FRUSTRATED with DH, about haircut, can anyone relate?

[Pin Wizard]

Originally posted by BillSears
DISshopper, I just feel that major changes should be discussed or at least mentioned first.

Suppose you had a thing for tidy whities. Your husband has always worn them and you love the way he looks in them. You hate boxers

So while yes it's attached to you and it's your decision it also might be worth thinking about how your spouse would feel about it.

Underwear? That wouldn't bother me in the least. Now, if he has a smooth baby face and wanted a scruffy beard that didn't look good, THAT would bother me.

 

[mudnuri]

Geez- never in my life has DH ever made any negative comment about my hair...

I've gone from dk brown 3/4 down my back- to 1/2" at it's longest length and red/purple....

Had natural curly hair for 28 years, and just a month ago spent 5 1/2 hours at the salon and 200 bucks to get it straightened...DH loved it!...

I wonder what they'd do if you told them they looked like crap?

Brandy

 

[DIZNYFAN]

My wife showed up to the wedding with short hair after having hair to the middle of her back. I told her at the time she looked wonderfull (had to it was our wedding day) after it was done and over I told her how I really felt about it. Like dsnylvr any time she goes and gets it cut short I go and shave my head and she hates it when I do that. You would think that she would get the hint after doing it every other summer for the last 5 years.

 

[DISshopkeeper]

Originally posted by BillSears
DISshopper, I just feel that major changes should be discussed or at least mentioned first.

Suppose you had a thing for tidy whities. Your husband has always worn them and you love the way he looks in them. You hate boxers because that's what your grandfater wore, darn you even saw him hanging around in them during hot days in the summer and they are a big turn off to you. Now your husband decides he's going to be a boxer man from now on. He knows how you feel about boxers, he knows he has always worn briefs. But for some reason he's now decided he likes boxers and the heck with how you feel. Personally I think he'd be an idiot to do something like that.

So while yes it's attached to you and it's your decision it also might be worth thinking about how your spouse would feel about it.

Well, now that we are talking boxers vs briefs... I BOUGHT him boxers because the tightie whities were SO WEIRD! He LOVES the boxers. Mentioned something about hanging free!

But to the point, as long as we treat each other with respect and love, I really believe that things like haircuts and underwear are small change, you know??

Thanks for explaining your point, though.

 

[BillSears]

Originally posted by DISshopkeeper
But to the point, as long as we treat each other with respect and love, I really believe that things like haircuts and underwear are small change, you know??

Yep, you're absolutley right. It all comes down to that in the end.

 

[LScot]

As a hairdresser, I found tis thread very interesting. Every week I cut some lady's hair who says, "I'd love to cut my hair short but my husband doesn't like short hair." I'd be rich if I had a dollar for every time I have heard that one!

OP, I have also had short hair ever since I was 6yo. I have grown it out a few times but always feel most comfortable with myself in short hair. It is just who I am. LOL

Once when DH and I started dating, I already had pretty short hair but decided to go even shorter. He pulled this same crap with me. I got the silent treatment. We had a long talk about it and it has never happened since. Nobody will ever tell me I can't cut my own hair. However, as WDWHound was saying, I always warn him. Every month, I say,"I'm getting a haircut tomorrow. It is goning to be realy, really short." It gives him a heads up. But, I think after almost 20 years, he is used to my ways.

The poster who said that long hair doesn't make you sexy is right on. I feel sorry for a woman who finds her sexiness in her long hair. It certainly doesn't take long hair for a woman to be sexy.

I hope your trip is wonderful and I hope he gets over it quickly. I'm betting he will since you have had short hair most of your relationship too. You'll just have to show him how sexy you are in your short hair!

 

[RNMOM]

Dated a guy in my early 20's who told me my long hair was my only good feature.

DH remains neutral on hair length. I cut it from being able to sit on it to chin length one month before we got married. He seems to like it short. I wouldn't really care if he didn't actually. It's my hair after all.

 

[aprilgail2]

Originally posted by DISshopkeeper
Well, now that we are talking boxers vs briefs... I BOUGHT him boxers because the tightie whities were SO WEIRD! He LOVES the boxers. Mentioned something about hanging free!

LOL...I always laugh when I see guys in tighty whities...they look SO odd...but I certainly wouldn't give anyone the silent treatment over wearing them LOL...
As far as getting a haircut...you are the one that has to deal with the long hair, not your husand..if he doesn't like it tough...let him grow his hair long and see how he feels then. I can't believe anyone would be so childish about someone else getting their own hair cut. Just because you are married doesn't mean he owns you or any part of you. Grrr...it makes me so angry when guys act like little children!!!!