When you ask for your rides, the CM will give you several "package" options (soarin at 8-9, figment 10-11, captain eo 1-2; or maybe soarin 9-10, captain eo 1-2, figment 2-3), and the way it's presented ("Best Option," "Option A", "Option B," "Option C") makes it seem like those are your ONLY options. For us, the last option presented "Option D" or something like that, was often the best option, so don't choose until you see all of them.
ALSO, the CM can individually pick the ride times. So instead of accepting the "package", the CM can "go into" the Soarin selection and handpick a time from all the slots available. So you can tailor it.
It's also better to pick a package for the whole travel party, then micromanage the people who can't or don't go on certain rides (so pick Soarin for everyone, then manually change Soarin to something else for the minority of folks who won't ride).
Finally, the first/biggest FP kiosk is the one that gets the most people at rope drop. Walk to the next one down! So plan on your map -- at Epcot, there are breezeways to the left and right of the central area beyond Spaceship Earth -- those were much less crowded at rope drop than the central one.
And as mentioned before, 1 person can go to the kiosk with everyone's park tickets to get all the FP+s.