Freedom?

[shellybellypolo]

Well today I went to this nice little fair. Everyone was nice, I saw all my friends, and even my crush. Then I walked around with my friends. But my mom didn't want me to be totally alone and so she called me. She told me she was gonna head over to where I was. I was like "OK." But then my friends started to walk away from the area and I followed them. Well my mom got mad at me and she made me stay in the kiddy section for like an hour to talk about "what I did". I was so close to crying because I didn't get a lot of sleep that night, I haven't gotten my little friend this month, and I was just so confused. Then they started yelling at me more. When I got out of the area, most of my friends were gone, including my crush. At that point I was holding my tears in so bad. I'm 13, I know there are certain limits. But everyone else was walking around with their parent someone else. I know what you're gonna say "If they jumped off a bridge would you?" No, but I'm expected with SOME freedom.

What do you think?
What types of freedom are you allowed to?

 

[CheerExtreme]

Well, ok...If your mom said that you had to stay in groups, then why was she mad?

 

[Tinkerbell424]

IMO I think you should have waited for your mom to walk near where you guys were. I can see why she would be mad at that.

I don't really know what types of freedom I have...I ask my mom if I can do things and she either says yes or no. I am allowed to stay outside until 10:30 on weekends. I am allowed to stay up until 2:00 AM on weekends. I am allowed to go to the movies with friends.

But on your side,I don't think she should have kept you there for an hour yelling at you.But this is all JMHO.

 

[Kats~Meow]

If you were in a group I don't understand why your mom was so mad. When I was 13 my parents wanted me to be at least in a group at the mall or whereever. As a matter of fact they like that I am with others now that I am 17 when I go to a concert or out.

 

[::Snow_White::]

I'm what my friends call a goody goody.
I don't do anything if I think my mom won't like it.
I'm a mommy's girl.

I'd most likely stay where I was. I can understand why your mom would've been mad. Yelling at you for an hour seems a little much but that's just me.
Just a simple don't leave where you are suppose to be talk I think would've been fine. IMO.

My mom isn't that bad. She let's me walk around town with friends. Go shopping with friends and go to the movies, school sporting events and stuff with friends. As long as I'm going with friends she is ok. She'd rather not have me going like shopping and stuff in town by myself. But if I asked her and brought my cell phone she probably wouldn't mind.

But our town is so small everyone knows each other, and I know where some of our relatives and everyone works in town if I needed anything.

 

[AngelInDisguise]

I can't go to my BFF's house for 1 sec. without her. for just a day not a sleepover

she would have to know that friend and her parents for like 5 years to let me stay the night (straight from my mom)

 

[StephaBabe50]

I know how you feel.
I'm 15 and my mom is pretty over protective.
Sorry, I don't really have any advice :/

 

[Ms.Squeakers]

Im sorry
My mom does that to me ALL THE TIME
and im only a year younger then you and i have the same issues going on. And espically if my crush is in the group that makes it worse its like "BLECK LEAVE ME ALONE!! 0.o"


Im sorry

 

[Pirate Me]

I can't go anywhere past the supermarket, about 5 blocks down.
I can't go anywhere at night, unless its my grandfather's house.
The only place I'm allowed to sleepover is my cousin's house.
Well, I don't have that much freedom but I know that if I were a parent, I would rather know that my kid is safe.

 

[Dragonlord11_7]

I think it was unfair for your mom to yell at you for an hour. When me and my parents fight about driving to our house in Cincinnati, because my brother and I hate to go, we sneak out of the apartment and go to our friends' apartment. My mom calls my dad and says we're not going and she goes shopping. Lol. They let us go basically anywhere as long as we know where we are and don't cross this 8 lane road nearby. So I take my mum's cell and ride my bike with my friend and go hang out at like Target. They just say be back by whenever and that's our only rule really. I'm 13 and my parents trust me enough to take care of my brother and cook dinner and stuff. We can stay at home by ourselves for the whole weekend and they could care less. I'm getting a cell soon so we'll have even more freedom. They're purposely getting us unlimited texts and calls. LOL.

On weekends, we're allowed out until 10.

 

[BandGeek911]

My mom feels that she can trust me, and as long as my cell phone is on, she let's me do whatever. (As long if I'm with someone else, and I make smart decisions...yeah.)

But I think it's unfair you got in that much trouble for that.

 

[BabyPiglet]

I kinda understand why your mom got mad. I mean she told you she was on her way over to where you were, you could have waited. You could have told your friends to hold on, and wait til your mom got there.

 

[Babyjustrun]

I would have stayed, and found my friends afterwards.
I mean, my mum would get mad if I didn't stay and she never found me, and I know my friends would NEVER wait for me.
But they'd understand if I said, 'I have to do this one thing for my mum, I'll meet up with you later at __________ at.. say 4.'

 

[catycatcat4]

your mom sounds like my mom im gonna be 15 and march and she still wont let me out of her site here even if im with 15 other people. Here once your 15 you get your perment but now your not allowed to have a normal licance until your 17 my mom said even then she wont let me drive around my self im like uhhh ok what ever

 

[MuNkY]

Put yourself in her shoes. She says she's going to meet you somewhere, and when she gets there you're not there. Personally if I was a parent and that happened to me I'd be really, really scared. I can understand for her being upset.

 

[Lizbon]

Well I understand why parents are sometimes over protective, but I think at 12 and 13 you should have certain restraints. I think some poeple are trying to grow up to fast. My mom is kind of in between as far as over- protective goes, she likes to know who is going where and the exact time but she is not calling me every 5 seconds of anything like that. At 13 I felt the same way but trust me it gets better. I think either way, you would've gotten yelled at. She told you to stay in a group so you did, and you got in trouble. But if you had stayed there she probably would've yelled at you for being alone. Its probably best to talk to her about how there is a happy medium beween no restraints and over protective. Hope I helped a little.