Frustrated

[twoprincesses]

Okay so I have planned our Disney trip for over a year and originally it consisted of myself, my husband, our 2 daughters, my sister who is nine, and my mom, and dad. We will be celebrating my sister's 10th birthday their and it will be my daughters' first time to WDW, so I was extremely happy that we were making it a big family event. I had CRT, CM, Ohana, and CP ressies all lined up for us. I woke up 4 mornings at 5:30 am just so I could be one of the first to call wdwdine and get the PSs I wanted. Everything worked out great and I got the ressies at all the times I wanted. Well, my dad drops a bomb on me and tells me that I needed to make room for one more because he invited my cousin who is 13. I was a little disappointed because i wanted it to be like a parents and grandparents trip for my girls. So anyway, my dad said I was being really unreasonable and inconsiderate. And that the only reason he invited him was because he had never been and would probably never go anytime soon because his parents couldn't afford it. After that i felt bad and called to squeeze him in. Well, last night I called my mom to see if I had left my daughters' cinderella dresses at her house and she informed me that my dad was not going to be able to go because of work! So now I am really upset! My dad rarely went on family vacations with us when I was younger so this was suppose to be special. We've been to Egypt, Israel, Germany, Switzerland, Austria, France, Italy, the Philippines, etc... and he has not been to any of these places with us! Might I also add that he owns his own business!!!!!! He owns a taxidermy business and he said that the week of Thanksgiving is the busiest week and that he could not under any circumstances take off! Well I guess that is it. Sorry so long I just had to get that off my chest because my husband doesn't want to hear it (he doesn't think it is a big deal either)

 

[FourFlans]

In that line of business didn't he know that Thanksgiving is always a busy time and why did he wait til now to say something about it?

 

[DVCLiz]

Maybe I'm missing something - won't all those animals still be dead a week later????

 

[FourFlans]

Maybe I'm missing something - won't all those animals still be dead a week later????

 

[BkrsLoveDis!]

It's so amazing to me how often our parents still treat us like we're children and that we should do as we're told. I can't tell you how many times my Dad has ask my Mom if he could do something with our DD - I wanted to jump up in his face and say, "SHE'S MY DAUGHTER!!"

And then, when they want her to spend the night, they tell us when she'll come, whether it's convenient for us or not.

I'm sorry that you're having to deal with this - I can't find words to make it better - just know that you aren't the only adult out there who's still treated like a kid.

Cyn

 

[Nancyg56]

I'm so sorry that your vacatioin has taken this turn. I'm not sure what to say, but I hope that in the end, you are still able to have a good time. Kudos to you for being so gracious in taking your nephew. It is not always easy to invite others into a special event, but it was very nice of you to agree.

 

[Beth E. (NJ)]

Hugs to you!

 

[Stepht5]

Sorry so long I just had to get that off my chest because my husband doesn't want to hear it (he doesn't think it is a big deal either)

They don't think it is a big deal because they don't realize that you have done aot of work to make sure the trip is fun for everyone! They just think you get on a plane and drive to the hotel and everything is done....

 

[brownraven]

We will be taking our first trip in Jan 06. I am by no streach of the imagination be taking my in-laws or my parent. I do not want to have to get approval for every choice I make. You are not alone

 

[CleveRocks]

Maybe I'm missing something - won't all those animals still be dead a week later????

I don't mean to hijack the OP's thread, but LIZ, this is about the funniest thing I've ever read on this board! BRAVA!

-- Eric

 

[missymagic]

You are definitely not alone. That is for sure! My now ex-husband used to do it to me all the time. But I held my head high, turned on the smile, added some pixie dust and made it an even more enjoyable time!!! It is his loss unfortunately, maybe one day he will realize what he has lost out on by working all the time.

But have a great trip anyway.

 

[DVCLiz]

I don't mean to hijack the OP's thread, but LIZ, this is about the funniest thing I've ever read on this board! BRAVA!

-- Eric

Thanks, Eric - I'll be here all week...

OP, I'm really sorry about your situation. Sometimes my children whine a little about something I've planned for a WDW trip, and I feel like wringing their necks - can't imagine how frustrating it would be to plan for a large group and have it all start to go wrong. You have my deepest sympathies!!!!!!!

 

[scraphappy92]

Hugs, I know how it feels! My Dad is starting his "act" now for our December trip, saying he is not going, etc. Anything to get my mom worked up and I hate it. I love my dad dearly but at times he is a pain in the duppa! (He did this when we went 4 years ago too, but he does end up going in the end he just puts us through he$$ in the meantime.)

Oh and this year my best friend and her family are going too. This will be the first time for all 4 of them at WDW and her DH is being a duppa too! He won't go to any of the character meals with us (his kids are 8 and 10 and looking forward to all the Disney festivities) and keeps complaining about the cost and meals etc. He was more concerned about the pools at the hotel then the fun with his kids! (My DH said he better not rain on our fun or he will send him home! LOL!)

Hang in there and just try to make it as special as you can without him!

 

[Nancyg56]

Hugs, I know how it feels! My Dad is starting his "act" now for our December trip, saying he is not going, etc. Anything to get my mom worked up and I hate it. I love my dad dearly but at times he is a pain in the duppa! (He did this when we went 4 years ago too, but he does end up going in the end he just puts us through he$$ in the meantime.)

Oh and this year my best friend and her family are going too. This will be the first time for all 4 of them at WDW and her DH is being a duppa too! He won't go to any of the character meals with us (his kids are 8 and 10 and looking forward to all the Disney festivities) and keeps complaining about the cost and meals etc. He was more concerned about the pools at the hotel then the fun with his kids! (My DH said he better not rain on our fun or he will send him home! LOL!)

Hang in there and just try to make it as special as you can without him!

How lousy is that!!!!!!!!!!! All the planning and excitement just to have a rain cloud over you. Good for your DH...hope he sends him UPS ground.

 

[jetsetter90]

We went with friends a few years ago departing NY on Thanksgiving Day. Friends DH up until we arrived to get to the airport kept saying he wasn't going period. As we were loading up the car her DD comes out and says daddy's packing. He drove her crazy she was really upset the whole time and then he comes. Well there was no need sending him back via UPS because he would just leave us and his family whenever it wasn't what or where he wanted to be. We had a great time anyway and if you can believe it we still go away every Thanksgiving with this family. He does this EVERY year...says he's not coming and then goes. I feel sorry for my friend and we do end up having a good time so we still plan on going away with them.

To OP and maybe Dad will still come as the day gets closer.

TTFN
Jetsetter90

 

[scraphappy92]

How lousy is that!!!!!!!!!!! All the planning and excitement just to have a rain cloud over you. Good for your DH...hope he sends him UPS ground.

LOL! I will have to tell him to ship him back UPS ground!

 

[Stepht5]

We went with friends a few years ago departing NY on Thanksgiving Day. Friends DH up until we arrived to get to the airport kept saying he wasn't going period. As we were loading up the car her DD comes out and says daddy's packing. He drove her crazy she was really upset the whole time and then he comes. Well there was no need sending him back via UPS because he would just leave us and his family whenever it wasn't what or where he wanted to be. We had a great time anyway and if you can believe it we still go away every Thanksgiving with this family. He does this EVERY year...says he's not coming and then goes. I feel sorry for my friend and we do end up having a good time so we still plan on going away with them.

To OP and maybe Dad will still come as the day gets closer.

TTFN
Jetsetter90

I think someone needs to grow up! Would he want his children to act like him???

 

[twoprincesses]

Maybe I'm missing something - won't all those animals still be dead a week later????

yeah but you can't keep them dead in the back of your truck waiting for your taxidermist to answer his phone, unless you like maggots. Usually right after a hunt they will call on their way back from hunting and tell my dad to make room for their animal. Since it's deer season they bring the whole deer and store it in one of my dad's huge freezers. People will call at 3 am to ask if they can bring in their animal and my dad has never refused to open his shop not matter how late it is!

 

[twoprincesses]

In that line of business didn't he know that Thanksgiving is always a busy time and why did he wait til now to say something about it?

Well we all kinda knew it was a busy time, but I really thought he would make an exception since it was my sister's b-day, my girls' first time to WDW, and Thanksgiving... oh and I forgot to add it will be his birthday on the 25th... it has been a really rough year and i thought this would be a great trip. Earlier this year my parents were contemplating on getting a divorce which was really hard on me because I'd never imagine them not being together. I was shocked when they told me. I thought it was a nightmare. But they patched things up and I figured the trip would bring us all closer together. so much for that...

 

[tlbwriter]

yeah but you can't keep them dead in the back of your truck waiting for your taxidermist to answer his phone, unless you like maggots. Usually right after a hunt they will call on their way back from hunting and tell my dad to make room for their animal. Since it's deer season they bring the whole deer and store it in one of my dad's huge freezers. People will call at 3 am to ask if they can bring in their animal and my dad has never refused to open his shop not matter how late it is!

I guess he doesn't have any employees who could be trusted to open the freezer for a week?

I'm sorry, I'd be frustrated too. It's bad enough that he can't go, but to let you think all along that he's going and then pull this "Well of course I can't go" routine, as if you were insane, is that much worse.