Geriatric MM Warriors June 13, 2010

[Diane W.]

I can't wait for the new shows on TV. I'm getting bored.
Where is everyone today?

 

[Diane W.]

Nothing new. Just wanted to say 'hi' to everyone who checks in today. It's way too quiet on here. Feels like it has outlasted it's usefulness - too bad, I liked it.

 

[gettinhealthy]

good morning guys. Still here, sort of LOL. Just been really bogged down with work and then I managed to get a huge cold, so that laid me up a while also.
Not much going on here lately. It has cooled off quite a bit, thankfully.
I haven't been following MM too well again. I did some thinking about what Diane said on FB about the AF and not having it. Really upset me, and then I remembered, I actually went to someone who confirmed it. So I started taking my licorice again along with the probiotics. I have sworn off milk products (at least as best as I can) as I had a frappucinno one day and I got sicker than a dog. I was sooo nauseated I could barely work. Not sure if it was the sugar or the caffeine in it. But I then remembered the guy I went to a while back said to avoid dairy.
The scale is showing weight gain, but my stomach isn't quite so bloated now.
I will try to get here more often than I have.
Diane, I feel like you do, that our little world has fallen apart I really miss everyone too.
Lisa, hope your having fun, and you also Jocelyn!
I am still going to do low carb, but hold off on doing the actual steps in MM.
I'll see you all later!!

 

[Simpleone]

Hello everyone!

I can't believe it's been over a week since my last post! Sorry you guys, I'll be here as long as anyone is posting. It's good to see you all! Lisa I'm sure, will be back soon to join us and things have settled back down here and I'll be sure to let you hear all my struggles with Step I, once again.

We too have been experiencing a lot of family drama. We asked MD(27) and her fiance to move in here and take over the care of the house while we go back and forth from Mexico and it opened a can of worms with her siblings that I just didn't expect. They have been house hunting for a couple of months and preparing to move out of my eldest daughter's rental home here in town. It's an adorable tiny little one bedroom that will only house one person comfortably. MD(27) is expecting now and planning a big wedding for next September. We thought asking them to postpone their house hunt and move in here would allow them to save more money for their down payment and save a little for their wedding. They loved the idea but the other three kids went balistic on us over it. They're the only logical choice, eldest daughter lives in Indianapolis and would never consider it, but are angry over them moving from their rental. Our youngest daughter owns her own home but still thinks she's the best choice for moving in here, NOT!. They both work over 40 hour weeks and their house never gets cleaned, yard is never mowed and they have laundry piled above their heads in their laundry room all the time, (this is the one I'm constantly cleaning for) they could never manage a house and yard this large. Our son couldn't even get our yard mowed once in the over three weeks we were gone this trip, not a chance we're leaving it to him, he's just too irresponsible. I finally blew a gasket with them all yesterday and told them we'd made our decision and they'd all have to just stay pissed or get over it and move on. The way we see it, MD and fiance are doing us a favor by stopping their lives to help us out, that we're imposing on them, this place is a lot of work and anyone would be hard pressed to keep it up. The other's see it as free rent or no house payment or a meal ticket. I've slid into something that I can only figure is some kind of depression over it. I've always taken great pride in how well they all get along no matter what gets thrown our way, this blew that out of the water. At this point all I can hope is that they realize they need each other as always and can move things back to the way they were with each other.

The birthday party went off without a hitch, even though you could feel an underlying tension between them all. At that point I decided if I heard another word from any of them about it, I would go off on them, I do believe they sensed this in me. We ended up having a really good time. Built a bonfire and made margaritas and it lasted into late evening. Food was awesome and yes I ate more than my fair share, including the cake and ice cream. Problem is...it didn't stop with the party, I've spent the week since eating any and everything in sight. I don't dare weigh myself at this point, (it would probably send me spinning even further into this depressed funk I'm in) so I've started Step I again this morning and plan on getting outside or away from the house this afternoon to keep my mind busy.

I spent yesterday wedding dress shopping with MD, we had a wonderful time. Here's the link to her first choice at this point. It's very vintage looking and opens up all kinds of possibilities to my taste in wedding receptions, I love shabby chic and anything vintage as far as weddings go. It's over her budget but then has anyone ever stayed on budget when dress shopping? http://www.allurebridals.com/index.php?id=3&product_id=646

The weather here has finally taken a step to the cooler side, especially at night. I love it! Fall remains my favorite time of year. One of our neighbors has a wood burning stove. Each year I look forward to walking outside in the mornings, smelling it and hearing the rustle of the leafs blowing across the yard. ..it should be coming soon!

You all have a great afternoon, I'll check back on you later this afternoon.

 

[Diane W.]

So happy to see new posts!!!

Hi Kathy, What's AF again? I hope avoiding the milk products helps you feel better.

Pam - Isn't it something how family can react? Do they think she's your favorite? The gown is sensational!! What a gorgeous design! The party sounds like it was fun. At least they were able to be together and not start fighting. I think all big families have periods of tension and disagreement - I think it's like they expand and contract with emotions. I know my family does! At times I'm pissed at one sister and then someone's mad at my brother and so on and so on and so on... The majority of the time we're all fine, but every so often - bam. It's funny what can set people off. (including me)

I had dinner tonight with my friend from high school. It's so funny how we can go months without spending time together and when we're together it's like we've been together every day. She's been out of work for over a year also. She is going to have put her townhouse up for sale if she doesn't get a job by the end of the year. We both can't get over the fact that we can't get a job. It's really unbelievable. I've sent my resume out in response to over 150 jobs and have only had 2 interviews. I can't wait to finally say - guess what? I got a job!!! I hope that day comes soon!

 

[Wisteria1956]

Pam: I think I saw that dress on Say Yes to the Dress! It's gorgeous! I don't think you should back down on the decision with MD and fiance, as it makes a lot of sense. Hopefully you can discuss with the other kids until they see the light! So sorry you had to go through that.

We're back but still very tired from the drive. We didn't get home til 2:30 am last night!

We walked for hours per day on the beach. It was so perfect! Wide, smooth and clean with perhaps 2 or so other people seen per day. One day I walked for 6 hours in 3 different stints. Thank goodness all the kids like to walk on the beach with us. I got into hunting for agates. Got a baggie full so now I'm researching jewelry making.

J-P's girlfriend did come and we all had a great time together. They seem to have worked out their tiff over his work. I had to work on myself not to fall too much in love with her daughter just in case, but the child is enchanting! I sat with her while she painted her kite. Tom put it together and we flew it the next day. I'm waiting for the 'kids' to send me the pics then I'll post a few. She is so artistic, athletic and beautiful. Loves her school and is a blast to talk to. She's never had a dog as they live in an apt. so she spent a lot of time with Bonnie in the surf. Bonnie was exhausted! I think we all passed the 'Meet the Parents' week with flying colors.

We got so sore and stiff from walking, but in a good way. The shoulder is better from the 'rest'.

Now the bad news: We ate like there was no plan whatsoever. Started off ok and then got worse, lol! A lot of French fries with the fish dishes, etc. Only had desert twice, so not too bad with the sugar. Just the carbs! Yikes. We're going to try to figure things out again tomorrow. Actually just having chicken and veggies tonight so doing ok now that we are home again.

I already reserved a house 3 down on the beach from the one we had this week for the exact same week next year. This new one has a hot tub and kind sized bed, which were the two things we really missed. With all that walking we were in need of a soak!

I need to catch up on work tomorrow. Tom and I are both happy with the cold laser therapy, etc. He goes again tomorrow. She moved our tendons and muscles til we both kicked and screamed, followed with the cold laser. We're both better for sure.

Time for a low carb dinner. Now, what to do with that left over pie filling?? Marionberry. Yikes!

 

[gettinhealthy]

Lisa, so good to see you!! I am glad you enjoyed yourself. Sounds like such a nice time. I am soo wishing I could go to the beach this year. But just not in the cards for a couple years yet.
J-P's girlfriend sounds so nice too. I am glad they worked out their tiff and everyone had fun. I know what you mean about getting attached too quickly. Hard not to though.
Have fun making your jewelry. When I made my jewelry for Tristan's wedding, I so enjoyed it. I am thinking of making some more. I love some of the bulky stones that are being sold now.

Jocelyn, so good to see you also!! I am sorry your kids are giving you such a hard time. It is ultimately your decision and not theirs. They need to come to terms with that. My sister is the same way. My ex and I were going to buy some land off my parents to put our trailer on it, but she raised such a stink, we didn't. My parents have a huge yard (double lot) and we were going to buy the lower lot. I hope it all blows over soon.
Glad you had a nice time at your party. It's so nice to get together with loved ones and just enjoy yourself.

Diane, AF is short for adrenal fatigue. It is a difficult condition, but it is reversible for lack of better words. You also usually have Chronic Fatigue and Fibromyalga (sp?) with it. Since I started taking the licorice again (supports the adrenal glands) I am feeling a bit better. Not sleeping well at night, but not too tired during the day. I will resume my sleeping pills tonight. I went to bed last night around 11 and woke up around 4. Couldn't fall back asleep, so came downstairs around 5. I have eliminated all caffeine from my diet, so I know that isn't keeping me up.

Ok, off to a nice hot shower to wake me up, or put me to sleep LOL. I'll check back later.
Had to reboot my phone this morning. Forgot my password I put on it last night, and it erased EVERYTHING!!! I have none of my videos, pictures, nothing I think I sent some of them to Mike's phone, so I'll have to resend them to my phone. If that's the worse that happens today, I'll be doing good!!
Later.

 

[Wisteria1956]

Kathy: Have you had your hormones tested? Insomnia goes along with menopause for most people. Maybe you are in early menopause? Just a thought.

 

[Simpleone]

Good day to everyone!

Second day of Step I and I'm starving!! Ugh! I've already ate twice and my stomach is on fire, like I've not eaten in days! Yesterday was so easy and I foolishly thought this was actually going to be a cake walk this time, what was I thinking!?! I keep telling myself, this works, this works, I have proof that this works and the misery shall SOON pass. I can tell this is going to be my "Oh I have a headache" lazy day!

Welcome home Lisa! Isn't it amazing how sitting and doing nothing while driving can wear you out the way it does? Your walks on the beach sound heavenly. I'm so glad you all had a good time. Sounds perfect. You and Tom have my vote to get yourselves right back on Step I with me!
I went and bought a handful of groceries just for myself yesterday. I thought I'd come up with some really good ideas for new meals if I shopped just for myself, but I was wrong. I spent nearly 120 bucks and don't feel like I got much of anything, and certainly nothing new.

Kathy, I too suffered from sleep deprivation during menopause. Have you not been blessed with this event yet? I agree with Lisa, you seem to have a few symptoms that I experienced when I went through it. I noticed that MM really helped to straighten out the last of those symptoms for me, at least I'll give credit to it.

Diane, glad to hear you had a good time with your friend. It is amazing how you can go for long periods of time away from friends and reunite as though only hours had passed. Sure sign of a true friendship. Wishing you both continued luck in your job hunts!

Thank you guys for your support with my family drama. It's been three days since anyone has brought anything up about it, at least I have the illusion that things have died down for the moment. I haven't spoken to my eldest daughter since the day I told her it was the last conversation we were going to have about it. I feel this isn't a very good sign, even on the days she works she will find time to call me at least twice. I texted her yesterday to ask if she would meet MD and myself in Indianapolis for some more dress hunting on Sunday and she didn't respond, another bad sign. ::sigh:: I'm just not used to this, it's hard to proceed as though nothing is going on when there is clearly still hard feelings. Diane, you asked if the others believe MD is my favoite, lol, they each think they're the favorite! I thought this was a sign of some good parenting! MD (Millie) is the only single one and has always gone out of her way to make sure I'm very much included in her life, she will tell anyone that I'm her best friend. Abbie and I are the same way. The other two go out of their way to keep me out of their business. lol
Millie and her fiance will be moving in here at the end of November, that's the only thing I know for sure at this point. Maybe time will cool everyone off as they get used to the idea.

Nap time!! You all have a terrific afternoon!

 

[Wisteria1956]

Made it through the first day of MM again! Craving all the good things from vacation, lol! It started with clam chowder and went downhill from there, but with all the walking we probably didn't do too much damage. LC turkey tacos planned for dinner tonight. I had another biopsy on my face today near my lip. Had a pre cancer removed before vacation. Drat all those years of abuse as a teenager! At least we are catching these things early. Long day back at work for the first day today, along with the doctor appt...Hope you all have a good night.

Pam: Stay tough and keep after the elusive daughter. I'm a firm believer that things need to be talked out before they fester. See if you can meet her for lunch and explain how this move for MD will really help you out and be a lot of work for MD, not a gift. Good luck!

 

[Seabreezes]

Hi,

We are back from our wanderings in Greece and Germany. Had a great time. We won't even mention the amount of food we ate. However were were conscious of the carb intake. Not that we were always good about it though

We are home for just a few more days and then back to the mainland for 7 weeks. We will be eating out most of that time - it makes losing weight difficult!!!

I will have my computer with me though, so will be able to keep in touch if I have an internet connection.

Take care everyone.

Hugs to ALL

 

[Simpleone]

Good morning all!

Good to see you Jocelyn, you globe trotter you!! If I was out traveling the way you do, I promise I wouldn't be the least bit concerned about my food choices! I'd be trying everything in sight! I want to hear more about it when you get the chance to share, ...please?

Welcome back to Step I Lisa and Tom!! I feel a whole lot more clear headed and energetic this morning. I thought I'd be in for another day or two of misery in detox. I sure wish I had someone here doing this with me, even just to brainstorm on what to have come meal time. Lucky you!

Very good advice Lisa thanks, it worked with the youngest two, once they realized what would be demanded of them, they backed off pretty quick. Abbie can only seem to focus on the fact that the rental house is hitting the market during the Fall. She's panic stricken over the fact that they may have two mortgages to pay. She keeps pushing for Millie to stay in it until she gets it sold. At this point Abbie has known that Millie was planning on moving out for three months. Millie argues back, "I've been house hunting for over two months already and she's still not bothered to contact anyone to get the house listed, or even have it listed for rent." Very good argument if you ask me. I think Abbie is just pouting, she wants to be ticked off, so I'm going to let her be for now. She told Millie that she'd try to make it dress shopping with us tomorrow, maybe this is a good sign.

Off to grill me some chicken! You all have a nice weekend!

 

[Wisteria1956]

Pam: Have fun dress shopping! I hope the girls are feeling lovey dovey by then. It wouldn't be fun to have a pouty sister chiming in on a very special day. I love that program Say Yes to the Dress. Don't ask me why! I love everything to do with weddings. I can't watch the ones about cakes or I will crave the frosting, lol! They really pick on unsupportive friends and relatives when they air the episodes of the program. Some of these moms are awful, lol! My Mom wasn't there for me when I got married as far as the preparations were concerned. She and my Dad were divorced (temporarily) and I guess it was a hard time for her, but I could have really used her support. I guess I try to relive how it should have been when I watch the show. I think I would have loved to have been a wedding planner, but oh the stress, lol! Anyway, have a great day and take snacks!!

 

[Diane W.]

Welcome back Jocelyn! You are so lucky to have such adventures.

Lisa - Your vacation sounded lovely. I love walking on the beach. I'm happy that JP and his girlfriend worked it out. The little one is stealing your heart? :

My son is back from his vacation. I haven't seen him yet, but I see his bags. I was out this morning with my sister and her granddaughter and when I got home I was so excited to see he was home already.

Pam - sounds like things are calming down with your girls. Whew! Thank goodness.

Kathy - Hope you're feeling great today! That stinks about your phone. I don't have a smartphone, so I can't relate. Owen is always making fun of my phone. When I was calling 411 for the number of my car dealership, he said it into his phone and had the number before the operator gave it to me. Oh well.

The weather is perfect and is supposed to be beautiful all week. I love the fall! I hope everyone enjoys the weekend!

 

[Wisteria1956]

Sunday marks 3 years cancer free for Tom so we are going to go do something. We still have the vacation bug, lol! Have a great day!

 

[Diane W.]

Lisa - What a fabulous occasion to commemorate! Enjoy!

 

[Simpleone]

Hi eveyone!

Lisa, I'm with Diane, what a wonderful thing to be able to celebrate! Now I'm curious as to what you went off to do.

Good news! Abbie was right there to meet us for the gown shopping! Everyone was in the best of moods and we had a great day. Here's her newest choice.
http://www.maggiesottero.com/dress.aspx?line=m&page=16&style=S5221CS
I don't believe this is quite as pretty as the first one but it is more perfect for the wedding vision she has..oh yeah, and at a fraction of the price of the first one. She has 24 hours to schedule her fitting for it, if she does she gets 20% more off the price. She said she's more than likely going to be getting this one. It comes with the capped sleeves or you can remove them to make it strapless, love it, love it!!

Going to look for dinner now, you all have a nice night and a great start to the new week!

 

[Diane W.]

Pam- Wow! I'm glad I don't have to decide between those two gowns. I think I like this one a bit more though. How many did she try on? You must've been so relieved to have peace among the kids again.

Today it was chilly out. Yay! I had to wear a jacket this evening. I love sweaters and I can't wait to wear them every day.

I'm hoping to hear something this week from at least one of the jobs I applied to in a town that's nearby. Keep your fingers crossed. I keep thinking this can't continue much longer - but then it does.

 

[Wisteria1956]

Pam: That dress is stunning! I can't wait to see pictures of her in it and you beaming right along side! Yippee that Abbie was there! Sounds like the wedding plans are coming along at the right time to bring them even closer together.

We went to Murphys - where I met with Jocelyn. The restaurant there has Tom's favorite menu and he loves the drive. I was very, very sad to see that several shops have closed since I was there in June. It's a historic Gold Rush town that gets a lot of artsy folks from the San Francisco area coming up for the day to visit wineries and shop so I had always hoped it would survive the economy. It was very bleak indeed so it must have been a bad summer for the retailers there. So sad. I wore my prettiest dress and bought a gorgeous shawl to help the economy a bit.

Diane: Oh, I do so hope this job is THE ONE for you! Keep us posted on the communication.

My neighbor did a neat thing. She mesaged all of her girlfriends to see if we could meet her for lunch after her annual exam and mammogram. What a great idea to make it a celebration to look forward to. I'm happy to attend today and I might just steal that idea when it's my turn again.

Have a great day!

 

[Seabreezes]

It sounds as if everyone is doing quite well with families and all.

How great for Tom - lets hope the years just keep adding up.

Sorry to hear about the demise of some of the shops in Murphy's. It really is a cute town. We fly into Sacramento tomorrow. Hopefully we can get together again, Lisa.

I'll have more time to write after we get to CA. It is a hectic day today.

Still not on an eating plan I like. We are out again tonight - have been almost every night for the past 2 weeks. I'll be glad to do my own cooking for a week or so at least!!!

Oh - to have the figures of the wedding gown models. The dresses are really lovely!!

Hugs to ALL