sunshineNJ
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I have taken my kids many times without my husband. He's a pain in the neck and high maintenance. We have a much better time without him.



I have taken my kids many times without my husband. He's a pain in the neck and high maintenance. We have a much better time without him.![]()
Sounds like you just need to tell him what you are doing and be done with it. Have you ever traveled without him? If you have then just tell him you are doing a female trip and he can do something he wants.
Thats something I don't have to worry about and from the sound of it I have never been more happy about that. My other half doesn't like to travel and I'm glad because he doesn't get invited anyhow. I love my solo trips where I get peace and quiet and he gets dog sitting duty
In all honestly though it sounds like you need this trip. Just be open and honest. Hopefully he understands.
I tried telling DH that last weekend; he countered with a threat to start divorce proceedings while I am out of town, LOL
It isn't something he would really do, you understand, it was his clumsy way of trying to jokingly tell me how much it would hurt his feelings if I went to Florida, or especially to WDW, without him. He wouldn't mind at all if I traveled anywhere else without him, but fun in Florida is not something that he wants to be left out of.
Oh, and you might introduce him to the Closed Captions and the contrast settings on the TV.
He can watch just fine with the light turned down and the sound off; I do it all the time in hotels. ((If he won't use the CC (some stubborn people are really weird about them for some reason), buy him a set of wireless RF headphones so he can hear it without bothering you.))
As to the budget issues, try to think outside the box; perhaps you can come up with some solutions that the both of you can live with to reduce the cost. One of the things that we started traveling with for DD is a bed tent. It folds small enough to fit in a suitcase, and lets her have her own little "room" in the next bed; we all like that. We drape a blanket over it to keep the light down until she's fully asleep, then remove it when we put the lights out, so that it doesn't get too hot inside. (It's OK that the bed is bigger than a twin; it still works fine.) Solutions of that sort can go a long way to enabling compromise.
Actually, THIS sounds like an AWESOME idea.
I never thought of this!
I could easily go Sunday night, stay in a value room until Thursday, and he could fly in Thursday night through the weekend.
This is totally affordable for me- not the cheapest because I'd be switching into a one-bedroom, BUT, it's a happy medium.
GREAT IDEA!!!
This will sound terrible, but if you think you're going to have a better time when he's not there - maybe you should swap the plan around. Have him with you first, then send him home and you get to spend the next few days alone with just you and DD. I'd rather have the most fun at the end of the trip than to anticipate and worry about a grumpy partner coming later in the trip.
I feel really sorry for all of you. I am a DH and waited late in life to get married and have a child who is 2 years old now. When he is older I will be able to look back on our Disney vacations and smile. You should remind your husbands that they won't be little forever and sooner than you can blink they will be off to college and living their lives. Yes the DW and I have our little spats at Disney from time to time but we get over them and there are more times of fun and happiness than not. Your DH's should just go with the flow and not complain as much. Pretty soon the chance to go to Disney with your children and see the awe of discovering the magic of Disney will be gone and if they are acting like jerks every time they go they are going to miss it.
I feel really sorry for all of you. I am a DH and waited late in life to get married and have a child who is 2 years old now. When he is older I will be able to look back on our Disney vacations and smile. You should remind your husbands that they won't be little forever and sooner than you can blink they will be off to college and living their lives. Yes the DW and I have our little spats at Disney from time to time but we get over them and there are more times of fun and happiness than not. Your DH's should just go with the flow and not complain as much. Pretty soon the chance to go to Disney with your children and see the awe of discovering the magic of Disney will be gone and if they are acting like jerks every time they go they are going to miss it.
Goldilocks07 said:My husband IS Grumpy. I really want to go to WDW without him. First off he is difficult, secondly because I'd rather go with my DD and my girlfriend and her DD, and on my points we could go for a WEEK! Because we are willing to do what we have to do to cut costs, stay in a smaller room, eat in, etc- to enjoy Disney for longer.
If I go with my DH, I have to get a bigger room (he won't tolerate sharing a room with our DD) and go for less days because he refuses to do Disney on the cheap. Not that he needs the red carpet rolled out or anything (though I'm sure he wouldn't mind), it's just that he doesn't do 'traveling on a budget' like I can do.
Anyway, what I'm asking I guess is- has anyone been in the same boat and gotten to take a trip to Disney without the legally bound counterpart?
Oh, and I might add, he WANTS to come on the trip because he doesn't want to be left out of any experience with our 3 year old.
Advice?
Goldilocks07 said:My husband IS Grumpy. I really want to go to WDW without him. First off he is difficult, secondly because I'd rather go with my DD and my girlfriend and her DD, and on my points we could go for a WEEK! Because we are willing to do what we have to do to cut costs, stay in a smaller room, eat in, etc- to enjoy Disney for longer.
If I go with my DH, I have to get a bigger room (he won't tolerate sharing a room with our DD) and go for less days because he refuses to do Disney on the cheap. Not that he needs the red carpet rolled out or anything (though I'm sure he wouldn't mind), it's just that he doesn't do 'traveling on a budget' like I can do.
Anyway, what I'm asking I guess is- has anyone been in the same boat and gotten to take a trip to Disney without the legally bound counterpart?
Oh, and I might add, he WANTS to come on the trip because he doesn't want to be left out of any experience with our 3 year old.
Advice?
I'm sorry for your family's loss. I hate to hear about missed opportunities and the questions in your daughters mind that it leaves behind Stories like this need to be printed out and hung all over the house by the OP to show her DH the need to put his grumpiness aside and learn to enjoy his family in every situation. It hurts to hear stories about people who would even consider situations like the OP. His health may be ok, but it could be anything--car accident, or a falling meteor that could change their world forever.I’m sorry you can’t seem to come together on the trip since he actually wants to experience it. He’s fortunate to be around and healthy and should take advantage of his time with her. The other poster is right. Life can be short. My dh was a little older too when we had children. I was his 2nd wife. He was 38 when we had our first. He had some pulmonary issues, but was plenty mobile. I tried to get my him to agree to a trip to Disney with her when she was 3 and when she was 4, but because he would have had to have a scooter to preserve his energy he refused. I let it go and then didn’t bring it back up again because his health deteriorated further over the 2 years that followed. When she was nearly 7, our son also known as our unexpected blessing was born. Dh promised me he would take better care of himself so we could do that trip when ds was 1. It was too late. He died when ds was 2 months old. The children and I began to visit Disney 8 months later. 4 years later and we’ve been 4 times and it has been amazing. My daughter though has yet to get through a trip without commenting on something her father would have really loved about the place. I hope things work out and if not Disney that there is some place you all can enjoy together.
My husband IS Grumpy. I really want to go to WDW without him. First off he is difficult, secondly because I'd rather go with my DD and my girlfriend and her DD, and on my points we could go for a WEEK! Because we are willing to do what we have to do to cut costs, stay in a smaller room, eat in, etc- to enjoy Disney for longer.
If I go with my DH, I have to get a bigger room (he won't tolerate sharing a room with our DD) and go for less days because he refuses to do Disney on the cheap. Not that he needs the red carpet rolled out or anything (though I'm sure he wouldn't mind), it's just that he doesn't do 'traveling on a budget' like I can do.
Anyway, what I'm asking I guess is- has anyone been in the same boat and gotten to take a trip to Disney without the legally bound counterpart?![]()
Oh, and I might add, he WANTS to come on the trip because he doesn't want to be left out of any experience with our 3 year old.
Advice?