getting my "tubes tied"

[monorailsilver]

I had it done in 2006, during the c/s of my 3rd child.

Someone posted that they had a harder recovery but I didn't.

It was my 2nd c/s (1st child was a v-birth) & I had her on a Thursday & left the hospital on Saturday. I would of left on Friday if they would of let me. FTR, I was up & walking with my 2nd child/1st c/s with in hours & doing loops at the hospital. If I knew I could of left early with that one, I would of.

Anyways, mine was done at the same time as the c/s so I only have that scar.

I just turned 39 in October. I am glad I had it done although there are months I wonder if I am pregnant because AF has a whacky scheduale-sometimes every 4 weeks, sometimes 6 weeks & 2 summers ago I didn't have it the entire summer, talk about wonderful! But I do get heavy AF's at times & I don't have very painful ones other the the initial cramping I have always had.

Other then the above I have no other symptoms then normal AF symptoms.

 

[MizTink]

thanks for all the input everyone! i already signed my consent, but have to wait 30 days to schedule the surgery. something about needing to make sure that i'm sure i still want it done....blah blah blah
i really wish i could do it today, before i change my mind!! it's just a sad thing for me. plus i'm with someone new that i love very much, but we found each other a little late. it's hard knowing i will never have his baby. *sigh*

 

[JoiseyMom]

haha! nope, he's scared to do it!!

IMHO, tell him to freaking grow a pair!! OMG, he wants you to go through major surgery, when all he has to do is go in for an out patient procedure and snip snip?? Your DH is very selfish. Sorry if I am going off as mean, but that is how I feel.

WHen I was pregnant with our youngest, we told doc, that if he does a c-section (not that I ever had one before), that we wanted him to tie my tubes. I had a normal delivery, so DH decided to have a vasectomy. I made sure it was what he wanted, I was just 40 and he was 32, but he went and did it. Now, my DH hates needles and the sight of blood, he went for it anyway. If my DH could do it, so could yours.

I wouldn't do the major surgery if I was you. Just make him use condoms until he gets man enough to do the minor procedure.

 

[DonkeyGreatness]

I wouldn't do the major surgery if I was you. Just make him use condoms until he gets man enough to do the minor procedure.

Sorry but that comment made me LOL. A man who's in a serious relationship with a woman, has kids, is NOT going to use condoms. That's one of the benefits of a relationship.

If she doesn't want to get the tubal, she can use BC.

 

[SaraJayne]

IMHO, tell him to freaking grow a pair!! OMG, he wants you to go through major surgery, when all he has to do is go in for an out patient procedure and snip snip?? Your DH is very selfish. Sorry if I am going off as mean, but that is how I feel.

WHen I was pregnant with our youngest, we told doc, that if he does a c-section (not that I ever had one before), that we wanted him to tie my tubes. I had a normal delivery, so DH decided to have a vasectomy. I made sure it was what he wanted, I was just 40 and he was 32, but he went and did it. Now, my DH hates needles and the sight of blood, he went for it anyway. If my DH could do it, so could yours.

I wouldn't do the major surgery if I was you. Just make him use condoms until he gets man enough to do the minor procedure.

It isn't her husband, it's a boyfriend...one that isn't the father of her children, from what I've been able to guess, since she said she'll never have "his" babies.

Oh, and I agree with you.

 

[MizTink]

IMHO, tell him to freaking grow a pair!! OMG, he wants you to go through major surgery, when all he has to do is go in for an out patient procedure and snip snip?? Your DH is very selfish. Sorry if I am going off as mean, but that is how I feel.

I wouldn't do the major surgery if I was you. Just make him use condoms until he gets man enough to do the minor procedure.

actually, he didn't ask me to do it. i don't want to be on the pill (for other, personal reasons). i only casually mentioned it to him once and he did the usual manly squirm thinking about it.

Sorry but that comment made me LOL. A man who's in a serious relationship with a woman, has kids, is NOT going to use condoms. That's one of the benefits of a relationship.

If she doesn't want to get the tubal, she can use BC.

lmao! i like the condom comment too!! sorry, but he's not the only one that doesn't want to use them....

It isn't her husband, it's a boyfriend...one that isn't the father of her children, from what I've been able to guess, since she said she'll never have "his" babies.

Oh, and I agree with you.

true, he's not my husband. but who knows. the way things are going right now (and it's fairly soon to tell), i see us together for the long haul

 

[PigletsPal2]

Late post and nothing really new to add, but I had a tubal 35 (!) years ago at age 28, no complications, small scar, surgery on Tuesday, served Thanksgiving dinner to 17 people on Thursday! Back in those days, I had to have DH's permission to have it done (really!) but he was fine w/it. Told him if he didn't sign, he was getting a vasectomy and I was going to do his surgery! I started menopause at 48. Tubal was second-best decision I ever made.

Queen Colleen

 

[tzolkin]

Just want to put another option out there. After two children, which is what DH and I wanted, it was time to make a decision; him or me. I talked with my Dr and she does a fairly new permanent birth control procedure called Essure http://www.essure.com/ I can't remember how long it's been since I had it done, a few years maybe. I had an awful time getting regulated on the pill after having two kids. Was sick of wearing something all the time "just in case".

I was going to suggest the OP look into Essure too.

I talked to both my OB and my family Dr when I was looking for an alternative to the Mirena IUD I have now and both said Essure was preferable to a tubal. (They both also noted some of the issues other posters have mentioned about tubals.) It's permanent sterilization, but is performed in a manner similar to an IUD insertion rather than a more invasive surgery.


DH had a vasectomy in November, so I don't have any first hand experience with the Essure procedure or recovery but I would definitely go for that before a tubal.

 

[PaulaSB12]

i was wondering how long before we got to the storing semen advice. i thought third page. i was wrong.

Because I knew a real piece of work who told her husband that she never wanted children if he wanted to stay married then he had to have the op. He did, she after a few years left him for another man and got pregnant. He found out when she laughed at him and told him she had made sure he couldn't have children.

 

[DonkeyGreatness]

Because I knew a real piece of work who told her husband that she never wanted children if he wanted to stay married then he had to have the op. He did, she after a few years left him for another man and got pregnant. He found out when she laughed at him and told him she had made sure he couldn't have children.

who does that?

 

[roliepolieoliefan]

Sorry but that comment made me LOL. A man who's in a serious relationship with a woman, has kids, is NOT going to use condoms. That's one of the benefits of a relationship.

If she doesn't want to get the tubal, she can use BC.

Wow!

The same can be said for the man. If he doesn't want the big V, he can go without.

I don't care what the poster does either way. I'm married, she is not, 2 completely differnt situations. But the above comment just made me...

 

[DonkeyGreatness]

Wow!

The same can be said for the man. If he doesn't want the big V, he can go without.

I don't care what the poster does either way. I'm married, she is not, 2 completely differnt situations. But the above comment just made me...

Not sure why it made you since the OP agreed with me.

 

[MizTink]

Not sure why it made you since the OP agreed with me.

 

[Disney1fan2002]

anyway... all that to say.... while i'd love another, i don't know if i can handle the age difference. and i KNOW i can't handle my husband's constant "you're too young for a tubal..... but i don't know if i'll ever want another baby". that little glimmer of hope tears me up. so. rather than the rollercoaster ride of emotions, i just want to take the option off the table completely.

would like to hear others' experience w/ the surgery and also emotionally.

My sister had a tubal after her second child, she was 25yo. We all told her she was too young, ect. yet she insisted she was all done. She did not have that "mommy" urge and she just knew she would never want another.

Fast forward 6 years, her husband leaves her. 2 years after that, she meets a man and 2 years later, they get married. Now, of course, as much as he loves her kids, she wants to give him one of his own. Small problem, she had her tubes tied and insurance won't pay to have them untied. So, they do invitro fertilization.

Kind of an expensive way to get pregnant, if you ask me.

You just don't know what your future holds. At 25 she never expected her husband would cheat on her and leave her one day. I am not saying that will happen with you, I am saying you don't know what will happen. At 28, you still have your whole life ahead of you.

 

[jenrose66]

My sister had a tubal after her second child, she was 25yo. We all told her she was too young, ect. yet she insisted she was all done. She did not have that "mommy" urge and she just knew she would never want another.

Fast forward 6 years, her husband leaves her. 2 years after that, she meets a man and 2 years later, they get married. Now, of course, as much as he loves her kids, she wants to give him one of his own. Small problem, she had her tubes tied and insurance won't pay to have them untied. So, they do invitro fertilization.

Kind of an expensive way to get pregnant, if you ask me.

You just don't know what your future holds. At 25 she never expected her husband would cheat on her and leave her one day. I am not saying that will happen with you, I am saying you don't know what will happen. At 28, you still have your whole life ahead of you.

I just had my third baby...she's an IUD baby. I love her, but she was most definately unplanned. There will most definately be permanent birth control happening in our household. I feel DH should have the big snip, it's less invaisive and I went thru three pregnancies. Marriage is about compromise not about me feeling bad if we ever got divorced and he wanted more kids. That's just tough. You should not make decisions based on the assumption your family will be broken because of divorce. Currently we're in a celibacy stalemate until this is resolved. He says he'll get it done but he hasn't made the appointment. For my part, I'll go on the pill until everything is taken care of, but not till he makes the appointment to get taken care of.

Also if for some reason I found myself single and was with another man. If he wanted more kids that would be a deal breaker for me. I put my time in and nothing would make me have more kids.

I guess the point of my post is, at 28, which is my age also, the OP should have a pretty good idea if she wants more kids or not. I don't think she's too young to make this decision. Having another baby just because a man or your current partner wants you to is not a good reason to create life.

 

[roliepolieoliefan]

Not sure why it made you since the OP agreed with me.

Because its rude plain and simple. And from the turn this thread took, looks like most comments aren't even associated to the OP.

Sounded to me like u weren't even directing it to the OP., but any woman in general who wouldn't get her tubes tied.

 

[CharliNye]

For the record: Vasectomies can be reversed, tubal ligations generally cannot.

It IS also safer for the man to get this done. And if he's planning on being in it for the long haul then he'll do it.

My husband's getting his this winter.

 

[okeydokey]

For the record: Vasectomies can be reversed, tubal ligations generally cannot.

It IS also safer for the man to get this done. And if he's planning on being in it for the long haul then he'll do it.

My husband's getting his this winter.

My husband of 18 years is in it for the long haul, but doesn't believe in surgical permanent birth control so he isn't getting it done. Doesn't mean he isn't committed to the marriage.

 

[Nancy]

I had the surgery done in '09. It was a same day surgery, checked in at 7, surgery at 9, I think I woke up and was out of there by 12 noon. I only had one 1-inch incision to the right of my bb and another larger incision in my bb which I couldn't see. The recovery time was quick and I was back to work after the weekend. I had to take some pain medicine the first night and the gas from when they inflate your abdomen hurts in your shoulders that evening, but it was really not too bad.

It's funny - when they rolled me into the OR, there were two medical school interns there to observe my surgery - I was so drugged up I don't remember much but thought it was funny. I don't think it's as common as an elective surgery than after a C-Section.

Good luck!

That is how mine was. I had mine done in 1993. I went in, had the surgery and came home in no time...2 very small little cuts by the belly button..a few stitches. I think I took tylenol for pain if I even took anything since I really don't remember there being much pain...I wasn't working but I went home and took care of a 8 week old baby, a 3 year old and a 4 1/2 year old with no issues.

 

[Nancy]

My husband of 18 years is in it for the long haul, but doesn't believe in surgical permanent birth control so he isn't getting it done. Doesn't mean he isn't committed to the marriage.

yep, we are in year 26 now...pretty committed but my DH would not get snipped. I had no problem getting the tubal..pretty minor surgery compared to the one I had to GET pregnant in the first place.