Happy People.....

[denisenh]

some people are happy no matter what. it doesn't seem to depend on money, health, other people, belongings, situation, etc.

i understand that people can be hurt, like if a loved one doesn't fulfill a need for example, but maybe if that "unhappy" person wasn't so dependent on other people or situations for their own happiness, they may be better off.
i mean, you can't control other people anyway.

why sit around waiting for someone or something to make you happy?

i try to be understanding but sometimes when listening to a persons reaction because "so and so didn't do what i expected or wanted them to", it makes it clear why "so and so" may stay away.

do you believe that happiness comes from within a person?

 

[L107ANGEL]

yes

 

[teacups]

Sometimes life is hard on people and you may not understand the whole story. Hard knocks come in some serious flavors that linger for years... hug those people you judge and be thankful you have not had the knocks they may have had.

 

[ols386]

I definately believe that happiness comes from within. I think it's ok for anyone to feel sad at times...we all have things that happen in our lives that may make us feel sad, hurt, angry, etc....that's human nature. But TRUE happiness comes from within. I also, believe that "misery loves company". I've known people who are truly miserable, and they want everyone around them to be also, but if you are someone who does have that inner-peace, those individuals will not be able to bring you down. I wish we could all have inner-peace, but I guess that's not realistic to think that all people in the world are lucky enough to have it.

 

[MyManGoofy!]

Sometimes life is hard on people and you may not understand the whole story. Hard knocks come in some serious flavors that linger for years... hug those people you judge and be thankful you have not had the knocks they may have had.

MTE

 

[The Mystery Machine]

Well.....as it stands now, I see it as a matter of intelligence and resistance to change.

If you communicate with people and understand the circumstances you adjust accordingly. Intelligence comes into play because you have to be keen to social & necessary circumstances.

Making the necessary adjustments will bring about the end result required.

Ex.....My sister's BIL was charged for felony DWI with intent to committ bodily harm.

Now his mother knew he was an alcoholic. However her lack of intelligence and resistance to change her stance on allowing this man to drive drunk has now resulted in the possibility of losing everything.

The result is that she is positively clinically depressed right now.

As far as lesser instances, such as all the Christmas threads, communicating and planning is a must. Being pragmatic and practical is a key ingredient to happiness.

 

[denisenh]

Sometimes life is hard on people and you may not understand the whole story. Hard knocks come in some serious flavors that linger for years... hug those people you judge and be thankful you have not had the knocks they may have had.

well, thats just it. some people go through the most unimaginably hard and horrible times and are still happy....it just never goes away. the positiveness and sunny outlook are a staple. they attract friends and good things like iron to a magnet.

and other people find something to whine about every minute of the day...the traffic, the neighbor, the job, the this and that, but wonder why no one wants to touch them with a ten foot pole and then whine about that too.

i am not judging...and btw, you can't assume that happy people have never walked a rough path or had a seriously hard knock. if you do, you may be surprised.

 

[Lynn CC]

Some people wake up every morning never knowing how lucky they are just waking up.

I'm grateful for each and every minute I'm awake, therefore 99% of the time I'm a very happy person. Your right it is mind boggling to be with people who just are not happy...I just went through the holidays with a bunch of them (family members).

I don't subject myself to them unless I have to, we tolerate them for the holidays, try to rub off some of our cheer on them!

 

[denisenh]

Well.....as it stands now, I see it as a matter of intelligence and resistance to change.

If you communicate with people and understand the circumstances you adjust accordingly. Intelligence comes into play because you have to be keen to social & necessary circumstances.

Making the necessary adjustments will bring about the end result required.

Ex.....My sister's BIL was charged for felony DWI with intent to committ bodily harm.

Now his mother knew he was an alcoholic. However her lack of intelligence and resistance to change her stance on allowing this man to drive drunk has now resulted in the possibility of losing everything.

The result is that she is positively clinically depressed right now.

As far as lesser instances, such as all the Christmas threads, communicating and planning is a must. Being pragmatic and practical is a key ingredient to happiness.

yes, maybe thats part of it. some happy people find any difficulties just another challenge ...problem solver kind of people.

 

[denisenh]

I definately believe that happiness comes from within. I think it's ok for anyone to feel sad at times...we all have things that happen in our lives that may make us feel sad, hurt, angry, etc....that's human nature. But TRUE happiness comes from within. I also, believe that "misery loves company". I've known people who are truly miserable, and they want everyone around them to be also, but if you are someone who does have that inner-peace, those individuals will not be able to bring you down. I wish we could all have inner-peace, but I guess that's not realistic to think that all people in the world are lucky enough to have it.

and that too...INNER PEACE!!!!!! maybe that is a better term than "happy" people.
people with inner peace are a joy to be near.

 

[The Mystery Machine]

yes, maybe thats part of it. some happy people find any difficulties just another challenge ...problem solver kind of people.

In addition I think the people that are happy do not try to "control" everything.

Intelligence will tell you that it is something that is unattainable and will be a constant stream of disppointment.

Tragedy, loss, disappointment, etc....are a part of life. There is no escape from it.

The secret is to be able to handle it in a "smart way".

For ex. with my sister's BIL. The mom did not want to tell her son "no" to driving her car. She does not deny her kids anything.

Even though her son was endangering people's lives DAILY and her own financial interests.

To tell her kids "no" would be a source of unhappiness however at the same time giving in causes more unhappiness.

If she had better intelligence she would realize she was not doing them ANY favors by supporting their bad behaviors.

 

[Cool-Beans]

Absolutely. You CHOOSE to be happy.

I've always tried to find the bright side, because if you aren't looking on the bright side, then where are you looking? But sometimes there isn't one...and you have to drag it up from deep down inside you.

"Find the happy," is advice I give to friends when they're completely down and ask me how I did it.

It takes a little practice, but it can be done.

 

[teacups]

i am not judging...and btw, you can't assume that happy people have never walked a rough path or had a seriously hard knock. if you do, you may be surprised.

I am not assuming that at all. I think I understand the kind of person you are talking about here... I was more thinking seriously depressed people, people who cant get a grip after a tragedy. Those people can not be blamed. Stuff happens and not everyone can pull out of it ASAP. I am sure you understand that. Sometimes it's mental or even medical and it takes time.
I think you are talking more the PITA kind of complainer. Am I right?

 

[Judy from Boise]

I agree that happiness is a choice and optimism is a learned behavior. My motto is being happy is the best revenge!

 

[denisenh]

I am not assuming that at all. I think I understand the kind of person you are talking about here... I was more thinking seriously depressed people, people who cant get a grip after a tragedy. Those people can not be blamed. Stuff happens and not everyone can pull out of it ASAP. I am sure you understand that. Sometimes it's mental or even medical and it takes time.
I think you are talking more the PITA kind of complainer. Am I right?

yes, i think it is hard to separate out the kind of misery that i mean. the kind of person that makes you just shake your head. not just ones that have complained or are having a temporary, "need to reboot" kind of unhappiness.
we all vent, get mad and complain once in a while. but there are some people that seem to self perpetuate complete misery and appear to need it too.

 

[kristilew]

"Most folks are as happy as they make up their minds to be." Abraham Lincoln

 

[L107ANGEL]

"Most folks are as happy as they make up their minds to be." Abraham Lincoln

Exactly!

 

[WebmasterMaryJo]

ATTITUDE
by: Charles Swindoll

The longer I live, the more I realize the impact of attitude on life.

Attitude, to me, is more important than facts. It is more important than the past, than education, than money, than circumstances, than failures, than successes, than what other people think or say or do. It is more important than appearance, giftedness or skill. It will make or break a company... a church... a home.

The remarkable thing is we have a choice every day regarding the attitude we will embrace for that day. We cannot change our past... we cannot change the fact that people will act in a certain way. We cannot change the inevitable. The only thing we can do is play on the one string we have, and that is our attitude... I am convinced that life is 10% what happens to me and 90% how I react to it.

And so it is with you... we are in charge of our attitudes.​

 

[Lionqueen2]

I can understand people dealing with serious problems like major health issues having a hard time feeling happy, but the small stuff in life shouldn't make someone upset.
When I saw this topic, I immediately thought about a couple that I was speaking to recently. They were planning a trip to WDW and needed to stay at the GF. They just felt they couldn't enjoy their trip if they stay at any of the other resorts. DH and I have stay in values, mods and deluxe and have always enjoyed ourselves. Is it really that hard to just have fun?

 

[Tink888]

I think happiness is a choice and an attitude. Sure everyone has times when they feel sad or circumstances bring you down, I know I do, but I try not to wallow in that for too long and focus on the good things. Sometimes I need to remind myself to be happy but it definately can be done and before I know it, I actually AM happy again, no reminders necessary.