Has anyone ever pulled this off? Ditching DH? LOL

I have taken my kids many times without my husband. He's a pain in the neck and high maintenance. We have a much better time without him.:):)
 
Toffeewoffy, yes...yes he is a HUGE pain and thinks the world is the problem, not him. Seriously. He can't get from point A to B without finding fault, having an issue, a complaint.

He's just old and grumpy, set in his ways and doesn't want to have to sacrifice his (annoying) habits and rituals.

We obviously have serious marriage issues. But that's for another post...;)

(I am so sorry about your brother).

KRISMANDA- same here. I like to get on the go and my husband has a whole bathroom routine (that I still don' t know what the heck he's doing in there and what takes so long!!!) and has to have his coffee, blah blah blah. He can't be rushed, on a schedule. I'm like, WE ARE AT DISNEY WORLD. GET UP AND GET WITH THE PROGRAM OR I'M LEAVING YOU BEHIND!! But then it just starts a fight.
He's so annoying to travel with.

ANCESTRY: Totally. Like, TO-TA-LY.

STIGSMOM: I am jealous. Going to WDW with just my DD is a dream.

I think the split stay thing might be THE answer. I can go down a few days early, he has to work anyway- and he can meet me later in the week. I can stay in a studio at AKL, and we can enjoy the animals/activities/pool. Maybe we can even squeeze in a fun character dinner. :)
 
I have taken my kids many times without my husband. He's a pain in the neck and high maintenance. We have a much better time without him.:):)

LUCKY.

But does he care?

If mine didn't want to go, I'd be able to take 3 week long vacations to WDW in a year!! And it would be blissful. :banana:
 
I just told my husband he's not coming and left it at that.

I have four kids and I told him that I am going to get at least one trip in with each one kid by myself before they turn 10. My DD 14 and I have gone on two solo trips so far and this September I'm taking my DD 7 by myself and leaving my DH home with the rest of the kids. We've done two family Disney trips trip already and so if he want to do a special trip with everyone or with just a couple of kids on his on solo adventure, he can plan something himself.

I have to be the one to make things happen or they'll never get done. I love having the special time alone with my kids and it sounds like you will have a great time with your daughter and friend. I hope your DH isn't too Grumpy and that he understands your need to carve our some special time with your daughter and friend. Keep us posted.
 

My dh is not much of a Disney fan. He has stayed home the last two trips and will not be joining us next time either.
 
Sounds like you just need to tell him what you are doing and be done with it. Have you ever traveled without him? If you have then just tell him you are doing a female trip and he can do something he wants.

Thats something I don't have to worry about and from the sound of it I have never been more happy about that. My other half doesn't like to travel and I'm glad because he doesn't get invited anyhow. I love my solo trips where I get peace and quiet and he gets dog sitting duty :thumbsup2

In all honestly though it sounds like you need this trip. Just be open and honest. Hopefully he understands.

I tried telling DH that last weekend; he countered with a threat to start divorce proceedings while I am out of town, LOL

It isn't something he would really do, you understand, it was his clumsy way of trying to jokingly tell me how much it would hurt his feelings if I went to Florida, or especially to WDW, without him. He wouldn't mind at all if I traveled anywhere else without him, but fun in Florida is not something that he wants to be left out of.

OP, what I would suggest is let go of the idea that your DH won't take care of your DD if he is alone with her -- of course he will, he's her father and he loves her. Just leave them together for a day here and there; I promise he will step up. (He might not handle things exactly the way that you would, but they will survive.) Once you have assured yourself (and him) of that fact, this whole issue should become much easier, because you will feel free to go your own way at times when you travel. That would pave the way for having him travel alone with her, so that you can, too.

Oh, and you might introduce him to the Closed Captions and the contrast settings on the TV.
He can watch just fine with the light turned down and the sound off; I do it all the time in hotels. ((If he won't use the CC (some stubborn people are really weird about them for some reason), buy him a set of wireless RF headphones so he can hear it without bothering you.))

As to the budget issues, try to think outside the box; perhaps you can come up with some solutions that the both of you can live with to reduce the cost. One of the things that we started traveling with for DD is a bed tent. It folds small enough to fit in a suitcase, and lets her have her own little "room" in the next bed; we all like that. We drape a blanket over it to keep the light down until she's fully asleep, then remove it when we put the lights out, so that it doesn't get too hot inside. (It's OK that the bed is bigger than a twin; it still works fine.) Solutions of that sort can go a long way to enabling compromise.
 
I tried telling DH that last weekend; he countered with a threat to start divorce proceedings while I am out of town, LOL

It isn't something he would really do, you understand, it was his clumsy way of trying to jokingly tell me how much it would hurt his feelings if I went to Florida, or especially to WDW, without him. He wouldn't mind at all if I traveled anywhere else without him, but fun in Florida is not something that he wants to be left out of.

Oh, and you might introduce him to the Closed Captions and the contrast settings on the TV.
He can watch just fine with the light turned down and the sound off; I do it all the time in hotels. ((If he won't use the CC (some stubborn people are really weird about them for some reason), buy him a set of wireless RF headphones so he can hear it without bothering you.))

As to the budget issues, try to think outside the box; perhaps you can come up with some solutions that the both of you can live with to reduce the cost. One of the things that we started traveling with for DD is a bed tent. It folds small enough to fit in a suitcase, and lets her have her own little "room" in the next bed; we all like that. We drape a blanket over it to keep the light down until she's fully asleep, then remove it when we put the lights out, so that it doesn't get too hot inside. (It's OK that the bed is bigger than a twin; it still works fine.) Solutions of that sort can go a long way to enabling compromise.

LOL. Divorce.
I totally understand- my husband doesn't want to be left out either.

He uses the headphones, but there's always an issue when we travel. ALWAYS AN ISSUE. There's a wire missing, they don't adapt with the TV, he doesn't know how to hook it up, the volume doesn't work- who the heck knows. So annoying.

The bed tent sounds really cool- I'm going to look into that.

I am also seriously contemplating going a few days early, alone with my DD, to get a break with the two of us. :)
 
Actually, THIS sounds like an AWESOME idea. :yay::yay:
I never thought of this!
I could easily go Sunday night, stay in a value room until Thursday, and he could fly in Thursday night through the weekend.
This is totally affordable for me- not the cheapest because I'd be switching into a one-bedroom, BUT, it's a happy medium.
GREAT IDEA!!!

This will sound terrible, but if you think you're going to have a better time when he's not there - maybe you should swap the plan around. Have him with you first, then send him home and you get to spend the next few days alone with just you and DD. I'd rather have the most fun at the end of the trip than to anticipate and worry about a grumpy partner coming later in the trip.
 
I feel really sorry for all of you. I am a DH and waited late in life to get married and have a child who is 2 years old now. When he is older I will be able to look back on our Disney vacations and smile. You should remind your husbands that they won't be little forever and sooner than you can blink they will be off to college and living their lives. Yes the DW and I have our little spats at Disney from time to time but we get over them and there are more times of fun and happiness than not. Your DH's should just go with the flow and not complain as much. Pretty soon the chance to go to Disney with your children and see the awe of discovering the magic of Disney will be gone and if they are acting like jerks every time they go they are going to miss it.
 
This will sound terrible, but if you think you're going to have a better time when he's not there - maybe you should swap the plan around. Have him with you first, then send him home and you get to spend the next few days alone with just you and DD. I'd rather have the most fun at the end of the trip than to anticipate and worry about a grumpy partner coming later in the trip.

I thought of this, and that is what I've been looking into.
The problem, is that I'd really like to stay at AKL, or anywhere, and the only property available is Saratoga, which I don't LOVE, but being I'm trying to do this on a budget I might just do it and deal. I mean, it's still a great resort! :cheer2:

What's available with DVC, is AKL a few days before the trip. This would be ideal anyway, bc the little one would love the property (I LOVE it!), it's our home resort, and I lovvvve the pool there.

Knowing my husbands' ways, I think it would be easier to go down earlier and him meet us, then us all go down together and him LEAVE us. You know what I mean?
 
I feel really sorry for all of you. I am a DH and waited late in life to get married and have a child who is 2 years old now. When he is older I will be able to look back on our Disney vacations and smile. You should remind your husbands that they won't be little forever and sooner than you can blink they will be off to college and living their lives. Yes the DW and I have our little spats at Disney from time to time but we get over them and there are more times of fun and happiness than not. Your DH's should just go with the flow and not complain as much. Pretty soon the chance to go to Disney with your children and see the awe of discovering the magic of Disney will be gone and if they are acting like jerks every time they go they are going to miss it.

I wish you could talk to my DH.
Mine also waited until late in life to have kids and settle down. He's now 48 :scared1: with a 3 year old. I wish he would pull his head out of his DONKEY and realize that this time is precious and to relax and go with the flow. Life is short, enjoy it!
Unfortunately, these are traits that are not a part of his personality.

I made my bed, now I have to sleep in it. Fine.
But, I've still got to live my life and enjoy my Disney!!! I look forward to these trips SO much- the planning, buying, reserving, booking, etc. I love it all! I just want a trip where I don't have him complaining the whole time!
 
Can't you kind of be with him part if the trip but have time apart?

If he likes to have is morning routine, let him have it. You will just be on the teacups with your child until he is done.

He wants to go to bed at 8? Ok, sleep well honey, we will be over on Main Street watching the parade.

Why don't you schedule a round of golf or parasailing while we tackle animal kingdom? We can meet for diner later.

Go sit by the pool, save us a lounge for when our am fast passes are done.

With technology today there is no reason ppl can't be apart at parks unlike years ago. Just plan time tighter and when the grump sets in, then it's time for him to have his time to relax.


Thankfully I married a theme park nut like myself and there is no park we wouldn't tackle together!!!

Good luck
 
I feel really sorry for all of you. I am a DH and waited late in life to get married and have a child who is 2 years old now. When he is older I will be able to look back on our Disney vacations and smile. You should remind your husbands that they won't be little forever and sooner than you can blink they will be off to college and living their lives. Yes the DW and I have our little spats at Disney from time to time but we get over them and there are more times of fun and happiness than not. Your DH's should just go with the flow and not complain as much. Pretty soon the chance to go to Disney with your children and see the awe of discovering the magic of Disney will be gone and if they are acting like jerks every time they go they are going to miss it.

Just wanted to say, my DH is a bit high maintenance when it comes to vacations because he worries about everything being taken care of once we get there (but doesn't really enjoy the planning process more than occasionally saying "ok" to what I suggest) and can be grumpy when he's stressed, but he's nothing like what some of the posters have described their husbands as. I think you have a really good point here. Not all DHs are like this and certainly not every poster to this thread has a DH like that. Everyone is a bit like that sometimes though. I definitely don't want anyone to see my posts as man-bashing. As far as I am concerned, the sexes could have been swapped and it could have been the same.
 
Just wanted to chime in and say I feel your pain. My DH is such a PITA when we travel, no matter what we're doing or where we're going. Its like this magic transformation happens as soon as we get the luggage in the car and all of a sudden he's grumpy, rude, and complains about everything.

Anyway, I took DS last September at 9 months and am taking him again in September without DH. We took a family trip to WDW in March and DH was on his best behavior and only got cranky a few times, but announced when we got home that "we're never doing that again." He didn't like the crowds, the waits, the food, the weather, and so on. He can stay home with the dogs, but DS and I are still going. He whines about us being gone, but we both know he actually enjoys being home alone for a few days. I hope you find a solution that works, good luck!
 
Goldilocks07 said:
My husband IS Grumpy. I really want to go to WDW without him. First off he is difficult, secondly because I'd rather go with my DD and my girlfriend and her DD, and on my points we could go for a WEEK! Because we are willing to do what we have to do to cut costs, stay in a smaller room, eat in, etc- to enjoy Disney for longer.
If I go with my DH, I have to get a bigger room (he won't tolerate sharing a room with our DD) and go for less days because he refuses to do Disney on the cheap. Not that he needs the red carpet rolled out or anything (though I'm sure he wouldn't mind), it's just that he doesn't do 'traveling on a budget' like I can do.

Anyway, what I'm asking I guess is- has anyone been in the same boat and gotten to take a trip to Disney without the legally bound counterpart? :rotfl2:

Oh, and I might add, he WANTS to come on the trip because he doesn't want to be left out of any experience with our 3 year old.

Advice?

We go to WDW every year without DH. He's been once to WDW and once to DL
 
Goldilocks07 said:
My husband IS Grumpy. I really want to go to WDW without him. First off he is difficult, secondly because I'd rather go with my DD and my girlfriend and her DD, and on my points we could go for a WEEK! Because we are willing to do what we have to do to cut costs, stay in a smaller room, eat in, etc- to enjoy Disney for longer.
If I go with my DH, I have to get a bigger room (he won't tolerate sharing a room with our DD) and go for less days because he refuses to do Disney on the cheap. Not that he needs the red carpet rolled out or anything (though I'm sure he wouldn't mind), it's just that he doesn't do 'traveling on a budget' like I can do.

Anyway, what I'm asking I guess is- has anyone been in the same boat and gotten to take a trip to Disney without the legally bound counterpart? :rotfl2:

Oh, and I might add, he WANTS to come on the trip because he doesn't want to be left out of any experience with our 3 year old.

Advice?

We go to WDW every year without DH. He's been once to WDW and once to DL and spent at least half the time in the room. He just doesn't like it and honestly we all have more fun going with ppl that actually want to be there.
 
I’m sorry you can’t seem to come together on the trip since he actually wants to experience it. He’s fortunate to be around and healthy and should take advantage of his time with her. The other poster is right. Life can be short.

My dh was a little older too when we had children. I was his 2nd wife. He was 38 when we had our first. He had some pulmonary issues, but was plenty mobile. I tried to get my him to agree to a trip to Disney with her when she was 3 and when she was 4, but because he would have had to have a scooter to preserve his energy he refused. I let it go and then didn’t bring it back up again because his health deteriorated further over the 2 years that followed.

When she was nearly 7, our son also known as our unexpected blessing was born. Dh promised me he would take better care of himself so we could do that trip when ds was 1. It was too late. He died when ds was 2 months old. The children and I began to visit Disney 8 months later. 4 years later and we’ve been 4 times and it has been amazing. My daughter though has yet to get through a trip without commenting on something her father would have really loved about the place.

I hope things work out and if not Disney that there is some place you all can enjoy together.
 
I’m sorry you can’t seem to come together on the trip since he actually wants to experience it. He’s fortunate to be around and healthy and should take advantage of his time with her. The other poster is right. Life can be short. My dh was a little older too when we had children. I was his 2nd wife. He was 38 when we had our first. He had some pulmonary issues, but was plenty mobile. I tried to get my him to agree to a trip to Disney with her when she was 3 and when she was 4, but because he would have had to have a scooter to preserve his energy he refused. I let it go and then didn’t bring it back up again because his health deteriorated further over the 2 years that followed. When she was nearly 7, our son also known as our unexpected blessing was born. Dh promised me he would take better care of himself so we could do that trip when ds was 1. It was too late. He died when ds was 2 months old. The children and I began to visit Disney 8 months later. 4 years later and we’ve been 4 times and it has been amazing. My daughter though has yet to get through a trip without commenting on something her father would have really loved about the place. I hope things work out and if not Disney that there is some place you all can enjoy together.
I'm sorry for your family's loss. I hate to hear about missed opportunities and the questions in your daughters mind that it leaves behind Stories like this need to be printed out and hung all over the house by the OP to show her DH the need to put his grumpiness aside and learn to enjoy his family in every situation. It hurts to hear stories about people who would even consider situations like the OP. His health may be ok, but it could be anything--car accident, or a falling meteor that could change their world forever.
 
Folks, PLEASE do me a favor and stop acting like men in their 40's are geezers. Sheesh.

DH and I are 52, and our youngest is 6. I'll have you know that we are not "old and set in our ways", nor would that be any kind of excuse to act like lumps on a log no matter how old we were.

Life *is* short, but unless you have some pre-existing medical condition, it isn't that short. You are really not meaningfully more likely to suddenly drop dead at 48 than you are at 38, or even at 28; healthy Americans in their 40's can reasonably expect to live for decades yet, unless they make the mistake of stepping in front of a moving bus.

Also, ftr, I think about my Dad at WDW, too. He didn't live to see it finished, but he pulled some strings with friends in the trades and got the two of us access to the MK construction site. He was fascinated by the work being done, and I know that he would have loved to have seen the finished park. As far as I'm concerned, he enjoys it with me in spirit whenever I am there.
 
My husband IS Grumpy. I really want to go to WDW without him. First off he is difficult, secondly because I'd rather go with my DD and my girlfriend and her DD, and on my points we could go for a WEEK! Because we are willing to do what we have to do to cut costs, stay in a smaller room, eat in, etc- to enjoy Disney for longer.
If I go with my DH, I have to get a bigger room (he won't tolerate sharing a room with our DD) and go for less days because he refuses to do Disney on the cheap. Not that he needs the red carpet rolled out or anything (though I'm sure he wouldn't mind), it's just that he doesn't do 'traveling on a budget' like I can do.

Anyway, what I'm asking I guess is- has anyone been in the same boat and gotten to take a trip to Disney without the legally bound counterpart? :rotfl2:

Oh, and I might add, he WANTS to come on the trip because he doesn't want to be left out of any experience with our 3 year old.

Advice?

Hi OP,
I know you must feel torn. I have to say that I absolutely LOVE going to Disney World, and my husband knew this before we got married. He enjoys going with our family, but does not like to go, go, go while he's on vacation. What does work for us when our whole family goes is we all get up early and go to the a park (he is a morning person) and sometime early afternoon he goes back to the room to relax and nap, he then joins us for all the night time activities. This allows us enjoy the parks the way we like to and lets him enjoy the parks the way he likes to tour. It's a win, win! I will also say that I have made a few trips with my daughter (we are a blended family) and he completely supports our "mother daughter" trips. He knows how much these trips mean to us and how much we enjoy spending time together at our favorite place. I hope that you and your daughter do get to enjoy a "mother daughter" trip sometime, you will cherish those memories. We have also had one trip where we went down before my husband, and he met us there for a few days. That worked out great as well.

Good luck with your plans, and I'm sure you can work out a plan where everyone is happy :)
 





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