Girls Only Trip ~ OLD Thread, see link in first post for new one

[DangerMouse]

Last night Ruben was hit by a drunk driver. Thank God he was fine. Long story short, the other driver was in a truck and smashed into the side sliding door on our mini van, then decided to flee the scene.

Luckily Ruben got the license plate number of his truck and called the police so hopefully they can find him. Although the guy was pretty out of it. I doubt he'll remember doing it or admit it. Not sure how we are going to get the smashed in side door fixed. Or what this will mean for our insurance.

Oh well. I'm just thankful Ruben was fine. But between that, a crappy Monday morning, and a busy night tonight, I'm seriously ready for this week to be over already.

Beth, I'm so glad Ruben is ok! I hope your insurance is able to fix your fan, or even better, give you your Christmas wish for a new one!

DH is spending the night at City of HOPE for observation. He is having some weird seizure type episodes. But he is ok. So I am off to bed alone. night all.

Linda, prayers for your dh and I hope he is home quickly and seizure-free.

B]I just want this week to be over!
Next week is finals but I'm okay with exams just not projects and papers!

Cristabel, good luck with your end of semester work and finals. I'm sure it's a stressful time for you.

I can't remember what else... hope everyone is doing okay. We found out with this rain that our drains are not draining! And today the shower wasn't draining. So we are getting an estimate tomorrow from roto rooter. It is obviously the main line. That's an expense we were not anticipating... talk about a scaled down holiday...

Donna, sorry about the plumbing issues. I hope it's an easy fix and doesn't cost too much.

Yesterday went fairly well. It was SO good to see my girls again and their conferences went well. They only have a few areas that they need to work on so in general they are right where they should be. Then they begged me to let them get an ice cream for getting a good report card so I went ahead and let them have one. For anyone who like candy canes and chocolate DQ has a new blizzard right now that is SUPER yummy. Even if you aren't a real fan of candy canes this is REALLY good!

Then we just came home and last night we went to dinner at Elephant Bar. We got a gift card LAST year from our soccer team for Shane as coach and I have just never got around to using it. (not my fav place to eat). I was thinking it might be 20 or 30 bucks but it was 60!!! So it paid for all but 7 bucks of our meal! I was really happy about THAT! And Shane decided to buy himself a new phone and wanted me to get one too so we are on the same network and it isn't costing us a ton to call eachother so we switched to verizon. So I have a new number if we are doing the phone lists again this year. Plus if anyone tries to call my old one that is why it is disconnected.

Anyway we had a good talk with the girls and I think at least for now things are going fairly well. Shane and I had a LONG talk about how things are going to be around here and HOPEFULLY we can stick to that!

Kelly, glad to read that you and Shane have been able to work through some of the issues calmly and are coming up with a workable plan for your family.

Just a quick recap of the last 5 days:

-Had to take the baby to the emergency room. She hit her head REALLY hard on our ottoman (made out of solid wood) & got a concussion. It was scary because she couldn't even walk anymore & when she tried, her balance was so off she would just fall over. They had to monitor her for 24 hours. But thank God she is fine now.

-While at the hospital, I found out our insurance was no longer valid . My lovely DH forgot to tell me that his former job cut the benefits in October & he didn't want to pay for it . So my whole family doesn't have insurance. The hospital is just going to bill me, but I already know it's going to be at least $2,000 since she was in their overnight .

-My husband went to court on Monday & he will be in jail for 4 months. So he will be missing the baby's 1st birthday. They did say he will probably get released early since the county jail is so over crowded & he's offensive isn't a serious one.

-Someone ran into my car while I was shopping & didn't leave their information. So the back of my cars is broke. The bumper is broke & there is a huge dent. I got and estimate of $546 to fix and since my insurance deductible is $500, it's not worth going through insurance. I don't have the money to fix it, so I have to drive around with a messed up car.

-And last, my dryer broke. This isn't major but just the icing on my crap cake. I've been having to do laundry at the laundry mat which has it's pros and cons. Pros being, I can do all my laundry at the same time . Cons, everything else. I don't have the funds to buy a new dryer right now so I'm going to try to see if it's cheaper to repair. I have a repair man coming on Friday, so I pray it's not too much $$$$.

Sorry to babble about my problems, but I'm seriously in trouble financially. As of January 8th, I'll have no income . I'm praying that a job will come through or that unemployment decides to do another emergency extension. Otherwise I'm in deep doo-doo.

I'm having to forego Christmas and Laila's 1st birthday. I've already talked to the kids and they seem fine with it. I'm still going to do stockings for them & I let them each pick something special they'd like to eat to cook (Devin picked fried chicken & Adara picked perogies). So we are going to do a movie day instead. It should be fun.

Uh oh, I was babbling again . Thanks for letting me vent. It feels good to get everything off my chest.

Big Hugs to you Katie. What an absolute horrible chain of ick for you. It's just gotta get better from here, doesn't it??

HI ladies!

I am around, just really busy.

I hope all is fine with everyone.

Love to you!

Mel

Hi Melody! Love ya! Miss ya!

 

[karylrocks]

Wow, I just can't believe all the tragedy that is happening to so many of us. I am thinking of and praying for all of you! I have gone through some really rough times but right now things are not so bad, just the economy but we at least still have jobs and our health and a safe and warm place to live. It is 19 degrees and I hope my pipes don't freeze and break now that I have said that!

I'm off to work to try to get everything done as quickly as possible so I can get home to get ready for my trip tomorrow.

 

[kelmac284]

Katie I am SO sorry that all of this is happening to you! It seems like there are SO many of us that are going through hard times right now. You and your family will be in my prayers! ((hugs))

Courtney I am sorry you are sick. Take care of yourself and feel better soon!!

 

[mommaU4]

Wow, I just can't believe all the tragedy that is happening to so many of us.

I agree. It sucks.


I am trying to find a new attitude though. Trying to keep positive which is huge for me. I am usually the negative one in my family and groups of friends.
My goal or resolution for the New Year (starting now though) is to find something each and every day to be thankful for.

For example, I was thinking about the guy who hit Ruben. He was totally out of it. No clue where he was going or what he was doing. And no intention of slowing down.
Behind Ruben was a shop and a sidewalk. I wonder if the van hadn't stopped the guy, would he have kept going, perhaps even crashing into the store?? So by our van getting hit, maybe that stopped this guy from hitting and injuring or even killing someone on the sidewalk or in the store. Who knows. But things happen for a reason, so I'm going with that thought.



And Katie's comment about laundry made me remember, when we lived in Burbank, I had to go to the laundry mat too. I'd show up with 12-13 loads of laundry sometimes because there is six of us, and back then the twins were babies and you KNOW how much laundry babies make.

I'd be so annoyed and aggravated that I had to haul it all to the car, then into the laundromat, then back again. Until one day, there was another lady who had 3 kids with her, AND a bunch of laundry, but she was getting off the bus.

And it just made me realize, okay, it sucks to have to do this, but at least I have a car to drive and I don't have to take my dirty clothes and kids on the bus to get here. It just made me stop and think, and realize if you look hard enough, there is always something to be grateful for.


Hmmm, I hope my post doesn't sound like a lecture to anyone, or in any way down play anyone's problems. I'm just trying to show there is always a bright side, if we look for it. In the past, I have often failed to do that, but I'm going to try from now on. (uhhh yeah, wish me luck!! lol)

Hugs to everyone who needs them now.

 

[mommaU4]

Good morning ladies.
I’m sick, again. I really don’t know what’s going on. Right now I just have a head cold, I feel fine. Hopefully it doesn’t get any worse and I’m praying I don’t get a cough and congested in my lungs!

I'm sorry to hear that you are sick! Take care of yourself.

I
Today is the Christmas party at the boy's preschool. I'm excited to see what they do. They kids are so cute and sweet.

Awww, they are cute and sweet. What's more fun than a Christmas party and all their excited faces.

 

[stacielee]

Meet &greet, I am getting the impression you all will notice if I am not there.

Of course we would notice! We might have to come and kidnap you!!

Last night Ruben was hit by a drunk driver. Thank God he was fine. Long story short, the other driver was in a truck and smashed into the side sliding door on our mini van, then decided to flee the scene.

Luckily Ruben got the license plate number of his truck and called the police so hopefully they can find him. Although the guy was pretty out of it. I doubt he'll remember doing it or admit it. Not sure how we are going to get the smashed in side door fixed. Or what this will mean for our insurance.

Oh well. I'm just thankful Ruben was fine. But between that, a crappy Monday morning, and a busy night tonight, I'm seriously ready for this week to be over already.

In fact, I think I'm going to call it a night and head to bed. Talk to y'all tomorrow!!

That is so scary! I'm glad he's alright. Hopefully you don't have to pay anything to get it fixed, seems like the other guy's insurance should have to pay for that.

Prayers to Linda, Katie, Donna, and anyone else who needs them. There's a lot of bad stuff happening, and it's supposed to be the happy holiday season!!

As for me, I've got a little bit of a cold, but nothing that Dayquil/Nyquil won't take care of. I just have to remember to pack it for this weekend. And HOPE it doesn't rain this weekend while we're in DL, especially during MA!!!

 

[cheshiregirl]

I should have used multiquote, but since I didn't, I'm just gonna say that I am sending the biggest of hugs and the power of pixie dust to each and everyone of you. I know that it's been a crappy year for a lot of you and that many are hurting right now--emotionally, physically and financially. But Beth is so right about how much we all have to thankful for, not the least of which is each other. Love you girls!!!

 

[lulubelle]

I agree. It sucks.



I am trying to find a new attitude though. Trying to keep positive which is huge for me. I am usually the negative one in my family and groups of friends.
My goal or resolution for the New Year (starting now though) is to find something each and every day to be thankful for.

For example, I was thinking about the guy who hit Ruben. He was totally out of it. No clue where he was going or what he was doing. And no intention of slowing down.
Behind Ruben was a shop and a sidewalk. I wonder if the van hadn't stopped the guy, would he have kept going, perhaps even crashing into the store?? So by our van getting hit, maybe that stopped this guy from hitting and injuring or even killing someone on the sidewalk or in the store. Who knows. But things happen for a reason, so I'm going with that thought.



And Katie's comment about laundry made me remember, when we lived in Burbank, I had to go to the laundry mat too. I'd show up with 12-13 loads of laundry sometimes because there is six of us, and back then the twins were babies and you KNOW how much laundry babies make.

I'd be so annoyed and aggravated that I had to haul it all to the car, then into the laundromat, then back again. Until one day, there was another lady who had 3 kids with her, AND a bunch of laundry, but she was getting off the bus.

And it just made me realize, okay, it sucks to have to do this, but at least I have a car to drive and I don't have to take my dirty clothes and kids on the bus to get here. It just made me stop and think, and realize if you look hard enough, there is always something to be grateful for.


Hmmm, I hope my post doesn't sound like a lecture to anyone, or in any way down play anyone's problems. I'm just trying to show there is always a bright side, if we look for it. In the past, I have often failed to do that, but I'm going to try from now on. (uhhh yeah, wish me luck!! lol)

Hugs to everyone who needs them now.

I completely agree with you Beth. I really try to always be positive and happy for the things we have. I know I have said many times how grateful we are that DH & I have good, stable jobs and a nice house we love and of course our biggest blessing - our Angel Bree.. I don't let the bad stuff get me down too much. But it is all a part of life and what makes us strong and helps us grow as people - right? Now I am sounding like a lecture!

Katie - I am so sorry. Things have to turn around for you and your family.

 

[disney-super-mom]

I didn't multiquote either, so I'm going to try to remember all of this by memory.

Katie: Yikes babe! You're really going through some CRAPALOOSKI! I'm so sorry you're having to deal with all this.......and.......I don't know what your ex did to get put in jail......but......it seems that people who lead negative lifestyles suck everyone in their life right down with them, if that makes sense. I've been there myself, and the only way to get out of it is to get away from them for good. Minimal exposure so to speak. I'm very relieved to hear that your miss Cutie Pie is going to be okay. That is SCARY!!! Do you have any family around to help you? I wish I was there so I could take off some of the pressure for you.

Beth: What the hey?!!! I hope they get that guy!!!! Thank the LORD that Ruben or anyone else wasn't hurt or worse. If Ruben got the guy's license plate, then I'm sure the police will get him. And it wouldn't matter if the guy admitted to the accident or not because I'm sure the damage to his car would tell the real story just fine.

Linda: You and your hubby are in my prayers.

Donna: Uhhh ohhh, I know all about flooding - LOL. It sounds like it's the main line to me too. I hope the plumber can get it fixed today at a VERY REASONABLE cost so it doesn't sting too much.

Oh, and by the way, there's a little checkarooski in your Christmas card for $21.70. I'm sorry it took me so long to get it to you (kind of got a little behind with everything going on the last few weeks), but it is finally on the way - YAY!

Stacerita, Stacielee, and Courtney: All right! You all need to take care of yourselves and get better!

Amy: You ARE COMING on the trip. How many times do I have to tell you that?!!!

Vanessa: I used to be a front desk manager for several years, so I know exactly how difficult it can be to work with the public and make them happy. Hang in there! Hey, but I do really like Macys!

Christabel: HUGS for finals!

Kelly: Yay for peaceful, happy family plans!

Melody: I've missed you.

Steph: Your poor pup. And your poor windshield. Hang in there!

Debra: Good luck on your finals today!


I hope I didn't miss anyone, but here's HUGS for ALL my Diva BABES!

 

[mommaU4]

As for me, I've got a little bit of a cold, but nothing that Dayquil/Nyquil won't take care of. I just have to remember to pack it for this weekend. And HOPE it doesn't rain this weekend while we're in DL, especially during MA!!!

I love NyQuil!!
Rain, rain stay away!!! Good luck on MA! I know the Dashing Divas will kick butt.

Love you girls!!!

Now I am sounding like a lecture!

Not at all. I love your attitude and it's one I'm trying to take on as well. I mean, really what choice do we have other than to chose to stay positive? It's either that, or sit around and cry and feel sorry for ourselves which will get us no where.

Did you see the story on that one Biggest Loser contestant who's husband, 5 year old daughter and 2 week old son were all killed in a car crash?? She was on Ellen and was saying how she didn't know how she was going to go on, but she made the choice to keep living, and keep having her faith, and keep spreading happiness to those around her. Amazing. I'm not sure I could have if I was in her shoes. kwim??

I have this hanging in my room, and I'm always reading it to my kids hoping to drill it into them. Doesn't always work, on them or me, but I do like it and find it to be true. If only I can just learn to apply it more often in my own life and stop being such a grouchy, mean, ***** all the time.

ATTITUDE
by: Charles Swindoll

The longer I live, the more I realize the impact of attitude on life.

Attitude, to me, is more important than facts.
It is more important than the past, than education, than money, than circumstances, than failures, than successes, than what other people think or say or do.
It is more important than appearance, giftedness or skill. It will make or break a company... a church... a home.

The remarkable thing is we have a choice every day regarding the attitude we will embrace for that day.
We cannot change our past... we cannot change the fact that people will act in a certain way. We cannot change the inevitable.
The only thing we can do is play on the one string we have, and that is our attitude... I am convinced that life is 10% what happens to me and 90% how I react to it.

And so it is with you... we are in charge of our attitudes.​

Okay, that's enough out of me. I promise!!!

 

[MamaKate]

Thanks everyone for the thoughts & prayers. They mean more than you know to me . I really don't have any one to talk to (except my younger sister) so it's good to know you guys are here to listen.

I’m sick, again. I really don’t know what’s going on. Right now I just have a head cold, I feel fine. Hopefully it doesn’t get any worse and I’m praying I don’t get a cough and congested in my lungs!

I'm sorry you're having a relapse. Try to get some sleep & take care of yourself .

I'm sorry to hear of all your problems Katie! If the insurance was COBRA eligible, it will be retroactive if you get it now. It's expensive though, and that might not be an option for you.

Heather

I looked into COBRA, but for a family, the cost is redonkulus . I'm applying for "Healthy Families" for my kids, which is a State subsidized program. The monthly fees and co-payments are really inexpensive, so I hope it works out. I won't have insurance, but at least the kids will .

Katie[/B] ~ Oh honey. I am so, so sorry things are just so rough for you now. Hang in there my friend. They have to get better. Have faith. And I'm so glad to hear the baby was okay. (((hugs)))

Thanks Beth. I'm very thankful the baby is okay & the brain swelling went down on it's own. It was very scary & I thought Adara was going to have a breakdown she was so scared.

I am trying to find a new attitude though. Trying to keep positive which is huge for me. I am usually the negative one in my family and groups of friends.

And Katie's comment about laundry made me remember, when we lived in Burbank, I had to go to the laundry mat too. I'd show up with 12-13 loads of laundry sometimes because there is six of us, and back then the twins were babies and you KNOW how much laundry babies make.

I'd be so annoyed and aggravated that I had to haul it all to the car, then into the laundromat, then back again. Until one day, there was another lady who had 3 kids with her, AND a bunch of laundry, but she was getting off the bus.

I LOVE your positivity Beth.

I'm still remaining optimistic! I may have a few more bumps & struggles the next few months, but I believe we will survive no matter what happens.

Oh, and on the laundry mat I felt the same way you did about lugging the baby and all the laundry back & forth. But like you said, at least I had a car to help me out. And I was grateful that I got all my laundry done in under 2 hours instead of an all day event .

I'm so sorry to read all your issues!! Why oh why do things have to hit all together??? Sheesh!! Sending hugs and prayers to you guys during these tough times. I hope something happens soon to turn it all around.
What are your kids ages? (sorry...my brain faded!)

I don't know why problems happen all at once, but I'm a firm believer that God doesn't give you more than you can handle, so I'm sure I'll be fine. Yes, it's not fun & my life right now is far from where I thought I'd be at this point in my life, but at least I have my kids to help keep me from going insane .

Devin is 14, Adara will be 13 in February & Laila will be 1 on Dec. 29th.

It's a good year to sort of skip Christmas because Devin & Adara are old enough to understand and the baby has no idea what's going on anyway . Devin's just excited I'm making him fried chicken .

 

[mommaU4]

I didn't multiquote either, so I'm going to try to remember all of this by memory.

Beth: What the hey?!!! I hope they get that guy!!!! Thank the LORD that Ruben or anyone else wasn't hurt or worse. If Ruben got the guy's license plate, then I'm sure the police will get him. And it wouldn't matter if the guy admitted to the accident or not because I'm sure the damage to his car would tell the real story just fine.

Wow, from memory?? Damn girl, I'm impressed.

I hope so. But I'm not sure. The accident actually happened in a parking lot, and the police said there's nothing much they can do because it's "private property". WTH?? Really? I never heard of such a thing. It wasn't a private residence. Seems like a bunch of crap to me.

See, there I go, being all grouchy and *****y again. Didn't take long did it?

Oh well, whatever. Ruben will be talking to the insurance co. soon and it will work out one way or another. I'm happy no one was harmed.

 

[mommaU4]

I'm applying for "Healthy Families" for my kids, which is a State subsidized program. The monthly fees and co-payments are really inexpensive, so I hope it works out. I won't have insurance, but at least the kids will .


Oh, and on the laundry mat I felt the same way you did about lugging the baby and all the laundry back & forth. But like you said, at least I had a car to help me out. And I was grateful that I got all my laundry done in under 2 hours instead of an all day event .

That's good. Healthy Families will be a good thing.

LOL I did like that part of going to the laundromat. 2 hours, and done! It was rather funny to see the other patrons faces when I'd walk in and out, in and out, carrying basket after basket of clothing too. I'm sure they were grateful not to be me!!!

 

[DangerMouse]

ATTITUDE
by: Charles Swindoll

The longer I live, the more I realize the impact of attitude on life.

Attitude, to me, is more important than facts.
It is more important than the past, than education, than money, than circumstances, than failures, than successes, than what other people think or say or do.
It is more important than appearance, giftedness or skill. It will make or break a company... a church... a home.

The remarkable thing is we have a choice every day regarding the attitude we will embrace for that day.
We cannot change our past... we cannot change the fact that people will act in a certain way. We cannot change the inevitable.
The only thing we can do is play on the one string we have, and that is our attitude... I am convinced that life is 10% what happens to me and 90% how I react to it.

And so it is with you... we are in charge of our attitudes.​

Okay, that's enough out of me. I promise!!!

Printed and put on the CENTER of my fridge.

 

[Queenbillabong]

LOL I did like that part of going to the laundromat. 2 hours, and done! It was rather funny to see the other patrons faces when I'd walk in and out, in and out, carrying basket after basket of clothing too. I'm sure they were grateful not to be me!!!

No, they were probably thinking "that [edited] better not think she's using up all the machines to herself!!!!"

 

[MamaKate]

Katie: Yikes babe! You're really going through some CRAPALOOSKI! I'm so sorry you're having to deal with all this.......and.......I don't know what your ex did to get put in jail......but......it seems that people who lead negative lifestyles suck everyone in their life right down with them, if that makes sense. I've been there myself, and the only way to get out of it is to get away from them for good. Minimal exposure so to speak. I'm very relieved to hear that your miss Cutie Pie is going to be okay. That is SCARY!!! Do you have any family around to help you? I wish I was there so I could take off some of the pressure for you.

You are right about that! My husband has always been a fixer upper. My thing is, I've always been the type who wants to help someone if they are having a problem or are in pain. Most of the time it's very rewarding & I love helping people, but it's different with my husband. It's just drains me trying to help him. I just have to realize he's unfixable.

 

[MamaKate]

No, they were probably thinking "that [edited]better not think she's using up all the machines to herself!!!!"

LOL! You are so right!!! Thanks for the laugh .

 

[CaliforniaDreamer]

I
I am trying to find a new attitude though. Trying to keep positive which is huge for me. I am usually the negative one in my family and groups of friends.
My goal or resolution for the New Year (starting now though) is to find something each and every day to be thankful for.

Until one day, there was another lady who had 3 kids with her, AND a bunch of laundry, but she was getting off the bus.

and realize if you look hard enough, there is always something to be grateful for.
:

Beth, one of my favorite posts of yours!!! That bus story is inspiring. I agree with you 100%, that expressing gratitude is the way. We all hit road bumps but we have a working car (our bodies) and we keep on driving to our destination.

You know that saying about how any day where you're above ground is a good day?

Wow, from memory?? Damn girl, I'm impressed.

I hope so. But I'm not sure. The accident actually happened in a parking lot, and the police said there's nothing much they can do because it's "private property". WTH?? Really? I never heard of such a thing. It wasn't a private residence. Seems like a bunch of crap to me.

Oh well, whatever. Ruben will be talking to the insurance co. soon and it will work out one way or another. I'm happy no one was harmed.

That does not make sense to me either! It's a crime, no matter where it happens. And it's worth you talking about this - maybe some lawyer will have an opinion. (okay, I know it's not her specialty...)

Printed and put on the CENTER of my fridge.

I love it.

I looked into COBRA, but for a family, the cost is redonkulus . I'm applying for "Healthy Families" for my kids, which is a State subsidized program. The monthly fees and co-payments are really inexpensive, so I hope it works out. I won't have insurance, but at least the kids will .

but at least I have my kids to help keep me from going insane .
:.

Maybe soon you will have more options for insurance. At my house we are really watching for that. I am so glad Leila is okay.

I've got roto rooter here. The good news is he says that it's not the main line unless both the shower and tub are not draining! Yea! He is outside trying to do the drains there (which are not draining at all but it's a separate line). They won't charge inside the house if they don't repair it but outside it's a flat fee regardless. But he's giving it a good college try! Thank you Kelly, Callie, Stacie, for your kind thoughts, I think they worked! (and anyone I missed!).

Grateful that it's not raining today and the hillside can dry out!

 

[CoMickey]

Good luck on MA! I know the Dashing Divas will kick butt.

Ummm...I think that would be the Flying Dumbos are going to kick some bottom!! (I have kids involved so can't say butt, but you know what I mean!) Our t-shirts do not compare to the Dashing Divas BUT....I'm just saying...the braniac kids are excited and ready to go!

 

[disney-inspired]

Katie - WOW, I'm sorry you're dealing with this crap sandwich of events. I think it's great that your kids understand and know what really matters, family. I hope you get work soon and everything turns itself around.

Yesterday felt like the longest day everrrrrrrrrrrrrr.

I want it to be Friday!