

Nope, never. However, I do enjoy my alone time.

 

[fla4fun]

Yep, living alone now and don’t see that changing anytime in the future. It’s not what I would choose, but I am okay with it. I miss having someone to bounce ideas off of when things need to be repaired and I miss having the emotional support when things aren’t going well. I hate riding out hurricanes on my own!

 

[shh]

I have an irrational fear of it, from a nighttime security perspective. I've watched too many Dateline episodes, crime dramas and horror movies, I guess. Every sound at night would make my heart jump.

If I could get past that stupid fear/anxiety, I'd probably be a bit lonely, but ok

 

[BlueStarryHat]

I have never lived alone. My mother and I chose to live together after my dad passed, splitting the bills and rent. Plus, she was my best friend. It never would have occurred to me to want to get my own place even though I could afford it at the time. After she died in 2006 my nephew moved in to help with the bills because by that time I'd become disabled and could no longer afford the house by myself. In 2008, I made the decision to give up the house and move in with my aunt and uncle here.

I spend vast swathes of time alone, and I enjoy it. I have a fantasy of living in perhaps a tiny home on my own sometimes, but financially it isn't likely to happen. Most likely when the time comes I'll have to move back to the city with either my sister or one of her kids, probably my nephew.

 

[3rd_time_the_charm]

My second husband was stationed in Korea for a year two months after we married. I was 22 and he was 30.

27 years later we are divorcing and I live alone when EK is with him and my SO isn’t around. I love my alone time. Jammie’s, Netflix, and DoorDash. I had to get used to it, but very happy.

 

[AustinTink]

I lived alone after college graduation and during my first job. I had the cutest little apartment within walking distance of work. After living alone about half a year, a cute boy showed up on my doorstep with all his belongings and asked if he could stay with me…and I never lived alone another day. Married him.

 

[ClaraOswald]

I lived alone for a year and a half in college in a very tiny apartment. I really enjoyed it.

I went from my parents' house to the dorms in college to a house with roommates. Then the 1.5 years I lived alone. Then I lived with my fiance who is now my husband of 18 years.

 

[AnnaS]

Now, coming on 7 months soon since my DH passed. I went from my parent's home to marriage (would have been 42 years next month). I miss his company, the talks, the arguing/nagging, support, the help, all of it. I am not afraid of being alone but miss him and our future plans together and with my family.

I am tired of the work outside. I try to do as much as I can on my own but there are little things where I do ask my sons for a hand/help. It's all on me now to decide everything. A new life to adjust to.

 

[disykat]

Even though I was single for many years, I really only lived alone for a 9 month lease my first place after college. Once I was settled and met people I got roommates. Other than that brief time I had various roommates from the time I left home for college until I got married at 29. It was about saving money and also about community. There were some not so great moments, but overall I've always enjoyed having people around. If DH dies before me I can totally see myself in some sort of Golden Girl situation or moving into a senior community with lots of socialization opportunities.

 

[shh]

Now, coming on 7 months soon since my DH passed. I went from my parent's home to marriage (would have been 42 years next month). I miss his company, the talks, the arguing/nagging, support, the help, all of it. I am not afraid of being alone but miss him and our future plans together and with my family.

I am tired of the work outside. I try to do as much as I can on my own but there are little things where I do ask my sons for a hand/help. It's all on me now to decide everything. A new life to adjust to.

It's very different being alone for a stretch of time, knowing you still live with someone or they're coming back eventually - which can actually be enjoyable....versus living alone without a choice - after you tragically lose someone you loved.

Ginormous difference.

 

[kyton]

I bought my first home at 24. Didn’t move in with my boyfriend (now husband) until we were engaged at 32. We had rules that he could sleep over Fri/ Sat/Sun but the rest of the week I was alone in my house.

It was bliss LOL.

 

[AnnaS]

It's very different being alone for a stretch of time, knowing you still live with someone or they're coming back eventually - which can actually be enjoyable....versus living alone without a choice - after you tragically lose someone you loved.

Ginormous difference.

Yes. 100%.
Trying to keep myself occupied and force myself to do things/distraction.

 

[LuvOrlando]

Sad for those of you adjusting to this in a state of grief

 

[PrincessShmoo]

Have you ever lived alone for a while?​

Yes, for about 5 years.

 

[Micca]

DW and I lived apart from each other due to work for a couple of years. So we were alone, but we still had daily contact. This was not good for me, but I recovered after we were back together again. I don't relish the thought of living alone, but if "together" isn't with DW, not sure how that would go, hope I don't need to find out.

 

[slo]

I have never lived alone.
I stayed home for college and got my degree from the local college.
I stayed home until I got married at 23yrs old.
The most alone I’ve been is when DH has traveled for work, and that was just one or two nights.