Friendship problem..is it wrong of me to expect this???

[JulielovesDisney]

My friend just got her first boyfriend and she's totally mad about him. They've been going out for about 2 months now. At first, her boyfriend was a little rude to me and our other friends. I thought maybe it was just him being nervous and shy and it was just his way of being funny. But the longer he was around, it seems the worse it got. He still puts people down and is really rude. And my friend just sits there and smiles about it! He's told my one friend that she's going to have a beard when she's an old lady, he's told other friends to basically eff off, and he's thrown trash in my purse.

We've all yelled at him and freaked out on him, but my friend still just sits there and acts like nothing is wrong. Now if my boyfriend was doing stuff like that to my friends, I'd be flipping out on him. Is it wrong of my to expect my friend to stick up for us when her boyfriend is belittling us? Or is that just so off the map I should probably move to Jupiter?

 

[CheezDoodle]

Uhm... Wows. No it's not wrong of you to expect your friend to yell at her bf.

 

[GirlWithSpunk]

Yeah, your friend should stick up for you guys.

 

[JulielovesDisney]

We're planning on talking to her about it over lunch tomorrow, but today she was pissed off at us for some reason and wouldn't even look at us. I'm really at a loss about what to do. I've been friends with her since 2nd grade, best friends since 5th. I really don't want to lose this friendship. She knows almost everything about me. But it looks like it's heading down that path, sadly.

 

[imabrat]

Not wrong at all.
Good friends will be around alot longer than any boy will.

Sounds like she's too "blind" to see his arrogant/mean/rude/etc. side.
She's letting the one pro outweigh the one million cons.
YKNWIM?

 

[xo juicy splash]

"Boys come and go, but friends are forever."

 

[Lizbon]

Wow what is he in 3rd grade? Puts trash in your purse? Tells someone she's going to have a beard when she gets older? Wow. This guy seems like a jerk. Not to mention his comments are stupid. Just remember you are a better person then he is, hopefully your friend will realize that soon.

As for talking to your friend, school may not be the place to so it. She could easily run to her boyfriend if she gets mad. Its like those story lines you see on TV:

The friend has a jerk of a bf, her friends talk to her, she says "You guys are just jealous!" and then runs off. Then a few days or weeks later he does something truly jerk- ish and she realizes you guys were right all along.

I'm not saying thats going to happen to you, but maybe invite her to your house and you and your other friends can talk to her without anyone else around. I hope everything works out. And I'm with you, if a guy treated my friends like that--- I would defend them.

 

[VolleyballQt07]

"Boys come and go, but friends are forever."

ITA!

 

[acesupercoolme]

I'd talk to your friend about it.

 

[chisnpeke]

Boys.

 

[MrsSparrow..]

He sounds like a bit of a jerk, I agree with others just talk to your friend about how he's hurting your feelings. She doesn't have to break up with him, but they could hang out somewhere else.

 

[Cassidy]

That same thing happens to me. My "friend" Katherine was going out with this little twerp, Jackson. He cussed me out called me names, I even talked to her privately, on the phone, on msn. She said she would handle it. IT GOT WORSE.

I said STRAIGHT to her face

" If you dont want to stick up for me, then apparently our friendship is worth nothing. You let him treat us like a piece a crap thats on the bottom of your shoe and just ignore it. So, if you want to stay friends with us, then take care of us and defend us. We do it to you, and apparently you DON'T do it to us. He treats us like were pieces of crap and all you do is sit and smile like nothing is happening. "

Then I walked away.

She ended up breaking up with him, after he cheated on her.

 

[OneTreeHill]

Wow. I am not even sure what to say about this. Your friend should definitley stick up for you guys especially since you have been friends for that long. That guy is seriously immature and I don't see why anyone would even want to go out with him if he is gonna treat her friends like crap. You should definitley try and sit your friend down and talk about this with her.

 

[::Snow_White::]

No it's not wrong of you.
I think you should talk to your friend about it.

 

[Blooe]

I would also talk to your friend about it.

 

[XxCuriosityxX<3]

Its not wrong of you at all.
You should talk to your friend and tell her these things.
Maybe she just needs to be told to see it herself.

 

[JulielovesDisney]

Well her boyfriend was homeschooled up until freshman year of highschool, so he might be a little behind on his social skills. He lives right across the street from me and we used to play together when we were younger and he was always kinda off.

But we went out to lunch today. We didn't quite talk about it, but we definitely repaired the damage between us. But me and my other friend made a plan that if he does do something really stupid like before, we're going to approach him. And if that doesn't work, then we'll talk to my friend about it.

He is really immature, and I honestly have no idea what she sees in him. But we'll see how it goes. I did yell at him pretty bad when he threw trash in my purse (I still can't believe he did that! I mean, c'mon, we're seniors in high school!!). I even threw the trash at him and hit in right in the nose! (Go me!! Haha!) and he did back off. He was really surprised. Now, that was only 2 days ago, but he hasn't done anything yet, so maybe he'll back off now.

 

[Lizbon]

Well her boyfriend was homeschooled up until freshman year of highschool, so he might be a little behind on his social skills. He lives right across the street from me and we used to play together when we were younger and he was always kinda off.

But we went out to lunch today. We didn't quite talk about it, but we definitely repaired the damage between us. But me and my other friend made a plan that if he does do something really stupid like before, we're going to approach him. And if that doesn't work, then we'll talk to my friend about it.

He is really immature, and I honestly have no idea what she sees in him. But we'll see how it goes. I did yell at him pretty bad when he threw trash in my purse (I still can't believe he did that! I mean, c'mon, we're seniors in high school!!). I even threw the trash at him and hit in right in the nose! (Go me!! Haha!) and he did back off. He was really surprised. Now, that was only 2 days ago, but he hasn't done anything yet, so maybe he'll back off now.

He's a senior..... WOW. Haha thats all I have to say.

 

[JulielovesDisney]

He's a senior..... WOW. Haha thats all I have to say.

Pathetic isn't it??

 

[Lizbon]

Pathetic isn't it??

Slightly.