Gender Reveal Gift?

[CynBeth]

"Gender reveal parties" are an abomination. Instead of encouraging this horrible trend, make an excuse and stay away.

I totally agree.

 

[Belle_Ann]

Omg some of these responses gave me a good laugh this morning! I’ve never been to a gender reveal party so don’t have any advice other than I wouldn’t take a gift personally.

 

[SC Minnie]

I've been to one-- my niece when her first was born. They had a cake in the shape of a baby that was pink/blue inside. They cut the cake to see if they were having a boy or girl. I told my niece that it was creepy cutting a baby. She didn't appreciate my candor. Anyway, we didn't bring a gift.

I think they are ridiculous. To me, finding out the sex of the baby should be an intimate moment for the family.

 

[Heigh-Ho]

Unless you have no expectation of going/being invited to a shower I wouldn't bring a gift

 

[Heigh-Ho]

To me, finding out the sex of the baby should be an intimate moment for the family.

It's the expecting who are having these parties, they seem to want to share with their friends and family so if they are having them then they don't view it as an intimate moment that cannot nor should not be shared with others.

 

[Disneybuckeye]

I think the whole concept is silly. If you want to have a party have a party. Why do you have to have a big gender reveal moment that really is not that big a deal to most people who are there?

My kids are older and we did not have this nonsense, so I guess that makes me a get off my lawn kind of person.

 

[ronandannette]

And in today’s woke environment is it even OK to “assign” a person’s gender pre-birth?

 

[RogueX]

My daughter was born before gender reveal parties were a thing, but when I got the ultrasound done and found out I was having a girl, I sent a photo of the printed scan to close family. Clear as day you could see she was sticking up her middle finger.

 

[White Cat]

My daughter's girlfriend is having a Gender Reveal Party at a local park in a few weeks.
We've never been to one, but have attended lots of baby showers.

Do you bring a gift to the party?
I'm guessing its pretty informal with no printed invitation.

I wouldn’t go. Then once I found out the sex would go from there.

 

[Wendy31]

Gender reveal parties came after we were done having children, but they’re definitely a thing now.

While I may role my eyes a bit, I don’t begrudge the new parents their party. They’re excited & want to have a gender reveal party just like all the other new parents in their generation are doing.

When we’re invited to a gender reveal party, I bring a nice, hard-back picture book for the baby. My ”go-to” book is an illustrated children’s book called “What Will You Be?” or something like that which has cute little rhyming verses talking about all the different things the baby might be… an artist, an astronaut, a teacher, a doctor, etc. And ends w/ a line that says something like, “No matter what, you’ll always be loved.”

 

[tzolkin]

And in today’s woke environment is it even OK to “assign” a person’s gender pre-birth?

I've heard this jokingly quite often, but it's honestly kind of my reason for opposing gender reveals. Not because I'm young or "woke", but because I just don't see why people care so much what their kids' genitals are. Being excited and feeling the need to tell everyone that it's a boy or a girl before they're even born feels to me like you have expectations or assumptions about what the child will be like just because they are a boy or a girl.

My kids are all older teen/adults, but my husband and I never had any feelings one way or the other whether they were male or female. Especially not when they were babies or little. I don't feel like it made any difference. We received so many comments when our third was a boy because we were supposed to be excited/pleased/satisfied that this child was male. It was just bizarre to me that so many people would care.

 

[freetrial]

I wouldn't bring a gift, but I don't know the norms for this. If it's normal to bring a gift, I'd assume I was also going to be invited to the baby shower, and I'd do a little gift for the gender reveal and a little gift for the shower. Basically dividing what you'd normally gift at the shower into 2 gifts.

 

[White Cat]

And in today’s woke environment is it even OK to “assign” a person’s gender pre-birth?

I’m thinking it’s no longer ok to assign. Maybe the gender isnt going to be put on the birth certificate. It’s very easy to know what sex one is just by looking down at ones self. (Yes there are rare exceptions ) crazy to even be discussing. What are you going to tell those people now that decide they are a horse?

 

[White Cat]

I've heard this jokingly quite often, but it's honestly kind of my reason for opposing gender reveals. Not because I'm young or "woke", but because I just don't see why people care so much what their kids' genitals are. Being excited and feeling the need to tell everyone that it's a boy or a girl before they're even born feels to me like you have expectations or assumptions about what the child will be like just because they are a boy or a girl.

My kids are all older teen/adults, but my husband and I never had any feelings one way or the other whether they were male or female. Especially not when they were babies or little. I don't feel like it made any difference. We received so many comments when our third was a boy because we were supposed to be excited/pleased/satisfied that this child was male. It was just bizarre to me that so many people would care.

I think parents would care what their newborns genitalia is so that they know what sex their child is, this way they can dress and raise the child accordingly.

 

[DisneyOma]

I think parents would care what their newborns genitalia is so that they know what sex their child is, this way they can dress and raise the child accordingly.

According to what?

 

[White Cat]

According to what?

Social norms.

 

[ironz]

A bit of trash would be ok. I would just be worried they would burn down the entire neighborhood and start an inferno with their stupid antics.

Why is a little trash ok? A park we go to often has blue or pink confetti, streamers and other litter that is quite obviously from a gender reveal that they didn't bother to clean up after.
I think the parties are sortof silly, but don't bash the excited parents for having it. But if they're going to scatter bits of paper and whatnot about, they need to clean it up.

 

[belle032]

All I know is before you have a gender reveal, make sure both parents are actually OK with whatever the gender is. Acquaintances of ours live streamed their actual gender reveal during the party and the father was FURIOUS when he found out he was having another girl. And you could tell! Super awkward for everyone involved and of course it's all on video.

It all turned out fine, he looks back on it with regret and that girl has him wrapped around her finger, but still. Why they bothered with any kind of gender reveal in the first place is beyond me.

 

[Pink Partridge]

I've heard this jokingly quite often, but it's honestly kind of my reason for opposing gender reveals. Not because I'm young or "woke", but because I just don't see why people care so much what their kids' genitals are.

And then to expect other people to care. Like "Leave your house, come to a spot where we will announce to you the gender of our baby". I don't understand it.

 

[Pink Partridge]

Acquaintances of ours live streamed their actual gender reveal during the party and the father was FURIOUS when he found out he was having another girl.

What a horrible man.