has anyone gotten divorced to move to FL?

[lookingforward]

Take each issue seperately. If the marriage is broken then leave. But make sure the "broken" part is a true assessment of the marraige and not the thought that something better is waiting.

THEN...if the new guy is still there when you extract yourself from the broken marriage then give it a shot. The two must be seperate issues for clarity and for fairness.

I do agree with Carrie though....live the best life you can manage. Be happy and be true to yourself.

 

[acm563]

****disclaimer*** for anyone who might not know Carrie and I are friends which is why I can disagree with her...hahahh I looked at what I wrote and thought someone that doesnt know us might misunderstand that so I thought I would clarify

 

[Carrieannew]

****disclaimer*** for anyone who might not know Carrie and I are friends which is why I can disagree with her...hahahh I looked at what I wrote and thought someone that doesnt know us might misunderstand that so I thought I would clarify

who are u

 

[acm563]

who are u

IDK...I thought YOU did.....

 

[Carrieannew]

IDK...I thought YOU did.....

All I'm sayin is live for the moment. Do it.

End quote.

 

[goofy4tink]

Sometimes, it's just easier to walk away, and move on to something that looks 'better'. I know this, I've been there. My first marriage wasn't all that terrific, but I stayed. Then, I met someone, far away from home, and thought it was so much better than what I had at home. Thank heavens I didn't make a move....I was living in lala land. Now, I did leave the marriage a few years later, and have been happily married for 18 years. I did have 9 year span in between..yes, it was filled with my now dh (took him awhile to commit!!). But, would my first marriage have worked out, if I had stayed? Maybe. It was comfortable, if unexciting. Perhaps if we had worked at it, made an honest effort, it would have survived. But, as usual, hindsight is 20/20. I'm happy now, my ex is happier now. We both remarried, and had another child each.
Is this what the OP 'should' do? Not neccesarily. As long as you can honestly say that you have done all you can do, to keep the marriage together, then fine, make the move. But realize....it will cause damage to the child. You may think it won't but it will. Unless you are leaving an abusive situation, your child will have some lasting issues regarding a move, on the mother's part, to a state 1300 miles away. I know, there will be some that will disagree. That's okay. But, life, and marriage, isn't all about what's easiest or the most fun.

 

[lookingforward]

Sometimes, it's just easier to walk away, and move on to something that looks 'better'. I know this, I've been there. My first marriage wasn't all that terrific, but I stayed. Then, I met someone, far away from home, and thought it was so much better than what I had at home. Thank heavens I didn't make a move....I was living in lala land. Now, I did leave the marriage a few years later, and have been happily married for 18 years. I did have 9 year span in between..yes, it was filled with my now dh (took him awhile to commit!!). But, would my first marriage have worked out, if I had stayed? Maybe. It was comfortable, if unexciting. Perhaps if we had worked at it, made an honest effort, it would have survived. But, as usual, hindsight is 20/20. I'm happy now, my ex is happier now. We both remarried, and had another child each.
Is this what the OP 'should' do? Not neccesarily. As long as you can honestly say that you have done all you can do, to keep the marriage together, then fine, make the move. But realize....it will cause damage to the child. You may think it won't but it will. Unless you are leaving an abusive situation, your child will have some lasting issues regarding a move, on the mother's part, to a state 1300 miles away. I know, there will be some that will disagree. That's okay. But, life, and marriage, isn't all about what's easiest or the most fun.

I totally agree. Great advice!

 

[ObsessedwiththeMouse]

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[brittsmum1998]

Do you have a teenage boy or am I mistaken?

 

[Loverly]

When I was here in Sept I met someone and now not sure where my feelings lie - right now Im thinking definately down here. .

That was only two months ago!

And what about your son?

 

[brittsmum1998]

I'm sorry but I have to chime in again. You said upwards in this post that you are hitting WDW every OTHER day...thats like a DVC vacation to me (one day in the parks one day out) I'm not sure you can still say you aren't "there"

I really think you should step back and think about this.

 

[Nie0214]

You need to take things separately. If your marriage isn't working, you need to sit down and figure out if you want to work for it or if it's beyond repair. If you decide to go through with a divorce, after that you need to rebuild and learn how to be on your own again before you can consider being with someone else. Just judging by you saying you need support to move down there shows that you really need to learn how to live with yourself.

Running away with someone you met two months ago while married isn't going to work. The real world isn't a fairy tale, sorry to say.

 

[leelip1982]

Dont Move To Florida. Im A Native And The Crime Is Out Of Control. Orlando Is In The Top 10 In The United States.



Dont Move To Florida

 

[brittsmum1998]

Dont Move To Florida. Im A Native And The Crime Is Out Of Control. Orlando Is In The Top 10 In The United States.



Dont Move To Florida

Another good reason to stay 'on property' when at Disney. I never realized the crime until we stayed outside the park at the Vistana and realized Orlando had their own 'MOST WANTED' station 24 hours per day

Hopefully the OP will add this to the numerous list of reasons why she SHOULD not move to Orlando.