have you ever invitied 1 person and they bring everyone??

[mrFDNY]

hi all,
my folks are legally seperated.my mom lives out of state,anyway its been a while since see has seen me and my son, her grandson.so anyway i invitied her to come with us to wdw in feb.so now she is comming along with my other 2 aunts,2 husbands,and 6 cousins.and one of my aunts has inviting her neighbors,who is bringing 7 people with them?????????????so instead of us being 4 people,me,dw and ds with my mom=4.it's gonna be the 21 of us??????????????what to do.i don't even know the 7 neighbors family comming,never met them before.i feel strange going to wdw with 7 people i have never met before..how am i gonna fit/sneak 21 people in a room at pop??ok the last commet was a joke,but the rest is real.

 

[Chicago526]

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That's just weird! The aunts I can see (although you mom should have asked first). But why would the aun't neighbors want to have t-day with strangers?

Edit: Opps! I thought you were talking about Thanksgiving Dinner, not a trip to WDW!!!

This is even weirder then!!! WOW!

Well, in that case, I'd make my own vacation plans with Mom, and if it matches up with the Aunts and the rest of the "gang" and what they are doing, fine, the more the merrier. If not, oh well, have fun without us!

 

[SplshMtn99]

I have a sister-in-law who is famous for this kind of stuff.

Back when we had a house warming party, we invited immediate family only due to having limited space. She brought along a cousin & an uncles girlfriend.

????

Now I always make a point of asking her exactly how many are coming....and I think she gets the drift.

 

[agnes!]

I have a few words of advice for you....
Just Say NO.
*Really*. Even if you have to get these other people's phone numbers and dis-invite them, do it. This WDW/February vacation is for you and your family. You graciously invited your mother to come along, not the entire universe. Do all these people think that *you* are somehow putting them up or footing the bills?
I'm sure your mom is a generous woman who loves her relatives and just wants to see everybody be happy and someone who's going through an incredibly rough time right now. That being said, this trip (as it stands now) with all the various people tagging along?...will probably be spelled "disaster".
Let all these people plan their own trips.

Best of luck. Let us know how is turns out.
agnes!
PS - Sorry if I might sound harsh, don't mean to be.

 

[Wishing on a star]

I agree. That is just wierd!!!

I have to say that, if it were me, I would definately put the brakes on the whole thing now. Time and money for a trip to Disney are far too precious. I simply could not justify spending that valuable time and money to be dealing with half dozen people that I do not even know. (Unless maybe you do have that kind of time and money to throw around???)

I would definately speak with my mother, and change plans, now, ASAP, before there are even more people involved, and non-refundable deposits, etc.!!!!

Hey, and just wait until all the squabbling over all the details begins!!! You don't even wanna go there!!!

We know you're a big tough FDNY, right... You can handle it!!!

 

[Shugardrawers]

Hmmm my first question is do they expect YOU to pay for them all?? If not then for me it's the more the merrier if they can all figure out their own reservations, tickets and transport etc. If they do, well, that's a whole other banana. Unless you are independantly wealthy (and if so can i come too? Just me and sister. and nephew. and husband. ooooh and my friend.)

Anyway, what I am getting at is this. It sounds like your mom's excitement is infectious but most people can't just make a spontaneous trip to WDW without a good amount of time to save and plan. If she's telling them the trip's on you then she really does need a trip, to a Dr.

 

[FionaLovesShrek]

I agree with telling them no. We had a similar situation happen at my brother's going away get together (he was sent to Iraq last July). MB (Middle Brother) has 5 teenage kids. DB's (Dear Brother's) wife invited MB and family to stay with them. They live 3 hours away. However MB shows up with not only his 5 kids, but all their boyfriends and girlfriends! DB's wife said "NO!, you cannot stay here now. I will not allow my children to see your children sleeping with their 'friends'! MB got angry. What? Like bringing extra univited kids to a family get together is right? And hello, your kids are 14,15 and 17. They have no business sleeping with their 'friends'!
Some folks just have no clue!

 

[mrFDNY]

hi all,
no they all are very well aware i am not paying for anybody! my mom,aunt and uncle with my cousin are staying at cbr along with me,the only thing i'm geeting them is a annual pass holder discount thru me.the rest are looking at pop or off site.its not in writting yet as they are just looking and have not booked yet.as for the wealthy part i work for the city of n.y. need i say more.

 

[Wishing on a star]

Even if they are making their own plans...

They are crashing YOUR family vacation.
If they want to make their own plans, let them go whenever they want to.

Your mother needs to understand that it will be just the immediate family, otherwise, the trip is off.

You invited her to come with you.
If she wants to go to WDW with all these other people. Then, she is free to do that, at any other time.

 

[EthansMom]

From my own experience, going to WDW with a LARGE group is a pain! Personally, I would tell Mom, "It's great that everyone wants to go, but we were hoping for a quiet vacation with you and our family."

Also, you may have problems booking the Annual Pass Discount through the Best Rate Program for more than one room. For our trip in Dec., we booked one room with my AP and one room with DH's AP since my Mom and StepDad will be meeting us.

If everyone does come, don't handle anyone else's money/reservations. Just let them know the numbers, dates, etc. to call to book their own reservations and purchase tickets. Don't attempt to go to the parks with everyone together -- I've done MK with 15 of the in-laws and I would rather have a root canal. Do make some ADRs for your entire group for a few dinners -- it's far easier to reduce the number of diners on your ADR then to add to it. Don't consult everyone else about their wishes. Do what you want and let them know your cell phone number if they want to meet you later.

 

[mrFDNY]

hi all,
i have made it very clear that we will not be touring with anyone else,they will have to tour wdw with us.i have made plans of which parks,which day.so anyone coming will follow my plans or go thier seperate ways!not to sound bad but,i mean if someone has a certain ride they wanna do,no problem but my mom and aunt/uncle cousin trust me to plan all the days.they know who the disney expert is and will follow my plans,anyone else is stuck with my plans or can do thier own thing if they want.i have made it clear that i have already made ADR's reserving with 7 people and will contine to do so.so anyone else that wants to eat with us will have to plan/call disney dinning on thier own.i will not plan anyone else trip,specially if i don't know them.they are stuck with my plans or can do thier own thing!!as for the rest of this my mom only invited her sister and her husband to come and yes she did ask me first is it was ok,which i said was fine,they inviting the other sister who inviting the neighbors.my mom really feels bad about this,but like me does not have the heart to tell everyone else no!if they want to come it's gonna be my way or the highway.i'll plan for me and my mom,everyone else will have to plan themselves and make thier own adr's or anything else!also my trip and my mom with my aunt/uncle and cousin is the only one already confirmed with disney the rest have not even booked yet.so it is a possibality they won't even be comming anyway!I'm just a little nervous and have to get it off my chest!hope all have a great day!!!

mrFDNY