Hi ladies!
Each day gets better for me. I think all the prayers really help. It also helps to have my mom here in town to really help me. She went to the courthouse with me and has been watching Maddie while I have been doing paperwork and talking to the lawyer.
I have also been sticking to my WW and continue to lose weight. I have been walking/jogging 4-5 miles a day, too. Which for me is huge! I hate exercising with a passion. I find the time alone helps me to clear my mind and makes me feel better.
Anywho---I want you all to know that I truly appreciate your comments. I know I am not here enough to read all about your lives. I want you all to know I will make more of an effort to be a better friend to each one of you.
January - First
to you. I've been through a divorce too and I had been married for 21 years, I was the one who initiated it. I was scared and felt very lonely too. I learned that I could be self sufficient and I really only had myself and my daughter to take care of. I have been divorced for 7 years now and I've never regretted my decision. It was difficult at times but like Donna said once you get to the other side it's an amazing self discovery adventure!
Wow! You need hugs too! I am glad that you have the PO behind you maybe that will help.
Thanks for the comment. I am really scared. My DH made almost all the money. I only make $11.50 an hour. I am moving in with my parents until I am done with school at the end of next year. But DH is helping---at least for now. I have heard horror stories about support and issues with the non-custodial parent. I am still hoping to move out of state. Brent agreed on our parenting plan that I can leave the state. Maddie is my main focus. I am so glad that DH is cooperating. I have been cooperating too---he sees her every single night for 4 hours and he will have her Fri night and all day Saturday.
Sorry for rambling.
January, more hugs to you.
Brianne was 20 months old when I left her daddy and filed for divorce - it was soooo hard, but the best thing I ever did for me and my baby girl. Hang in there.
I love that we have a schedule, only I pronounce it Shed-u-ale like a giddy bloody brit. I KNOW, i am weird! I was hoping to add a DTD place or even offsite (maybe Mim's?) just to mix it up a bit. SH fo9llowed by free time, followed by GK seems PERFECT to me for Sat.
Excuse all my typo's, I am using Little Lulu and this tiny thing is very hard to type on!
Trudi & Sarah, I hope you both come in Oct.
Beth, can you add Brianne and I to the list of rooms at Hojo's? Thank you.
Thanks for the comment.
Linda you are too funny! Shed-u-ale.
Hi Everyone
January.. my mother divorced my biological father when i was 3. We were blessed with the bestest step father and husband for my mom when she married my step father. He is the only father i know and has been so loving. I will keep you in my prayers.
I know that I am doing the right thing. I have been going back and forth on this for at least 3 years. I remember whining to Beth about it on the 1st Ladies only trip to WDW. It has been a long time coming.
I am so happy that your mom was able to find a good man. I hope I can, too, someday.
Thanks for the prayers.
Seriously, you ladies are just so wonderful.
So I am pleased to announce, my Mom will be joining our trip next year! Yay for another Diva!
She's been really down and out lately with her surgery and work. I took her shopping today and it just popped in my mind she needs to come with me! I don't know why I didn't think of it earlier. She's so excited and after I post this I'm going to show her the schedule and last year's pictures.
Plus, I've been wanting to take to her DL for so long. February is just the perfect amount of time to save (for the both of us) so we can have an enjoyable trip and to splurge a little.
I'm so excited to meet you all. I know she is too.
Woohoo! I am so happy to hear your momma is coming! Another mommy-daughter group!
I'm going to try to post some pictures from Kiera's birthday party! Hopefully it will work!
Beautiful cake, Sarah! You did a great job!
I remember those ladies!
And your kids are just too cute!
Oh, and Glenn just got a message on his cell phone....to lay him off work. Yup, by message. To me that sounds like a pretty crappy way of telling someone they no longer have employment! Anyway, he should find out tomorrow whether or not he gets the job he interviewed for and if not then he will start the job search in earnest and apply for unemployment. We will also take the kids out of daycare to save money. I have volunteered for almost everyday for overtime...I don't know if there is any available, but if there is I will hopefully get it.
Have a great evening all.
Sarah
Oh know that just bites. And it seems way unprofessional.
January, Can I punch your
soon to be XDH out!!
He's a jerk, and you are just too nice to have that happen to you. Especially with one of your friends. (She needs to be punched out too!)
I wish I could give you the
biggest of hugs, and tell you that everything will be fine. And it
will be, but I know that it is going to take some time. I am so glad that you have your family close by to surround you and Maddie with love and support. That is so important in times like this.
And never ever apologize for asking for our prayers and support. That is what is so nice about our group of ladies....we are here for you and each other.
I'm adding you to my list of prayers! Take care and God Bless.
Melody
Aw, Mel. You can totally punch him out.
He knows he blew it. And the woman he messed with...she has not been my friend for a long time. Even when it happened I didn't like her anymore because she was always flirting with my husband. She would pick him up to go work out (and not invite me), she got implants and called him over to show him, and her and her man were major FREAKS, if you KWIM.
They had an "open" relationship. Hey, if you want to swing that way that is your deal. But it is not how I roll. Anyways, it was going on for awhile and I knew it but they both denied and made me feel like crap for even asking.
Again...sorry for the rambling.
Thanks for the prayers, Mel. You all don't know how much you are helping me right now. I tear up just thinking about it.
My goodness, there is alot going on here. I can hardly keep up.
Capri and Sarah, Here is some pixie dust for jobs for your DH's!!
Courtney, Yay for your Mom coming!
Ann, Welcome from a lady who definitely older than 21!!
Dawn, We need to take a nice stroll down to the DL hotel. You would like it!
Yes we are having a scavenger hunt!!I can't wait to get started on it!!
My news.........Our well just went dry this afternoon. This is not good news.
I know that I am forgetting something.
Hola to all the other Divas!!
If your well goes dry does that mean no water at all?!
Sorry if that seems stupid, I didn't know if you had an alternate supply of water. lol
I hope it gets resolved soon.
Thanks Steph! We live in the country and right now we are connected to our neighbor's water with a hose. Which doesn't give us a whole lot. Dave is going to try and hook up to our other neighbors today.
LOL! That made me laugh as our well is literally
sucking air.
We have to drill our well deeper. We are getting a deal, cuz the guy who is going to fix it, happens to be a dad of one of Kaitlyns good friends, and we have also known him for years. Our
good deal is about $10,000 dollars. Believe me, this is good. We were scared, it was going to be
way higher.
And we have to wait, as the drillers are super busy right now. Everyone's wells are drying up. It is quite scary!!! We need rain!!!
I'm just thankful that it went out while we were at home. We have automated sprinklers, with about 3/4 of an acre in grass, planters and trees. If it had gone out while on vacation next week, it would have burned out our whole well motor. And then you are talking more big time trouble!!
I'm trying to look at the bright side of things, can you tell?
Have a nice day ladies!
Oh you just answered...lol. Yikes...
I hope that it all gets taken care of.
January thanks so much for the thoughts. Yeah we will get through this, we don't have much of a choice LOL. I just feel so bad for YOU! What a rotten thing to do!! I thought MY ex was rotten but what YOURS did SHEESH! And you have a baby! I am just so sad for you! I wish I lived near you so we could hang out and I could console you a bit. It always helps to have someone to hang with to get your mind off stuff! You just hang in there ok and like I said we are ALL here for you if you EVER need to vent, cry, talk or whatever ok? Don't feel embarrassed or funny about it. We love you and want to help!
Well I am off to my therapist today. Boy do I have a lot to say today LOL. Lately things were pretty status quo but now that Lynn is back WHOA!
I am going to get my money's worth today LOL. Anyway then not much else today except swim. Then nothing tomorrow and just work on Friday and THEN the big crazy meet. I found out that the girls don't have much of a chance to get any ribbons which I am really bummed about. At our old league they medaled through 3rd and then ribboned through 20th place and then they gave participation ribbons all the way down through the end which was like 80th place or whatever. It was just a ribbon that was like rainbow colored and said the name of the meet and on the back though it had the little stickers that said what place they got on their times so they at least knew where they fell in relation to the other people. Katy last year was lucky in that she got regular ribbons in everything except one event. She only got ONE participation ribbon and even then it was only 24th so she only missed it by 4. She took 11th, 13th and 16th place in her 3 events and then 24th in her 4th out of like 80 swimmers which is pretty good. Now in THIS meet there is like 100 swimmers. But they only give awards through 10th place which I think is kind of unfair cuz that means 90 other kids in each event get nothing for their trouble. And this team actually medals through 8th place and then ribbons for 9th and 10th. But still I know that my kids won't get even close to the top ten because of their times. They just aren't quite good enough yet. They might get in the top 20 in some things but not the top 10. It almost seems pointless to even go and put up with all of that for nothing but whatever.
Kelly, thanks so much! You are such a strong woman...I seriously want to be like you. You put up with so much and you still manage to smile and enjoy your family. I hope that Lynn realizes someday how good she has it.
Oh January. Someone as sweet, giving, pretty and kind as you deserves so much better. I'm sorry this happened, but we are all here for you. I'm glad you are taking the steps to be happy, AND I'm super glad to hear you are still planning on coming in Feb.
I was worried you might feel you shouldn't or couldn't make it, and I think you need it more now than ever. Can't wait to see you my friend.
It's sad, but what I find even more sad are the number of women who stay in bad marriages where they are abused verbally and/or physically, or they have men who are cheating on them putting them at risk for all sorts of diseases. They are with men who tell them what to do, how to act, who they can be friends with, etc. That's no way to live.
My SIL is married to a possessive man like and it makes me sad. Life is to short to be unhappy. So more power to those women who are out there realizing they deserve better and making their goals and dreams come true.
Wow, thanks for saying such nice things about me. I know that I will be okay. Especially with support from you all and from my friends and family at home.
I can at least say that Brent never hit me or verbally abused me. I just can't trust him or believe a word he says. He is also very reckless with money. But I have to save for a year and work ChaCha and ebay to go on the ladies trip. While he buys and does whatever he wants whenever he wants.
Your poor SIL. Maybe someday she will realize she deserves better.
I am about to put on Tinker Bell for Maddie and I am just being lazy. I should be doing something besides sitting. lol
I was new this year and I had a great time. I would LOVE to have someone from my neck of the woods and country come too 
Don't get me wrong - all of the ladies are great, but it's sad when they all have someone close by and can do mini meets............... 
(am I pathetic or what????)
He said that the first one needed a friend. The new, new one isn't ready yet but we get to pick her up on August 4th. I guess she's a blue (gray) and white with a really smooshed face. Now we need to think of 2 names.
But we are going to think of names that go together like maybe Sugar and Spice.
you made me laugh!
