luvsJack
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Not to mention your comfort level changes over time. When the oft cited MJ halftime show occurred I was 9. I'm sure I didn't watch it and wouldn't have cared what he did if I had. But now I'm an adult with 3 kids, two of whom are girls that are starting to form a picture of who they are and what their moral code is. For that reason alone I can have found MJ's performance acceptable at the time while Taki g umbrage at Jlo's nearly 30 years later without being sexist.
No, not really. You can say you didn't see the issue with it at that age but to find his acceptable and hers not on the basis of the "crotch grab" or lack there of would definitely be sexist.
Even though you were 9 at the time, with many videos of the performance on YouTube and it always popping up on FB around super bowl time, I am sure you have seen it since then. Very easy to compare the two. But one would really need to think about why they find one ok and the other not (if that is how they feel).
See I have 3 kids too. I have a 21 year old daughter so have been there when watching stuff with her. The ONLY performance I have ever taken exception to was Robin and Miley. That one crossed a line. But, we had a short and sweet talk about why it was bad and why it crossed a line especially when compared to an actual dancers routine. But we didn't lay all of it at Miley's door. Robin is a grown man, wasn't like he didn't know what was happening.
I make darn sure my dd has learned that there are things that are inappropriate out there. But if they are inappropriate for one they are for everyone. There is no double standard. There is no "its ok for guys but not for ladies" bs.


