This is good info - thanks.
So (realizing that it may change and be inconsistent!): If the first group to ride goes through the standby line, nobody needs a fast pass and the second group either goes through the fastpass line or waits at the exit. If everyone wants to use the fastpass line, than EVERYONE in the party (except for the too-small-kid) needs a fastpass. Is that correct?
I sorta-kinda-get the abuse logic, but now my DS, who is 5 but tiny, won't be able to take advantage of all of his FP+s if the rest of us use the other FPs for headliners. I can't very well make him a Buzz Lightyear FP+ reservation and send him there on his own while DH, DSis, and I ride space mountain. Sigh.
I hate that they aren't consistent!