DisneyScraps
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I am a grownup. Have been for a while but people sometimes....WHY do they act like they are in Junior High School? I am not really sure if I did the right thing or not. This wasn't my fight. I feel like Erica Kane should be involved somehow.
I have 2 friends we are all in our 40's. Friend 1 is a drama queen, Friend 2 is not.
Friend 2 has what I would call an "interesting" situation at home. She has an open marriage. Her DH is quite a bit older than she is, he takes some medication that has taken any urges for intimacy away completely. She is someone that likes to go out and do things he has to go to bed quite early. They have negotiated this themselves. Her husband knows she has a boyfiend. They ALL go out socially sometimes. She has been married for 18 years and with this boyfriend for about a year.
Weird...I know but i don't judge. I couldn't do it or but up with it but from what I can see it works for them.
Friend 1 is single and really wants someone in her life but she likes "bad boys" and you know where that leads her.
It would seem that Friend 2 has a lot, her husband is one of the sweetest men that I know and the boyfriend seems nice. He clearly adores her and treats her well. Everyone seems to get along.
I have one of the greatest boyfriends ever according to a few of my friends. Friend 1 has sent him a friend request which he did not accept. Friend 2 never has. They are my friends really.
They were all recently out together the whole group. Friend 1, Friend 2, her boyfriend AND her husband. I thankfully, was not there. We will be going to a black tie ball in a few months with Friend 2, her husband AND her boyfriend. Friend 1 is invited but needed to find a date.
According to Friend 2, Friend 1 made a pass at her husband AND her boyfriend. She didn't find this out until they were driving home because like her, the men in her life are not into drama either.
She "had a talk" with Friend 1. I was not there I don't know what was said. I stayed out of it.
Friend 1 then crossed the line even further. She went into Friend 2's friend list on Facebook and messaged her kids and her husbands kids (this is a second marriage for both of them and they have adult children). Friend 1 sent friend requests to all of their children with some vile things about her relationships.
Friend 2 then started getting phone calls from family members. Her sons lived in different states and THEY DID NOT KNOW about her open marriage. His children live locally and did know.
That was the dissolution of the friendship between Friend 1 and 2.
Friend 2 told me this but as we all know there are 2 sides to every story. I asked Friend 1 if she did this and she said no. I believe Friend 2. She just isn't a drama queen. I cant't see her making this up. I decided not to do anything. I dropped it with both friends and went on with my life. DBF is clearly with Friend 2.
Until something seemingly small happened today which just made me uncomfortable enough that I am taking friend 2's side.
Yesterday a male friend of mine created a joke Facebook account and sent me a friend request which I accepted. When I was looking at this profile I saw that Friend 1 was on his list. I asked him how he knew her and he said he didn't. She sent him a request and he accepted it.
Now WHY would Friend 1 send a request to a man she does not know that I know? I just for the feeling that she was about to start something with me. Why, I can't imagine but I just got a bad feeling.
So I have unfriended her and I will not be seeing her socially again.I have offered her seat at our table at the ball to another friend. I hope I did the right thing. I just felt a little stalked. I know that asking her won't get me anywhere. I now have my friends list locked down. This is the first time that Facebook has made me uncomfortable. Until this point, I have kept it small each friend I know and care about they are all adults and there has been no problems at all.
Lisa
I have 2 friends we are all in our 40's. Friend 1 is a drama queen, Friend 2 is not.
Friend 2 has what I would call an "interesting" situation at home. She has an open marriage. Her DH is quite a bit older than she is, he takes some medication that has taken any urges for intimacy away completely. She is someone that likes to go out and do things he has to go to bed quite early. They have negotiated this themselves. Her husband knows she has a boyfiend. They ALL go out socially sometimes. She has been married for 18 years and with this boyfriend for about a year.
Weird...I know but i don't judge. I couldn't do it or but up with it but from what I can see it works for them.
Friend 1 is single and really wants someone in her life but she likes "bad boys" and you know where that leads her.
It would seem that Friend 2 has a lot, her husband is one of the sweetest men that I know and the boyfriend seems nice. He clearly adores her and treats her well. Everyone seems to get along.
I have one of the greatest boyfriends ever according to a few of my friends. Friend 1 has sent him a friend request which he did not accept. Friend 2 never has. They are my friends really.
They were all recently out together the whole group. Friend 1, Friend 2, her boyfriend AND her husband. I thankfully, was not there. We will be going to a black tie ball in a few months with Friend 2, her husband AND her boyfriend. Friend 1 is invited but needed to find a date.
According to Friend 2, Friend 1 made a pass at her husband AND her boyfriend. She didn't find this out until they were driving home because like her, the men in her life are not into drama either.
She "had a talk" with Friend 1. I was not there I don't know what was said. I stayed out of it.
Friend 1 then crossed the line even further. She went into Friend 2's friend list on Facebook and messaged her kids and her husbands kids (this is a second marriage for both of them and they have adult children). Friend 1 sent friend requests to all of their children with some vile things about her relationships.
Friend 2 then started getting phone calls from family members. Her sons lived in different states and THEY DID NOT KNOW about her open marriage. His children live locally and did know.
That was the dissolution of the friendship between Friend 1 and 2.
Friend 2 told me this but as we all know there are 2 sides to every story. I asked Friend 1 if she did this and she said no. I believe Friend 2. She just isn't a drama queen. I cant't see her making this up. I decided not to do anything. I dropped it with both friends and went on with my life. DBF is clearly with Friend 2.
Until something seemingly small happened today which just made me uncomfortable enough that I am taking friend 2's side.
Yesterday a male friend of mine created a joke Facebook account and sent me a friend request which I accepted. When I was looking at this profile I saw that Friend 1 was on his list. I asked him how he knew her and he said he didn't. She sent him a request and he accepted it.
Now WHY would Friend 1 send a request to a man she does not know that I know? I just for the feeling that she was about to start something with me. Why, I can't imagine but I just got a bad feeling.
So I have unfriended her and I will not be seeing her socially again.I have offered her seat at our table at the ball to another friend. I hope I did the right thing. I just felt a little stalked. I know that asking her won't get me anywhere. I now have my friends list locked down. This is the first time that Facebook has made me uncomfortable. Until this point, I have kept it small each friend I know and care about they are all adults and there has been no problems at all.
Lisa
I think it's a good thing you dumped her.
