Friend request from toxic relationship

[iheartdisney]

Has anyone ever received a friend request frrom a completely toxic person from your past?
Omg, I just gott one, and it floored me!
I partly want to deny it straight out, and partly want to give him the telling off I didn't have the nerve to 15 years ago. Why on EARTH would someone like that send someone a friend request.
(Please excuse my momentary flip-out!)

 

[PiperPizzaz]

Just ignore.

 

[Trish.Glenn]

Yes I can NOT stand it....I do not even have a facebook account because of it. (bad break-up and he would not let it go, his freinds either) Just don't respond. Good luck!

 

[AnnieEMT]

Yes indeed - I don't have any insight into their motivations (WHY in heaven's name would this person want to be my "friend"??!!) but I figure it's usually curiosity on their part. I have zero curiosity about these people, and would definitely regret having them in my life again. Hit ignore and carry on.

 

[superme80]

I would just deny the request and move on. I had this happen to me. I have ingnored him. It took a couple of tries, but I think he got the message.

 

[cglaura]

Deny request and block the user. Although the telling off might be feel good at first, it's only going to open the door for rebuttal. Not worth it!

 

[ExPirateShopGirl]

Denying the request and/or blocking the person will send a bigger message than telling him or her off. Waste no more of your time or energy considering it.

 

[kaleighmariesmom]

Denying the request and/or blocking the person will send a bigger message than telling him or her off. Waste no more of your time or energy considering it.

this is what I did... same situation .. I couldn't believe they had the nerve to even request me!

 

[shortbun]

Don't take the bait. Deny and move on. Breathe in and out. When I see that you are tempted to communicate, I see that the poison is seeping in already. Deny and move on.

 

[pixiewings71]

I just ignored, didn't even bother blocking them. They can't see anything on my page anyway so ignoring them was the best option.

 

[Celidh]

I agree with everyone else. Had the same problem with someone. I blocked her from facebook and my email. People just don't get it! Not worth the hassle.

 

[furb & dez]

I just ignored, didn't even bother blocking them. They can't see anything on my page anyway so ignoring them was the best option.

Totally agree, better to just ignore it. Going through the denial process just gives them more to play with.

 

[Stinkerbell1973]

I agree with the OP's and can also speak from experience. Ex of DH has tried to connect with me through FB and LinkedIn. It's such a shame that TWENTY YEARS LATER folks just can't move past the past.
Ignore and move on. That way you don't provoke anything. It's nice to think that people get older and wiser but the old adage is SO true - a leopard never changes his/her spots.

 

[KarenAylwood]

If you can stand to leave them in "purgatory" as I call it, do. If you can't stand them constantly popping up on your page- deny the friendship. I wouldn't block just yet. That shows you care in the first place.

I did have one person from my past friend me, and I denied them twice before sending me another friend request and a MESSAGE! Gah! I denied and then blocked them. I'd only block if it's a repeat issue. Goodluck and I'm sorry - it's an annoying situation.

 

[Cinerbelle]

My Ex husband (who cheated on me with my best friend and married her) contacted me through FB. We spoke back in forth through PM'ing and are now "friends" in FB. I have no issues with it. We were really young and dumb when we married and I wouldn't have been the person I was when I met the real love of my life. It took a long time to get over when it happened, but looking back...she can have him!! I actually missed her and my in laws more then the ex hubby.

 

[DVCBELLE]

I had a friend request me on facebook that I had chosen to end the friendship - but it was a good healing process for me to accept her request. It has been 15 years and we were best friends...I had seen her out a couple of times luckily far enough away that I could divert my path without being detected. But just recently I ran into her and chose to initiate the conversation and it was good.

There are people I would never be okay with friending but there are also times you might see that you have both grown and it is time to just let it go.

 

[mandynee22]

I did. From my brother. Who I told, point blank, "I am done with you. Never contact me again. Have a great life"
Telling off will do no good since I don't think he grasps it so I just left it in my pending requests so he won't resend thinking he just never sent it or it got mixed up or something