getting cold feet...

[princess angel]

I know this is silly.... but can you help me, I need advice on what I should do.
I am going to WDW by myself for an on-site training, the course from
April 28 - May 2nd (mon - fri)
I booked the previous night April 27th, at the BWV, because I figured it would be nice to get there a day early, have 1 night to myself and not be really tired for the first nights events (on the 28th)
now... it is only 2 weeks away and I am feeling like I dont want to go a day early! I am going to miss my DH so so so much!
I know it is silly, but we have been together 11 yrs, married for 5 yrs, and have never been apart more than 3 days (and that was only one time!)
We both love WDW so much, and it is like our second home. I am going to miss him so much, and everything is going to remind me of us being at WDW together (make sense or do I sound like a baby!?!)
If he drops me off at the airport Sunday afternoon, I know I will be so sad. If I go on Monday moning, I wont feel as bad.
But then I have to pay $100 change fee for the Airfare, and cancel my studio at the BWV, and lose the 14 pts!

the thing is dh is picking me up from the airport on fri evening. being away Mon - Fri isnt so bad, because he'll be working all week, and the days will fly, but Sunday will be tough! we love our weekends together. (my god, as I write this I realize what a baby I sound like!)

I had planned on going to wdw that sunday night, going to Epcot to see Davy Jones, and to buy a picture buy this artist that is always there during the F&G festival and have it shipped home, and to just relax.
maybe I'll be ok, duh, I know I'll be ok, I'm just dreading if I start to cry when dh drops me off. I'll look like an idiot, and it'll make dh feel bad too. (I dont want to leave him for 5 days like that!)

can you understand??
should I just breathe deep and be a big girl?
or should I change my plans and go on Monday instead of Sunday?

thanks a bunch, I dont have much time to decide!

laura

 

[Kurry]

You absolutely do not sound like a baby. You love your husband and don't want to be away from him for long. Completely understandable. I have no advice except just do what you feel is right for you.

BTW, I would love to have your job.

 

[Dan Murphy]

Well, Laura, having met you both, I sure can see you both are so happy with WDW, and with each other. Go do your plan, and cry a bit when you leave him. That's cool I think. No harm in a few tears for anything like that. And when you are there at WDW, the days will fly by and before you know it, you'll be home again, wishing you were back in WDW. Go for it, Laura, they don't call you Princess Angel for nothing.

Dan

 

[Sugarbaby]

I don't think you're a baby! I still tear up when dropping my husband off at the airport,and we've been married 12 years. I think once he drops you off, you'll dry up and start to focus on check-in,etc, and you'll be just fine. Take a good book to dive into if you start to miss him at night. It will be ok,honey! Just go and have a good time! And be sure to let us know about all the fun stuff you did!

 

[snoopy]

I'm not like that about my husband, but I am when I go to WDW without my kids. Everything I see reminds me of them. Its o.k. for a few days, but anything longer and I am not happy being there without them.

But since you have to go for a business trip, I'd go for the extra day. You'll need the relaxation time before you have to do work things. And you will probably miss him, but you'll be having fun so it won't be so bad.

Good luck!

 

[paras4ri]

Hi Laura!
I can completely understand your feelings but my vote is to go early as planned. We've been married 16 years but I still feel the same way whenever we're apart. You have some nice plans for Epcot - enjoy!!!

 

[BibbidiBobbidiBOO]

I'd feel the same way(I don't even like him to leave for work on Monday mornings ) and we have been married almost 18 years(which is almost half our life!). I absolutely HATE when he has reserve weekends! But, you made the plans and will have fun I think. Send him an e-mail and a picture from Epcot! Relax and enjoy some alone time and remember the reunion with him will be fun.

 

[Chattyaholic]

I went on a 10-day trip with my parents a few years ago, it was a bus trip and they paid my way so I couldn't refuse. Most of it was fine, but when we went to WDW I missed DH so much, everywhere I looked there were couples walking, holding hands. The next day I begged off going to Epcot with them, I just couldn't take another day on Disney property without DH, so I just opted to stay at the hotel for some "quiet time" and that worked out so much better.

 

[doxdogy]

You don't sound like a baby at all. DH and I have been married for 20 years and we have been apart maybe a total of two weeks throughout the years.

 

[princess angel]

Thank you all soooooooo much!
I used to post a lot more on this CB board, during the past year, I havent had much time to, but everytime I do, I am reminded of what a wonderful bunch of people you are!

I feel better now. I know I'll be fine, I will miss him immensely, but I think I'll go ahead w/my plan.

thank you!!!!!!

Laura

 

[Tiger Lily 03]

You are fantastic! You should be so happy to have these sad feelings. You should go, I feel, because the rest before your business will make you more ready for the business portion of your trip. Do as you have planned and as suggested send the email from EPCOT—it should make you feel better to wave and show him you are there. It is only a short time in the big picture and should make you both stronger by showing that you can be apart for a short time and by knowing that your feelings for each other are so strong that you miss each other. We have been married 26 years and we both tell each other that we feel that way when we do not go everywhere together, yet we do. We just make sure that when we are together it is the best time we can make it.

Write him a –LONG— list of the things that he needs to do while you are away (big grin here) and you can write a journal for him to read of all of the things and feelings you have experienced. Send him flowers/candy/cookies or something.

Find a way to enjoy your “free” day too.

 

[Micca]

I have been to WDW on biz trips before. I have gone a day early, and on the day the work was to begin. It is so much more restful to go early, get settled, and relax the night before. I missed DW, but it was much easier to cope with the week starting out with batteries charged.

 

[Mishetta]

People I worked with used to think I was nuts when twice my DH went for a long weekend to California to see his parents & we called each other about 6 times per day! We missed each other sooooooo much. Last year he had his ticket purchased, his suitcase in the foyer & me & the kids were there waiting for our goodbye kiss since he was going back to see his folks for 4 days & guess what? He went to the phone & cancelled his flight! I couldn't believe it! I asked him what was going on & he said "I just can't leave you!" I guess we're still newlyweds though. We'll be married 9 years in May!

So, I completely understand what you're feeling but I'm glad you decided to go ahead with your plans & go a day early. You really will be glad you did that once you're there. I would need that time just to re-coup from the traveling.

When my DH & I were dating, I went to Europe for a month with my mom & before I left, I bought 30 cards (Miss you, Hello there, I love you, blank ones, etc...) & wrote them all out & addressed & stamped them & left them with my neighbor & each day she would drop one in the mail. My (then boyfriend) DH received one each day while I was away. So if you wanted to surprise him in a small way like that....By the way, my DH still has those cards! He kept them all these years! You can always leave a "special" note under his pillow, in his sock drawer, underwear drawer (oops ) to let him know how much you miss him while you're away. My DH loves finding surprises like that!

Have a good trip & don't worry, you'll be fine. Just think how wonderful it will be once you return!

 

[cuterlt]

What a great thread! I am leaving my DH for a week on Tuesday to go visit a dear friend whose husband is in Iraq. I'm so excited to see her and her two daughters (almost 3 and 5), but I know I'm going to miss DH intensely. Thanks for the great suggestions! I already started the long list of things for him to do while I'm gone. lol.
Have a great experience Laura! I'm sure I will.