kdibattista said:
... does it really matter? In the grand scheme of things. I think we can all agree that there are plenty of underachieving "gifted" people and overachieving "average" people...
So true. I've always believed that it's motivation that makes the difference. All three of my kids were tapped for gifted/talented programs in school. They are all very smart and always scored very high on standardized tests. Each child handled it differently.
My oldest did very well all through elementary school, but when he hit middle school and high school, grades became less important to him and he wasn't highly motivated. He was not interested in participating in any gifted/talented programs. Nothing we did could convince him to do more than what he felt was absolutely necessary. He did not graduate with any type of honors and that was fine with him. He went to the local university and graduated, but not before switching majors three times, causing him to take six years to finish college. He now works in the computer field, but I know he isn't happy with that and is still searching for his passion. He is contemplating going back to school for writing/art or something along those lines.
Oldest daughter was always extremely motivated and she would not let anything get in the way of something she wanted. She graduated high school with high honors, graduated summa cum laude from college, (in three years!), and is now in graduate school. She loved being identified as gifted/talented, and took many AP classes in high school. When she was in school, I don't ever once remember asking her if her homework was done or if she was all caught up in assignments. She knew what had to be done and she did it, usually going way above and beyond whatever any teacher asked or expected. And, she did it willingly and happily!
Youngest daughter is yet again completely different. She was in gifted/talented programs in elementary school, but I ended up pulling her out. I didn't feel as though she was getting anything out of it. There was a lot of boring, rote learning that was just extra work, and she complained. After talking to the gifted/talented teacher, I could see that it wasn't very enriching, so I took daughter out of the program. Youngest daughter isn't as motivated as her older sister, but she is more motivated than her older brother. I do find that I have to stay on top of her and check assignments and deadlines with her. I do expect her to graduate with honors because I know she is capable of it and she is very interested in going to a college with a good performing arts program. Her motivation in life is dance.
Sorry, I didn't mean to write a book here. I guess I got carried away! I just wanted to say that motivation is a huge factor in how well someone will do in school and how well they will do later in life.
