Grrrr....Teacher Vent

[Honey81808]

Not at my school if a kid is distracting causing a fuss they loose points for effort and participation. As well as giving a nice permanent comment during progress reports about unwillingness to cooperate, maybe even on a report card.

My students love me as a teacher because unlike some of their parents I see through their games and I don't allow it. They respect my rules and I respect them for that. So I never have problems.

 

[RitaE]

a kid is distracting if he wants you to use his correct name?

Man, you sure do distract easily.

 

[MaryAnnDVC]

something as petty as what name he is being called or is using? You can't helicopter him in High School let him fight this battle himself. The teacher will have more respect for him and you. I would find Storm to be a bit weird in my classroom unless he was an African queen that could control the weather. I'm not making fun but does your son wan to be an Indy wrestler or something? Storm is NOT a very professional name.

I just think that parents need to get back to normal names. Storm ESQ? Dr. Storm? Come on. I feel like naming a child is a big deal. Have we as a society lost that? I really hope not. Whats wrong with John, Franklin, Alex? There is a difference between different and just over the top. I would do what the teacher says other wise Storm is going to have a rough weathered four years. I'm not trying to be mean but teachers SOSOSOO label students like this. The fact that he's in the ninth grade and mommy is fighting this battle for him...they are going to label him. FYI be prepared. GL

Parents read book on raising children, look for the best schools, buy the safest cars. Everything to ensure their child is set in life and then they give them crazy names that no one would take seriously. At my school he would get teased by students and staff.

Not to be mean but EVERY school is like that. Teachers talk about EVERYTHING. Like how students are dressed, parents who helicopter or bulldozer. Students that are hooking up and why? It's just reality especially in High School. Though kids might think his name is "cool" teachers might not be thinking the same thing. Definitely not the teacher he has right not. Hope it works out though.

The principal WILL NOT go against the teacher the union would be ALL OVER THAT. (Added by me: )You won't win good luck trying though.

By changing your son's name you are showing him that
A) Mommy will fix all your problems.
B) There is no reason to respect a teachers rule
C) You are letting every teacher in that school know who is really in control in your house.
Trust me this teacher is talking and he will talk about this. And by the end of the week you and your son are going to be labeled HELICOPTER.

Good Luck

Yes granted it's his MIDDLE name not his first. I guess my problem is that the parent is allowing the child to make a big deal about it. Can he really not suck it up? Is it really worth the hassle of teacher stigma. My name is Nichole but I go by Nikki but if a teacher called me Nichole it was fine. I had a kid this year named Kahlid but I called him The Great Kaliee after a Wrestler we both enjoyed. Preferred names are fine just not in the OP's DS teachers classroom and I think the student AND the parent should respect that.

9th grade does begin his professional career. Everything from now untll 11th grade is going to watched and reported if he plans to go to college (added by me...so now this is going to on the all important "permanent record"... ) this is not the way to start off. Conformity is a way of life living in the USA you conform everyday and you sit back and you enjoy it.
Your statement of, "we don't teach conformity"...hahah the real world is going to be a hard smack in the face for your child if you don't. I'm not sying bend over backwards because yes for the big things you should fight back if there is an injustice on you. But to make a big stink about a name. REALLY? And YES a teacher can take points off whether you thing so our not. Participation grade, effort, behavior. Those all hold a weight in class and 1% can be the difference between and B and a C.

With every post you make, I believe less and less that you're a teacher. At least, I hope not. And if you are, you're giving teachers a very bad name. I've got two kids in college and one in HS, and I've never met a teacher like you. My children and I have great relationships with most teachers, and good relationships with the rest. But reading what you have to say about teachers would make me think that teachers are a bunch of self-centered, gossipy, immature control freaks and bullies, with God complexes, who expect everyone to cowtow to them. Not in my life, thank God...I'd rather have the mutually respectful relationships that my kids and I do have with them.

 

[Honey81808]

So how would like to have your students and peers use a name for you besides your given name.

It depends on my name. People have many names for me: Nick, Nikki, Nichole...it's my name. No one calls me Amber though it's my middle name and i would respond to it as well. The teacher isn't inventing a new name for him. Alexander is on his BC and the school rooster. Not Storm.

I'm not a TROLL. I just think this parent was getting one sided information from people who have good intentions but not be looking at the bigger picture. Just because you don't agree with what i say doesn't make me a Troll. Grow up.

 

[Wishing on a star]

Wow, it is really cool when some teachers actually show their true colors!!!
It makes me feel sooooo vindicated!!!!


And, I just can't believe that anyone would not recognize that a name IS important... it IS ones name... whether it is Storm, or Barack, or whatever.

A name (unless truly ludicris) deserves RESPECT.

To not refer to someone correctly is a very serious disrespect.

It is NOT appropriate.
This teacher is NOT appropriate.

This teacher obviously has issues, and does not belong in a classroom with children.

OP: If you truly do want to change your son's legal name, then I would go right ahead!!!

But, I just wanted to say hell would freeze over before I let the likes of this teacher, or any teacher, affect my personal life and my personal decisions in any way.

 

[Honey81808]

a kid is distracting if he wants you to use his correct name?

Man, you sure do distract easily.

I'm just showing OP all the things that a teacher COULD Say it's not about the teacher being distracted its about the kid making a stink about it during class.

 

[Master Mason]

If you teach like you threaten, I feel sorry for your students.

Was thinking the same thing, I am ever so glad that she doesn't teach at my kids schools.

And for the record, yes the principle can over ride a teachers grades. I know this for a fact, because it happened to my son in 7th grade, he had a teacher that didn't care for boy's ever single boy in her class routinely had a full grade point lower than an equivilant girl. It was well documented, I would not stand for it, my kids grade was raised, and the teacher after the volume of complaints and evidence was dismissed the following year.

 

[declansdad]

It depends on my name. People have many names for me: Nick, Nikki, Nichole...it's my name. No one calls me Amber though it's my middle name and i would respond to it as well. The teacher isn't inventing a new name for him. Alexander is on his BC and the school rooster. Not Storm.

I'm not a TROLL. I just think this parent was getting one sided information from people who have good intentions but not be looking at the bigger picture. Just because you don't agree with what i say doesn't make me a Troll. Grow up.

What don't you understand about Storm being his name.

I never called you a troll but based on your comments one has to question if you really understand your students as much as you think you do. I feel that we as parents need to support teachers but not if you are not willing to meet me halfway. If I tell you my son's name is XXXX, that's what you would be calling him. If you didn't I would file a complaint and that would go on your employment record.

 

[pajamommy]

I think that whatever your son wants to be called should be what the teacher uses. That said, being a teacher myself......I always wonder why parents give their kids a name and then don't actually use that name? For isntance, John and then call the child Jack.....why not just name the child Jack? I have a son named Jack, its not John legally and then Jack as a nickname, its just Jack! Yes, like the show Will and Grace, lol! I just don't get naming a child one name and then calling them another.

 

[Honey81808]

Wow, it is really cool when some teachers actually show their true colors!!!
It makes me feel sooooo vindicated!!!!


And, I just can't believe that ANYONE would not recognize that a name IS important... it IS ones name... whether it is Storm, or Barack, or whatever.

A name (unless truly ludicris) deserves RESPECT.

To not refer to someone correctly is a very serious disrespect.

It is NOT appropriate.
This teacher is NOT appropriate.

This teacher obviously has issues, and does not belong in a classroom with children.

OP: If you truly do want to change your son's legal name, then I would go right ahead!!!

But, I just wanted to say hell would freeze over before I let the likes of this teacher, or any teacher, affect my personal life and my personal decisions in any way.

If the name was important mom should have named him Storm Alexander or changed it immediately when she realized he wanted to be NAMED Storm. not just CALLED Storm.

 

[2BigKIdz]

If it's not that big of a deal then the teacher shouldn't have any trouble calling him Storm. One of my good friends' brother is named Storm, I think it is a really cool name!

My cousin just had a baby boy and named him Patrick Riley, Patrick after her granfather, but she is calling him Riley. Everyone kept telling her to name the first name what she planned to call him but she thought Patrick Riley sounded better than Riley Patrick.

I think it would be a big adjustment for your son to try to remember to answer to a name he is not accustomed to and the teacher should take that into account. I have a friend named Bobby, that is his legal name and he is jr, but everyone calls him Chip. He called me at work one day but I wasn't available so he left a message with my boss to call Bobby lastname at work and his number. I couldn't for the life of me think who Bobby lastname was, took a few minutes to dawn on me it was Chip!

 

[RitaE]

If the name was important mom should have named him Storm Alexander or changed it immediately when she realized he wanted to be NAMED Storm. not just CALLED Storm.

oh gee. If you would only have been around 14years ago to instruct her on how to properly name her child. Shame, it is a shame.

 

[Honey81808]

What don't you understand about Storm being his name.

I never called you a troll but based on your comments one has to question if you really understand your students as much as you think you do. I feel that we as parents need to support teachers but not if you are not willing to meet me halfway. If I tell you my son's name is XXXX, that's what you would be calling him. If you didn't I would file a complaint and that would go on your employment record.

BECAUSE the child's name is Alexander Storm lastname. Meaning HIS FIRST NAME is Alexander. He PREFERS to be called Storm his MIDDLE NAME. READING COMPREHENSION!!!! Halfway would be fine but there is no half way on this because it's the teachers rule. This is my point, by bucking the rule or asking the teacher to it would take away from his or her authority in class.

 

[Master Mason]

I think that whatever your son wants to be called should be what the teacher uses. That said, being a teacher myself......I always wonder why parents give their kids a name and then don't actually use that name? For isntance, John and then call the child Jack.....why not just name the child Jack? I have a son named Jack, its not John legally and then Jack as a nickname, its just Jack! Yes, like the show Will and Grace, lol! I just don't get naming a child one name and then calling them another.

Gee I don't know, no one seamed to have an issue with John Kennedy being called Jack? It's a common nickname for John. Just like Dick for Richard, or Bill for William etc.

 

[kerrynic78]

BECAUSE the child's name is Alexander Storm lastname. Meaning HIS FIRST NAME is Alexander. He PREFERS to be called Storm his MIDDLE NAME. READING COMPREHENSION!!!! Halfway would be fine but there is no half way on this because it's the teachers rule. This is my point, by bucking the rule or asking the teacher to it would take away from his or her authority in class.

Simmer down...whoa!

 

[RitaE]

No, I'm not believing this person is even a teacher. Posts FULL of misspellings/grammatical errors + contentious attitude = pulling our legs.

I have to agree.
What kind of weird teacher would ever make a class rule over what kind of name you can have?

"Robert? No I'm sorry, but that breaks Rule #316, paragraphs a thru c. No Roberts allowed. You will be Caleb here in my class."

 

[declansdad]

BECAUSE the child's name is Alexander Storm lastname. Meaning HIS FIRST NAME is Alexander. He PREFERS to be called Storm his MIDDLE NAME. READING COMPREHENSION!!!! Halfway would be fine but there is no half way on this because it's the teachers rule. This is my point, by bucking the rule or asking the teacher to it would take away from his or her authority in class.

Many people use their middle name. Is is nobody's business to tell them they can't. If having the teacher call her son by the name everyone else uses takes away his authority, he isn't much of a teacher.

By the way, you don't need caps, I can read just fine thank you.

 

[sharlon]

If the name was important mom should have named him Storm Alexander or changed it immediately when she realized he wanted to be NAMED Storm. not just CALLED Storm.

Holding my breath and jumping in with both feet. After reading all of this, it is quite clear to me that OP's son is NAMED Storm, not just CALLED Storm. Also, my mom is a high school teacher. Has been for 26 years. My sister had a teacher who insisted on shortening her given name. You better believe my mother went to the school. Even after that, the woman was still insistent on calling my sister the shortened name. Guess who went to the principal?
As for teachers sitting around gossiping about students. Yes they share pertinent information, but when it comes to gossiping, they primarily do that about other teachers.

 

[Wishing on a star]

OMG!!!!!



These ridiculous comments with a teacher thinking they know what a parent should or should not have done!!!!



I'll have to remember to consult with every possible teacher that my unborn child might have in his future to determine if his name is or is not acceptable!!!!

OMG!!!! I can't breathe!!!!

 

[Sandy V.]

If the name was important mom should have named him Storm Alexander or changed it immediately when she realized he wanted to be NAMED Storm. not just CALLED Storm.

We bow to your wisdom . . .

So she should have changed it when he was 4 if he decided then? And when he was 5 and wanted to be called Superman, should she have changed it to THAT?!? My goodness, it is SO obvious that you aren't a parent. Kids go through all sorts of phases when they hate and like their names and want to change them to reflect popular culture.

And by your spelling and punctuation errors, it's scary that you're a teacher (if you really are . . . I still think you have to be a troll, but I'll play along for awhile)

And MushyMushy is a teacher, and I'd take one of her in a classroom over TEN of you any day!!!