Funeral Leave

[LaurenLC]

I'm a HR manager so I am well aware of our company’s policies... We give three bereavement days for immediate family members: parents, grandparents, siblings, children and in-laws.
The days are consecutive, so if you are out on Friday and you are off Saturday and Sunday you will be expected back at work on Monday.

 

[Ember]

Wow. When my mummy was dying I got a week compassion leave and then took a second week bereavement. I couldn't imaged losing a parent or a child and then going to work the next day...

 

[Lisa loves Pooh]

Wow. When my mummy was dying I got a week compassion leave and then took a second week bereavement. I couldn't imaged losing a parent or a child and then going to work the next day...

Keep in mind that OP is asking about paid leave. MOST employers in the US woudln't be so cold hearted as to have you bury an immediate family member 1 day and then report to work the next.

 

[Ember]

Keep in mind that OP is asking about paid leave. MOST employers in the US woudln't be so cold hearted as to have you bury an immediate family member 1 day and then report to work the next.

It was paid leave. I had to provide a letter from the hospital for the compassion leave and then a copy of the death certificate for the bereavement, but it was all covered and I didn't loose any pay. We get 5 days for each.

Of all the things I think should be supported by an employer, I feel that leave when you've lost a loved one should be at the top of the list. I recognize that this clearly isn't the case (though I think Canada is generally better about this sort of thing), but it should be. With everything else a heartbroken and grieving person has to deal with, being short several days pay shouldn't be added on...

 

[Lisa loves Pooh]

It was paid leave. I had to provide a letter from the hospital for the compassion leave and then a copy of the death certificate for the bereavement, but it was all covered and I didn't loose any pay. We get 5 days for each.

Of all the things I think should be supported by an employer, I feel that leave when you've lost a loved one should be at the top of the list. I recognize that this clearly isn't the case (though I think Canada is generally better about this sort of thing), but it should be. With everything else a heartbroken and grieving person has to deal with, being short several days pay shouldn't be added on...

I understand....

I think leave in general for other countries is better for many circumstances. But our culture has not been set up for that.

I'm not sure I can agree with across the board requirements like that to be "paid" due to the cost involved.

I'm just saying that most employer will not force you to return to work immediately. If your circumstances cannot handle unpaid time off--that is certainly a problem. But you were saying that you couldn't handle being forced to go back--and most companies do not force you to go back that quickly.

 

[WDWBarb]

I work for a small company and things like this make me appreciate that more. If someone passes away, you take whatever time you need (within reason, of course). My grandmother passed away and they told me to "go" when I got the call that she was quickly nearing the end of her life. They suggested I stay another day to spend time with her. My boss called me frequently to check on me. When she passed, they were wonderful and supportive. She didn't have a funeral and passed on a Saturday so I didn't end up missing work then, but they would never have wanted me to stay at work when my heart was really elsewhere.

We do have a "formal" policy that provides 3 days for immediate family, but everyone knows that you can take as much time as you need.

 

[cristit14]

I don't get any as a part time employee, but full time employees get I think 3 days for immediate family. However, a grandparent isn't considered immediate family

 

[Tracy Savage]

We get no paid days. I told my boss my Moms burial was on a Wednesday and she said ''Ok, I see you Thursday" I said, Um, no, you won't. Come on. Have a heart.

 

[castmemberb4]

For us it's 3 days for any family member.
I have a wonderfully understanding boss.
When My BIL died he let me take a week to help my sister.
When she died (very unexpected) two months later he let me take another week he only paid 3 days but it's a dentist office we only work 3 1/2 days a week.

 

[Acklander]

Self employed so - no work, no pay. DH has all his time rolled into one - vacation/funeral/sick/jury duty etc..... So he just draws from that if needed.

 

[Handbag Lady]

I've always had funeral leave or bereavement at all of my jobs.

The current one is 3-5 days, depending on relationship and if you have to travel.

I've never been told I couldn't be paid for any of the funerals I've attended in my life.

Also, I've had jobs that were always flexible when it comes to funeral, not one EVER took a hard stance on counting the days. If I needed more, I got more and never had to take vacation or a floater.

 

[tink_n_pooh]

We don't have any sort of bereavement leave but we can take time off as we see fit. If you want to get paid for the days you miss you have to use your available vacation/sick/personal days (they are all rolled into one).

Our policy is pretty simple --- if you are not at work you use your days off, if you run out of days off you aren't getting paid

 

[mrsstats]

I work in a small office. We get no paid time off. One person who has worked there for over 25 years lost her husband and they paid her zip. She had to take vacation. And she has let all her clients know that. Doesnt make the boss look too good.

 

[tazdev3225]

I'm retired but when I worked I had great funeral leave, as does my DH. We both work/edfor the city. We get 4 days for spouse, parent, sibling, grandparents and it includes in-laws. For aunts, uncles and cousins etc. it is 1 day. When my grandmother died my DH got 4 days, I didn't use any because I had the summers off. When we buried her ashes 6 years later I got 4 days funeral leave. I told my superiors the situation but as long as I had a note verifying it was a burial I got the leave.

 

[skw444]

I get 3 days for immediate family (spouse, child, sibling and parents) and 1 day for all others (this includes grandparents and in-laws).

 

[FireDancer]

We are on a PTO system and would have to use PTO days or go unpaid. I have never worked anywhere that gave more then 3 days but those places were on a sick/vacation system and I would rather have the PTO.

I wouldn't need more then a day if my grandma died anyway, and we were very close. I even lived with her while I was in college. She is in town so I would need the evening of the wake, probably leave early and the morning of the funeral. I am not the kind of person that wants to sit around and dwell on it, I would rather be working when I am not at the wake or funeral.

 

[HelenePA]

We are on a PTO system and would have to use PTO days or go unpaid. I have never worked anywhere that gave more then 3 days but those places were on a sick/vacation system and I would rather have the PTO.

I wouldn't need more then a day if my grandma died anyway, and we were very close. I even lived with her while I was in college. She is in town so I would need the evening of the wake, probably leave early and the morning of the funeral. I am not the kind of person that wants to sit around and dwell on it, I would rather be working when I am not at the wake or funeral.

Will/would you be the one making the arrangements for her funeral? if you are you'll need more time than that to do the planning. Picking out caskets, flowers, mass cards, priest, clothes, after burial get together then taking care of all the stuff like bills, her house, getting all of that takes more time than you would think btdt a few times already

 

[aprilgail2]

A grandparent isn't an immediate family member. That would be a spouse or a child. I've never heard of leave for a grandparent's funeral.

I have never heard of not getting leave for a grandparents funeral! That is terrible!
At my job we get three paid days off for - mother, father, sister, brother, grandmother, grandfather, stepmother, stepfather, mother in law, father in law, husband, wife and child.

 

[Sparx]

A grandparent isn't an immediate family member. That would be a spouse or a child. I've never heard of leave for a grandparent's funeral.

For many people, a grandparent is an immediate family member. Some people lived with their grand parents the way others lived with their parents.

 

[FireDancer]

Will/would you be the one making the arrangements for her funeral? if you are you'll need more time than that to do the planning. Picking out caskets, flowers, mass cards, priest, clothes, after burial get together then taking care of all the stuff like bills, her house, getting all of that takes more time than you would think btdt a few times already

She did a pre-need and everything is already taken care of. My uncle is taking care of the legal stuff.

If my mom died I would be the one in charge and would need the extra time.