hateful posts

[maxiesmom]

I don't know what is going on over at the TPA&S board today, but you can tell the spirit of Christmas is gone!

All anyone over there is doing is trashing other posters, or complaining about other park goers. Multiple posts bashing people who are on ECVs, complaining that they are cheaters, fat, and need to sit in the back as to not block anyone else's view. One guy braging on how he got in when the park was full. Only obnoxious when you realize he had posted before on how he was going to sue Disney if they didn't let him in.

One poor single mom took her kid to the bathroom at CM, only to come back to her table cleared. And to make matters worse, the waitress loudly proclaims that they thought she had walked out on her bill, and they had already put it on her room. Along with a nasty note on how she was a walk-out. When the OP posted about it, she was pilled on about how she should have waited and informed her waitress that she was taking her kid potty. In hindsight, she could have left a note, or told another table, but she didn't think of it. And all anyone can do is tell her how wrong she was to leave her table to take her kid to the bathroom.

So much hatred over on that board today. What is wrong with people? Does it take too much effort to be nice?

 

[Mayl]

The main issue is that someone posts a topic and they fully expect virtual hugs and 20 other posts saying how the OP was perfectly right in whatever the topic was.

The reality is that many folks see thing differently, or have had real life experiences of a different sort. Now the "tone" of the post might not be the greatest, but the minute the OP does not get silly smiley face icons and group hugs, people assume they are getting bashed. They don't want to even think about another point of view or that they might be wrong.

Now the two posts you spoke of, well I can totally see a different point on the Chef Mickey one. The ECV is such a hot button. Anyway, I don't see a majority of those posts as mean. I expect people to debate posts.

 

[OhMari]

Could be alcohol. I know I am not a drinker and my dad made me an "ole fashion" yesterday. It nearly knocked my socks off. Today, I am grumpy, sort of depressed. People think drinking makes them happy, but in truth it is a depressant, so maybe folks are just taking it out on the boards today.

 

[NEVERENOUGHWDW]

to the OP of this board. I think putting both those topics on one post is really apples & oranges.

What I am thinking is why wouldn't you post your thoughts on those particular threads?

 

[Kath2003]

Does it take too much effort to be nice?

I know. People really need to learn the art of indifference....

(courtesy of the nice people at despair.com

 

[OceanAnnie]

That's pretty wild about CM! Did they make it right for that mom? I hope so. Misunderstandings happen. But when you add emotions/attitude to the mix it's harder to solve the problem. I'm wondering if the posters have any insight/hindsight for the waitress that jumped to conclusions? "Surprising" (not really) it was only offerred to the mom. Sad.

 

[02bBarbie]

One poor single mom took her kid to the bathroom at CM, only to come back to her table cleared. And to make matters worse, the waitress loudly proclaims that they thought she had walked out on her bill, and they had already put it on her room. Along with a nasty note on how she was a walk-out. When the OP posted about it, she was pilled on about how she should have waited and informed her waitress that she was taking her kid potty. In hindsight, she could have left a note, or told another table, but she didn't think of it. And all anyone can do is tell her how wrong she was to leave her table to take her kid to the bathroom.

You conveniently left out the part where she was gone for 15 minutes. Just thought I'd nicely mention that.

Oh, I'm not sure, but I don't think any of us actually saw the note that was left about being a walk out. I think the OP stated that: "When I got my room bill at check out it showed my Chef Mickey bill with a note "WALK-OUT" and a few lines below there was a reverse on it." That's not nasty, that's just a code the restaurant uses. Talk about reading too much into things.

 

[meandtheguys2]

You know, a link would be useful!

 

[Dana49]

Now it's starting to get a little grumpy here. Let's all have a group hug and start over.

 

[02bBarbie]

You know, a link would be useful!

Since it is the season of giving I give you this:

http://www.disboards.com/showthread.php?t=1667575

 

[meandtheguys2]

Since it is the season of giving I give you this:

http://www.disboards.com/showthread.php?t=1667575

why, thank you!

 

[Laugh O. Grams]

Man...the tolerance for pain is a lot lower over on the Restaurant Board that it is here!! In the amount of time it took for that woman to take her kid to the restroom and get back to the table to be accused of walking out on her tab, the gang from the Community Board got that bad boy closed!

 

[D&DDisney]

I have to agree with the OP. There has been a lot of hateful posts lately.
In fact, I think there is a group of posters who just live for starting trouble. I encountered them once on the Budget Board and thought it was just me. However, after doing some searching, I've noticed their names on many threads that were eventually locked. Coincidence...I think not.
I hope the moderators are keeping a running log of their postings.

 

[sewer]

The main issue is that someone posts a topic and they fully expect virtual hugs and 20 other posts saying how the OP was perfectly right in whatever the topic was.

The reality is that many folks see thing differently, or have had real life experiences of a different sort. Now the "tone" of the post might not be the greatest, but the minute the OP does not get silly smiley face icons and group hugs, people assume they are getting bashed. They don't want to even think about another point of view or that they might be wrong.

Now the two posts you spoke of, well I can totally see a different point on the Chef Mickey one. The ECV is such a hot button. Anyway, I don't see a majority of those posts as mean. I expect people to debate posts.

Very well stated! There are more that a few posters that have virtual "thin skins".

 

[NYBlue1]

If you have ever had a bad experience with an ECV group I can tell you it can bring out the worse in even the most reasonable of people. I just came back from the world and had an experience where after waiting 20 minutes for a resort bus a family of 15 plus the EVC user just pulled around the line as the bus pulled up and loaded the EVC, which I have ZERO problem ever waiting for, and the entire young healthy family took up all the first seating area in the bus.

My family which consisted of two 80 year olds , my 4 year old triplets, along with everyone else that was elderly or had small kids, stood or smashed into the back of the bus.

I believe in EVCers and wheelchair users should get some extra special attention and privledge, thank the good lord im not one of them HOWEVER the entire clan does not need to get the treatment and to add insult to injury laugh about how they have seats as the hot and tired rest of the folks squish past the,.

I have always shook my head at those that condem and complain about the EVCs, I understand why now.

 

[meandtheguys2]

I do think disney needs to abide by their rules re. the number of people with an ecv. OTOH, last trip, we waited for more than 2 buses on more than two occasions, with broken ramps, etc. Each occasion took at least an hour. Then people who just walked up to the bus stop (BWV) gave us nasty looks as we (we are a group of 6 total) boarded finally with my mom.

 

[maxiesmom]

FYI I did post my thoughts on the threads I spoke of. For some reason, they are really getting to me. Maybe I just thought the Christmas spirit should linger on into today. The ones about the ECVs I find plain offensive. And the one about the woman taking her kid to the bathroom, and finding her table cleared, well I learned something from that that I can use. But she seems to be taking a lot of heat for an honest mistake on her part. I would be upset if I came back and found my table cleared too! But I can see too how that 15 minutes is a long time in the wait-staffs eyes.

Can't we all just disagree nicely? Can't we all just be a little more understanding?

 

[Mayl]

Speaking of that, my FIL is heavy and has a few medical conditions. He got a scooter to get around and has special boarding passes on Southwest to get on first.

My wife and I with two kids under 10 refused to "cut the line" or anything when traveling with him. I have no issues with him needing the assistance, but I be darned if my family is jumping ahead of others due to it.

It makes me feel very awkward doing that, and to be honest, WE don't need it, just him. We are not sitting with him on the plane, my MIL. At Disney, we can catch up at the end of the show/ride and move to the next one. He has no problem waiting for us as he people watches. So I do get P.O'ed when one ECV person has a train of 10 in tow.

 

[meandtheguys2]

LOL, I read the thread re. the mom and the restroom break. I remember bathroom emergencies with my kids. I would never have known it would take 15 minutes, because I didn't usually know that it was an emergency until after the fact!

I think I would have just been embarassed in the situation. ANd whenI am embarassed, I don't tend to get mad, I tend to apologize. I've known many people, woul would immedicately go on the defense or offense in that situation. Which is probably what most of the issue was for all three participants in that particular situation.

 

[OceanAnnie]

OT- Responding to ECVs. It doesn't bother me at all if there is a "party" with those that use ECVs. I do get bothered by able bodied people that "sneak" right up to the front of the line when many people have obviously been waiting. I'm referring to buses at WDW.

I've seen people hide behind structures and peak around to see if the coast is clear (several times) to board, send their children ahead to "act" sorry to have to get on with them. There are many clever ways people have devised for getting ahead of others. Crazy.