Happily Married

[mamacatnv]

We will hit 20 years in November. There have been ups, downs and in betweens but my DH is someone who I can always count on. He is my friend, lover, advocate and my #1 fan. He is a great Dad and my son will be a good hubby and dad because of his Dad's influence.

Sadly, as the kids get older we are watching so many marriages of our friends around us crumble. It makes me more thankful everyday for him. He may be a dork, but he is my dork and I wouldn't trade him anyday (ok, maybe some days, but not too many )

 

[katerkat]

We're approaching five years in June and still doing fine. Of course, it helps that I haven't seen him in a couple months....absence makes the heart grow fonder and all that. I think he might be coming home tomorrow.

 

[Shugardrawers]

Count me in as one of the happiest married people I know. I got very, very luck and I know it. My Dh is everything I ever wanted in a husband and a lot of things I didn't know I wanted. In the 7 years we've been together, not a day has gone by that I don't stop and realize how good I have it. He's not perfect but he's absolutely perfect for me.

 

[Mickey&Donald]

Count me in the happily married club! DH and I just celebrated 4 years on Friday, and we've been together a little over 8 years now. Every day really does get better and better. We are not the perfect married couple -- is there such a thing? -- but we adore each other and we have a great time together. I can't wait to see what the future holds for us!

 

[WAHMto5]

Wow.....maybe it is a 12 year thing! Dh and I will be having our 12th anniversary also in a couple of months. He is my best friend and love of my life! He is a great dad. I could not ask for more

 

[Steffi]

DH & I will be celebrating our 16th anniversary in June. He still makes me laugh every day.

 

[PhotobearSam]

When I agreed to marry DH, I told him that he better be sure as I do not beleive in divorce. (I am Catholic) and he responded that with his parents and grandparents divorced he would not take this lightly as he did not want to be anything like them in that respect.

Well, we were engaged for 2 years and now married for 5, in total we are together 9 years this fall and it's still great.

We travel so well together and I NEVER have to wonder where he is as he calls me all the time to go with him. We are the best of friends and I keep him in Star Wars toys so he will never have a reason to leave...

He is the most decent man I have ever met. I am the lucky one because I can be a real pain in the tush... I am so lucky to have him.

I am going to go give him a kiss right now...

Have you told your spouse how much he/she means to you TODAY?

 

[robinb]

I've been reading a lot of threads on here about folks irritated with their spouses or those that are having problems because of major issues. I wanted to contribute something positive--not to offend those having problems, but to express how grateful I am to be in stable and loving marriage.

I guess I am the only one who feels this post is pretty self-serving.

My husband and I have been together for almost 22 years. We have our ups and we have our downs. A usual marriage much like yours. But know that many people do not have a "perfect marriage" I wonder why you would post something that may hurt so many people on the DIS. It's almost like you're rubbing their noses in it. Sorry, just my opinion .

 

[Nala2007]

Only 3 years here, so I guess not long enough to start dis-liking him

JK!

 

[OhhBother]

It is a 12-year thing. We're celebrating our 12-year anniversary next Sunday -- which happens to be Easter this year.

We've never spent a night apart since we got married, and I can't imagine my life without him. He's a blessing from God!

 

[TurboKitty]

This Dec will be 15 years for DH and I. It's not always sunshine and roses. Even today, I got very angry because of how I mis-interpreted a look he gave me in the grocery store. Totally my fault and we made up before 2 minutes had passed....

It actually says something that now...after about 12 years of marriage, I will actually fight with DH. (My parents fought constantly when I grew up. I found it easier to agree to make peace than stand up for myself. I refused to fight, out of principal. Until fairly recently.) We do usually talk (and listen to each other) before it escaslates though.

So, um...I love my husband dearly. He's my best friend, the one I love to make laugh, who can make me laugh the hardest, the person I like to be around and with, not my soul mate, but my partner and mate. Everyday isn't perfect and we don't expect it to be, as long as we can face it together (even if that means from opposite ends ) .

 

[ohiominnie]

I guess I am the only one who feels this post is pretty self-serving.

My husband and I have been together for almost 22 years. We have our ups and we have our downs. A usual marriage much like yours. But know that many people do not have a "perfect marriage" I wonder why you would post something that may hurt so many people on the DIS. It's almost like you're rubbing their noses in it. Sorry, just my opinion .

I don't think it's self-serving at all. Sometimes we are so surrounded by negatives that we forget to look at all of the positives. If the OP is self-serving, then so would all of the posts like these:
I'm debt free!!!!

The doctor said my cancer is gone!!!!

My kid won an academic award!!!

I am heading to Disney tomorrow!!!!

What about the people who are still in debt, who are still struggling with cancer and chemo, who have kids who struggle in school, or who are stuck at home in the rain and the cold going to work and not going to Disney?

Should we not post anything positive for fear we'll offend those who don't have a positive outlook right now?

I think the OP's post is refreshing! Thank you! I was once involved in a cross stitch group. We met at least monthly for anywhere from 3-5 hours. I ended up quitting it b/c all the women did the entire time was rag on their husbands. Not one husband in the group was worth anything. Not one husband could do anything right. I didn't need to surround myself with all of that negativity all of the time. So I quit.

Thank you, OP for posting this thread. Dh and I have been married 15+ years. Some of them happy, some of them not so happy, but we've worked through a lot and I'm grateful for that.

 

[JKanownik]

DH and I will be celebrating our 5 year anniversary on May 25th. We have been happily together for 8 years. He is my best friend!

 

[It's A Happy Day]

Can I join the happily ever after club?

We have been together since October 91 and married since October 99. He is the one person I can love passionately and fight with just as passionately.

Recently I got together with a girlfriend I have known since Jr. high and we were discussing different friends and what was going on in everyone's lives (catching up basicallY) and it took this conversation for me to realize that no matter what anyone thinks, noones life is perfect and it is not always greener on the other side. What I viewed as a better situation than what I was in...some debt, small house, and some other trivial matters seemed small compared to 1 friend dealing with an alcoholic husband, another who has asked her husband to leave several times due to emotional abuse, and yet another who is on her 2nd marriage and has cheated on her spouse within months of the marriage. It made me more grateful for what I have - a not always perfect husband that I can count on a compliments both my good and bad. While DH & I have had our ups & downs, we have remained each others friends and realize that it is okay to disagree and get mad at each other once in a while but not to let it fester.

Congratulations to all you love birds

 

[dis ms.]

I guess I am the only one who feels this post is pretty self-serving.

My husband and I have been together for almost 22 years. We have our ups and we have our downs. A usual marriage much like yours. But know that many people do not have a "perfect marriage" I wonder why you would post something that may hurt so many people on the DIS. It's almost like you're rubbing their noses in it. Sorry, just my opinion .

I see what you're saying, but I have a different view.

When I read the OP, my first thought was that it might be insensitive to those having marital problems. Then, I thought about my own situation. Today I was a little peeved at DH, who has been in Italy for a week (the same week that I started a new job). I had been in the middle of putting away laundry, etc., in our room but had to stop to take DS to soccer this afternoon. So, the room was in total disarray. DH came home and made a pretty harmless comment about the condition of our bedroom. That did it!

I could have easily started a thread about my DH being an insensitive clod (which he's not--he just chose a bad time to make a bad joke ). Instead, I saw this thread and it helped me put things in perspective. All things considered, DH is a great guy and I'm blessed to have him. I see nothing wrong with acknowledging that.

As ohiominnie said, many people post their great news and successes. Just because others here might not have the same good fortune doesn't mean the poster is rubbing our noses in it.

 

[Kteacher]

We will celebrate our 23rd anniversary this June ( we've been together for 28 years ) . It sounds corny, but we still feel the same way about each other today as when we first met

 

[LindsayDunn228]

Add me to the Happily Married Club! We have been married 3 years and our marriage is awesome! My husband is my best friend, my lover, and my soulmate. I had no idea that a man like him exsisted, and that he would be mine

 

[Muhlenberg]

I'm happily married...for 30 years...to the other half of ME! He's my balance...I would be way too serious without him. He's my everything. We've known each other for...hmmm...33 years, which is longer than I've NOT known him.

The secret to staying married is to not get divorced. There are others, but that one's the most basic.

 

[The Mystery Machine]

We are going on 17yrs of marriage with over 20yrs. together.

We did have alot of rough spots the first 10 years. Wasn't all bliss and we had to iron out alot of what these posters go thru. No affairs though.

Now at 17yrs of marriage we are very happy.
Frankly we are pretty proud of ourselves that we learned how to "move forward"....That is what we call it.
We do still "fight"...but we are opinionated and that is why we belong together. We like to express, discuss, and move forward.

 

[pirateofthecarolinas]

I'll be celebrating my 20th anniversary this June. We've been together for 27. He makes me laugh everyday! He is a wonderful father to our 3 children.

Lori