Groom's Cake Question!

[Majekmoon14]

I've been hearing about a groom's cake. What exactly is this? Is it like the top part of the wedding cake or another cake separate from your wedding cake? Is it eaten at the wedding b/c I heard somewhere that some people eat it at the rehersel dinner etc. Is it customary, I mean do most people get one? Thanks!!

 

[JonetteA]

I have been where they have it at the reception. It is usually a seperate cake. Quite honestly, I think a person can only have so much cake!!!!!!! I have seen pictures of where they did it at the rehearsal meal as well. I don't know, maybe this is a southern thing. (I am from the south, and I see it alot) I don't know if we are going to end up having one or not.

 

[pouncingpluto]

I think it's primarily a tradition of the U.S. southeast.

Many couples only have the one cake, not the additional groom's cake.

 

[Glass Slipper]

How funny...I'm from the South also and every wedding that I've been to has had a groom's cake! I didn't even realize that some people don't have one. Guess you learn something new everyday! In the South, traditionally the groom's cake is chocolate! Let's here it for the cake! ...as you can tell...I love desserts!

 

[Equidae]

The groom's cake is a southern tradition. It's usually a reflection of the groom's interest and almost always chocolate. Did you see 'Steel Magnolia's'? The bleeding armadillo cake is a groom's cake. The actual wedding cake is usually referred to as the bride's cake. In recent years the groom's cake has started to show up at the rehearsal dinner (which is when we are having it). Not everyone has one at all, so if it isn't for you, that's ok!

 

[pixie08]

I have heard the groom's cake mentioned but I have NEVER seen one up here in NY or NJ so I guess it is a regional thing. Since that is the case you probably don't need it unless you really want it!

 

[FranP]

DD did a football themed groom's cake for her husband - they served it at the renearsal dinner. We also had a small bride's cake (3 tiers, largest being an 8 in. round) for the bridesmaids' luncheon with a cinderella bride figure on top!

 

[christineangel]

Interesting, i never realized the groom's cake was a southern thing, but then again i've lived my whole life in the South. Anyway from my understanding the groom's cake is supposed to be for fun- an interesting looking cake (a football or football logo for example) usually chocolate while the bride's cake is the traditional white wedding cake. It's a good way to add variety and have more cake for larger wedding without having a huge wedding cake and of course a lot of people just don't like wedding cake-too dry. If you are having a smaller wedding or don't think you need more than one cake flavor I don't think you really need one.

 

[IntheKnow]

The grooms cake can be anything from the grooms college, to his favorite sports team, interest, hobby's, or even his vocation. The cake is usually served at the rehearsal dinner, but recently has more often been presented at the wedding reception on a side table. The seperate table is so the grooms cake will not conflict with the wedding cake, which is usually the centerpiece of the reception

 

[pouncingpluto]

Sorry, but I'm going to sound feminist here. It bugs me to have a special cake that represents the groom's interests without having one that represents the bride's interests. Or at least a shared interest. I just don't think the traditional cake cuts it as "the bride's cake." Brides have fun and multi-faceted personalities too.

I'm also making my maid of honor give a toast because I think it is sexist to have only the best man do it.

 

[IntheKnow]

Well, I can tell you this much. The VAST majority of events that request a grooms cake are the events where the groom has had very little if any say in the wedding cake itself. It is more of the brides idea for the grooms cake as well. And because the grooms cake is usually served at the rehearsal dinner, more of the brides interests are reflected. Often the cake is created to reflect when or where the B/G first met or a shared interest.