Go to support the team or no?

[ajk912]

So my son is sick, I took him to the doc Thursday afternoon and he has croup, and then yesterday he developed a fever and he now is really pale/tired. No need to take him back to the doc at this point, I think it's just the virus running it's course. The doc had said he should lay low for 3 days (he is on prednisone to help open his airways) because physical activity could cause more coughing fits. The doc said he is not contagious (now I am not so sure, since he developed a fever since then?!?). His voice is very raspy.

Anyway, today is the final football game of the season. My DH has to work, which is fine, but he's insisting I take my son anyway because even if he's benched he should go and support the team. Normally I wouldn't care, but it's supposed to rain all day, so he would be out in the rain, sick, for two hours. I told my DH, I am mostly worried about MONDAY..and next week..he missed school yesterday but we need to get him healthy so he can go back on Monday. My DH said I should stop signing my kids up for activities if they are going to skip if they don't feel well, it's not being a good team player, unless they are in the hospital they go.

The team did NOT make the playoffs. I could see if they were playoff contenders, doping him up with Tylenol Flu and hoping for the best. It's the last game. I have until 5pm today to decide. BTW, my son does not want to go (feels lousy and just wants to lay in bed) but my DH says I am treating him like a sissy. Oh, he is 10, this is minors tackle football.

Thanks!!!!

 

[Mkrop]

I would keep him home. I might reconsider if it was not raining and the kid was up for it but I would want to keep him out of the rain so he can be healthy for school on Monday.

 

[The Mystery Machine]

No way would I bring a sick kid to a football game. Common sense should prevail in this situation.

 

[mjkacmom]

Keep him home. My ds11 has sat the bench with an injury, but not with an illness.

 

[Chelley00]

Not only is it bad for your son to be out in the rain and exposed to all those germs when he's sick, but you are also exposing all the other people there to your sick son. Croup, virus and fevers are contagious. It's not just about common sense for your son's health, it's about consideration of other people.

 

[barkley]

the lead story on all the news broadcasts is about influenza and swine flu. i cannot fathom any parent wanting to take their child who is already ill and therefore would be at a greater risk for contracting either of these potentialy deadly viruses into a public place. the kid is on prednisone to help keep his airways open? why take the chance he gets exposed to someone else who is contagious with some kind of bronchial virus-or he makes the situation worse breathing in moist/humid air.

i'de be telling your dh 'better a healthy sissy than a potentialy fataly ill team supporter'.

 

[3boymthr]

Unless the team needs him to keep the headcounts up so they don't have to forfeit I would keep him home.

Remind DH that most of the other parents will thank you for keeping him home. They don't want their kids coming down sick. It's very hard in this day and age for most parents to have sick kids so I appreciate it when people keep their sick kids home especially if they don't need to be there.

 

[ajk912]

Unless the team needs him to keep the headcounts up so they don't have to forfeit I would keep him home.

Remind DH that most of the other parents will thank you for keeping him home. They don't want their kids coming down sick. It's very hard in this day and age for most parents to have sick kids so I appreciate it when people keep their sick kids home especially if they don't need to be there.

See, that's the thing I think DH is worried about. There are only 16?or is it 17? kids on the team and you need 11 kids to play without forfeiting. At practice this week, the most kids that showed up were 9. So the sickies are hitting our area hard. They may really NEED my son to play, and at the very least he will be needed to give the other kids a break. I keep going back and forth, part of me is thinking, "screw the team, I am worried about my family first" but it stinks when you have a very lean team to begin with and the team really needs the others.

And the doc DID say he isn't contagious, so I figure she knows what she is talking about!?? And it's ironic that the pp mentioned the warm, moist air..actually, that HELPS in my ds's case, it's a nature driven humidifier!

I don't know, I guess we will make our final decision in a few hours here. I just don't want him to get worse. At least it's outside I guess?

 

[Abbie]

Mom, you know what your gut is saying, don't you? You need to do what's best for your son, which is a real no-brainer here and tell Dad to back off.

Your child is not just feeling lousy, he is sick. The most dangerous part of the latest sickness going around is when a fever develops after the initial illness. He is at much more risk of developing pneumonia at this point, especially since you mentioned his airways are already compromised. And being on prednisone lowers the immune system so you are just asking for more trouble by exposing him to the viruses running rampant out there right now. (Not to mention whatever he's brewing he will spread it like others have mentioned.) Your doctor even specifically said lay low for three days, that means until at least Sunday. And you're considering not only taking him but allowing him to relieve other players??

I do understand that support the team concept, we've been there, done that with multiple injuries over the years. My son sat on the bench after two surgeries as soon as he was able just to be there in support. This is way different though and even your son isn't feeling able. Please listen to your gut and your son!

 

[disneyfan007]

I would not take mine. He needs to recuperate for Monday. Also I know at my son's school he would not be allowed to participate because he was not in school on Friday. That is part of their attendance policy.

 

[Pumbaa_]

it does not sound like your husband is not considering what is best for HIS son

The best thing for his son is to stay home and rest. Your son is recuperating and is more susceptible to the illnesses out there.

I cannot see that a doctor would think it would be ok to take your son out of his sickbed to sit on a bench for 2 hours in inclement weather

Sorry if the team is short people, but you need to do what is best for your child, not the team

what is up with your husbands attitude anyway? Seems very passive agressive blaming you for the team being down players

 

[agnes!]

So my son is sick, I took him to the doc Thursday afternoon and he has croup, and then yesterday he developed a fever and he now is really pale/tired. No need to take him back to the doc at this point, I think it's just the virus running it's course. The doc had said he should lay low for 3 days (he is on prednisone to help open his airways) because physical activity could cause more coughing fits. The doc said he is not contagious (now I am not so sure, since he developed a fever since then?!?). His voice is very raspy.

Anyway, today is the final football game of the season. My DH has to work, which is fine, but he's insisting I take my son anyway because even if he's benched he should go and support the team. Normally I wouldn't care, but it's supposed to rain all day, so he would be out in the rain, sick, for two hours. I told my DH, I am mostly worried about MONDAY..and next week..he missed school yesterday but we need to get him healthy so he can go back on Monday. My DH said I should stop signing my kids up for activities if they are going to skip if they don't feel well, it's not being a good team player, unless they are in the hospital they go.

The team did NOT make the playoffs. I could see if they were playoff contenders, doping him up with Tylenol Flu and hoping for the best. It's the last game. I have until 5pm today to decide. BTW, my son does not want to go (feels lousy and just wants to lay in bed) but my DH says I am treating him like a sissy. Oh, he is 10, this is minors tackle football.

Thanks!!!!

I have one question for your husband...
Does your husband always go to work unless he is in the hospital? he probably doesn't but if he does I bet his co-workers appreciate him sharing all his viruses and colds with them... "Here comes Typhoid Larry, sniffling and sneezing and coughing! Oh, goody, he has a fever too? Yay."

agnes!
PS - Just because your DS has no fever *now* doesn't mean he won't develop one during the day.

 

[Carly_Roach]

This is a sport, not a job or an obligation. It's a sport. Priorities, man. Priorities.

If your DH thinks it'll make your son look like he's not a team-player if he doesn't show up with Swine Flu symptoms (even though you know it's not the Swine Flu), imagine how it'll look to all the other parents when their children start getting sick and have to sit out one or two weeks of play?

If your DH thinks he's "teaching" his 10 y/o something, he's right. But is it a lesson you really want that child to learn?

 

[OceanAnnie]

My .02, no, it's not time to support the team. It's time to get well.

 

[Becky2005]

Umm...personally NO, my child would NOT be going to a football game that doesn't mean anything in the end and has the possibility of infecting others. I know you said he's not contagious but if he hasn't been fever free for 24 hours, umm... no.

I'm sure the other parents would be *so* thrilled you are bringing your sick kid to just sit on the bench and get their kids sick too. NOT!! I would be ticked off at you if my kid then became sick -- it would be assumed it was from your child even if they caught it somewhere else.

 

[PrincessKsMom]

If your son was in the NFL or even college, I'd say yes. Otherwise, the world won't end and the team won't miss the playoffs because your son didn't show up. It's nice that you and your husband express to your son how important it is when you're part of a team, but making your son sicker because of some misplaced sense of loyalty is ridiculous. It's obvious the other parents are keeping their kids home, you should too.

and hoping he's better soon!

 

[DizBelle]

Let me get this straight. Your DH cares more about a kids football game than the well-being of his own son?

Seriously?

 

[4forMe]

Let me get this straight. Your DH cares more about a kids football game than the well-being of his own son?

Seriously?

I'm not the OP but unfortunately I know many dads like this, including my brother. My nephew was sick last week with the flu (most likely swine flu) and he was still on the bench at football practice last Saturday in the rain. I was LIVID - now it looks like other kids on the team are sick - surprise, surprise. There is just no reasoning with my brother.

I would pull the mom card and keep him home!!! He especially shouldn't be around the other players if he's been running a fever.

Do what's best for your child. As another poster said, this is not the NFL.

 

[minkydog]

So my son is sick, I took him to the doc Thursday afternoon and he has croup, and then yesterday he developed a fever and he now is really pale/tired.

Anyway, today is the final football game of the season. My DH he's insisting I take my son anyway because even if he's benched he should go and support the team. Normally I wouldn't care, but it's supposed to rain all day, so he would be out in the rain, sick, for two hours.

My DH said I should stop signing my kids up for activities if they are going to skip if they don't feel well, it's not being a good team player, unless they are in the hospital they go.

The team did NOT make the playoffs. I could see if they were playoff contenders, doping him up with Tylenol Flu and hoping for the best. It's the last game. I have until 5pm today to decide. BTW, my son does not want to go (feels lousy and just wants to lay in bed) but my DH says I am treating him like a sissy. Oh, he is 10, this is minors tackle football.

Thanks!!!!

OMG! He's 10 frickin' years old? Pardon my French, but your husband is an idiot! The kid has croup, for God's sake. He feels like crap and your DH thinks that sitting in the cold and rain for 2 hours would be the best treatment? Holy cow. I thought I had seen everything,but I learn something new everyday on the DIS.

Stick to your guns. Do not, absolutely DO NOT take this child to the football game. I don't care if Dad threatens and begs. OMG. This beats all I've ever seen. I wouldn't care if he was a college student. Why would you want to put your son through this? And risk his visiting this viral illness on everyone else on the team? Gee, you'll be the most popular parents in town. NOT.

 

[JerseyJanice]

I would keep him home and hit my husband in the head with a frying pan if he gave me or my son a hard time about it.