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[MagiKitty]

Oh Lighttech! I'm so so sorry you're having a bad day. Although I don't have kids, I completely understand why you're upset. Obviously you felt that BL's temp should have been monitored and felt it was important to keep track of it. Its very difficult to relax a bit and let someone else take care of things---especially when its your child! Its just that you felt that DH didn't see the issue as you did and when it comes to BL you both should be on the same page.

Hope BL is feeling better today and that you and DH have used this disagreement to talk about the issue of seeing things from each one's perspective. Hug it out. And come back here if you need to vent more!

 

[lighttech]

Oh Lighttech! I'm so so sorry you're having a bad day. Although I don't have kids, I completely understand why you're upset. Obviously you felt that BL's temp should have been monitored and felt it was important to keep track of it. Its very difficult to relax a bit and let someone else take care of things---especially when its your child! Its just that you felt that DH didn't see the issue as you did and when it comes to BL you both should be on the same page.

Hope BL is feeling better today and that you and DH have used this disagreement to talk about the issue of seeing things from each one's perspective. Hug it out. And come back here if you need to vent more!

Thanks! I'm feeling a little better now. Its not even that he wasn't monitoring it. He did that. Its just that he couldn't remember when talking to the doc. I'm forgetful as anything, but if its important, I make sure I write down the facts to get it right.

Anyway, he talked to the doc again and Dr. said not to worry, but to keep watching it and call tomorrow morning if he has a fever again today. So, I'm just keeping my fingers crossed that it doesn't go up over 100.5 today. Both b/c I want poor BL to be better and also b/c I want to be done w/ this. And, truthfully b/c I know the office is closed tomorrow and I really don't want to waste 1/2 a day in an ER w. a sick uncomfortable baby who would much rather be home playing.

DH and I did talk a little, but I know our attention to detail will always be an issue. He just doesn't pay attention to things. Normally its not a big deal, but for the big stuff, I think it will always annoy me. (I love him dearly, and its a minor flaw all things considered, but it does generate a lot of extra work now and then... )

 

[whgrn]

We're totally having the new TV talk over here too. I have a TV armoire, so luckily that limits how big we can go, coz I'm not getting rid of that! I have to do more research on it...

So far, I've made my list of things I want to bring next month to the Phils. Even that is overwhelming me. I want to bring as little as possible, so there's more space to pack my gifty-stuff. But shopping for clothes and shoes over there is impossible for me, so I have to pack for every occasion, because I can't get it when I'm over there. Its stressing me out at the moments and I'm just going to ignore it for now.

We have a big TV. *I* bought the thing myself. And I could not tell you what it is! Size? LCD or Plasma? Who the heck knows, or cares? It had to be big because our family room is big and a small TV would be lost in there (plus you couldn't see it from across the room!) I just know it works great and I love it!

I hear you on not being able to shop there. This has always been my dilemna when I travel. If I lose my luggage going to someplace in the US, well, I'll just go to the mall and buy something new. But overseas, forget it! Anything bigger than a size 10 can only be found in big cities. So unless I'm going to Istanbul or London, i'm kind of out of luck! So I handle it by a) dividing my clothes between all the suitcases, mine and the kids, checked and carryon, and b) bringing "mix and match" stuff that can go with each other to make different outfits.

Thanks for the advice everybody.

Whgrn - Thanks very much. Good to get guidelines from someone that actually worked in a pedi office. I did ask about the shots... well sort of. More on that below.

Actually, I need my ladies as a sounding board this morning!! I'm in a lousy mood, stuck at work, and I don't want to bite any innocent heads off. (Just warned our intern that I'm having a bad day.) DH was home w/ BL yesterday since I had to work, and I'm trying REALLY hard to remember that just b/c he does things diff't doesn't mean they are wrong. ("Lighttech, stop being a control freak. DH is a great Dad and takes good care of the kids.", etc. I tell myself.) So, when he didn't want to call the Dr. yesterday, I said o.k. We'll wait till morning. And, BLs temp was only like 99 all day anyway... not even really a fever for a little guy. Then around 3 it spiked up to 101. DH said "Let's wait it out, we'll call in the morning." Arrgghhh! "OK" say I. DH was the one w/ him and said he was playing, peeing, etc. all those things Whgrn mentioned.

So, this morning, BLs temp is 100. Not bad. (A baby is considered to have a fever at 100.5) But, still enough that I wanted to call the Dr. during his "available hours." So, I paged him. DH answered when Dr. called back. I tensed up b/c I wanted to talk to him, but I figured "Hey, we just talked about the questions, the details of the fever and, anyway, DH was home w/ BL all day yesterday." So, he chats away, asks me questions a few times to confirm the temperatures which for some unknown reason he can't remember for more than 10 seconds and hangs up. Tells me that the Dr. said that since he really hasn't had an official fever since Christmas Day, to wait it out until Monday and call then if there's still a problem. I say "Didn't you tell me his fever was at 101 when he was with you yesterday?" DH says "Umm. I don't know, was it?"

SERIOUSLY!!! WE JUST TALKED ABOUT THIS!!! AND I'M NOT THE ONE WHO WAS HOME!!!

So, I calmly say "Yes, in the afternoon, it spiked to 101. That's why we decided to call today. You should probably call the Dr. back."
DH gets totally defensive and says "Fine. You can talk to him this time since I obviously can't keep things straight and you know it all."


I was SO MAD!!! Here I am trying not to criticize and stay calm and he goes completely idiot on me. I tried to reassure him that I wasn't criticizing his parenting. I mean, really, this wasn't a matter of opinion! He got the facts wrong!!! Its sort of important for the Dr. to know what actually happened. Plus, he knew I was already late and had to leave for work. Its such a cop out. Its like if he does it wrong he knows I'll just handle it next time. Well, I'm not taking the bait!
I'm already pissed enough that he could have just taken BL to the Dr. on Friday by himself (we had sent DS to daycare that day so DH didn't have too much to deal with - God forbid he take care of a sick kid and a well kid all at once.) And now, instead, I'll get to drag both kids on Monday if we have to go. But, I didn't even bring that up (until later in the argument ) but, I'm not going to wait around the house to talk to the doctor on the phone!

Plus, addressing the side note above. I asked DH to ask about the shots. I heard part of the conversation, and he mentioned the 4 month appt., but didn't actually ask if we should reschedule. So, when I asked him about that he just said "Well, he didn't say anything..." So, I don't have a firm answer on that either.

So much for letting go... It would have been a thousand times easier if I'd just taken over yesterday. This is NOT a good experience for me to learn to take on less responsibility.

So, DH and I sort of made up, but not really. I'm still pissed at him, I'm still slightly worried about BL, I have no idea what to do about the appt coming up. Basically, nothing is resolved, and I'm in a pissy mood, and now I have to try and focus on work all day.

Some days just stink.

Thanks for listening...

Oh, honey, I'm so sorry! I know how hard it is when you have to leave your baby when he's sick. And while I'm sure DH's heart is in the right place, he is being rather a pill isn't he?!? Just take a deep breath and try to let it go. There will be bigger dragons to slay, I assure you, as the kids grow up!

Well, last night I was asleep by 10, and this AM I had a hard time getting up at 8! Don't know why I'm so darned tired. I would think my food hangover would be all gone by now! At any rate, I dragged myself out of bed and went to the gym for a pool class. Feeling MUCH better after that! I've done my grocery shopping, had lunch, and now I am relaxing at the computer while the kids entertain themselves with endless games of Wii, computer surfing, and iPod listening. Hey, it's the Christmas holiday, let them fry their brains!! On Monday, it's CLEANING DAY!! We will tackle DS's room (a disaster area) and my office (a BIGGER disaster area!) Bet that will burn some calories!

Well, everyone have a good day and I'll catch up with y'all tomorrow. (we're going to a party tonite)

 

[DL55]

Lighttech Hope BL gets better soon. My DH isn't into details either.
We have a crock pot which we use sometimes. We have a 42" LCD TV because that's what fits in our TV alcove. Luckily my DH isn't into having the largest. Did someone mention Texas Roadhouse? One of my favorites. Of course we have to drive for 1 and a half hours to get there.
I'm so happy. It snowed last night! Of course it was only about 3/4 of an inch. Didn't have to clear the drive and roads are clear. It was nice taking my morning walk out in the snow.

 

[Shmu]

MERRY CHRISTMAS TO ALL MY SPECIAL TK FRIENDS
and
Welcome All Newbies

Better late than never.
Love the new title.
Sorry I have been absent.
Racetrack was kind enough to email me the new link.

It's very difficult for me to find time for the computer lately.
For a while we had computer problems and nobody around here had any computer time.
Now it's fixed but my DS has started taking online classes so I have to let him have it most of the time.

We are alive and well.
Hope you are all doing great as well. I'll try and read back some to find out how everyone is.
I'll be scarce for a while but I'll pop in every chance I get.

Big Hugs to everyone.

 

[lighttech]

Wow. You all have such impressive televisions.
We have a big one too, but its a rear projection and we've had it for some time. I got it as a birthday for DH/housewarming/wedding for both of us present all those years ago. Its a 43", but isn't quite so large as the 42" tv's are now since ours isn't in the 16:9 format. It is sort of bulky since its a rear projection, and I'd love to have a flat one to get the footprint off of our living room floor and have the tv hanging on the wall, but we just can't justify it since this tv still works (knock wood... b/c not only can't we justify it, we can't afford it either. )

Talked to DH a little bit ago and BLs temp was still down around 99.something. Keep your fingers crossed for me (or him)! If it stays down and doesn't spike this afternoon like it did yesterday, we may be out of the woods so to speak. (As long as tomorrow goes well then too and so on and so forth...)

 

[lighttech]

MERRY CHRISTMAS TO ALL MY SPECIAL TK FRIENDS
and
Welcome All Newbies

Better late than never.
Love the new title.
Sorry I have been absent.
Racetrack was kind enough to email me the new link.

It's very difficult for me to find time for the computer lately.
For a while we had computer problems and nobody around here had any computer time.
Now it's fixed but my DS has started taking online classes so I have to let him have it most of the time.

We are alive and well.
Hope you are all doing great as well. I'll try and read back some to find out how everyone is.
I'll be scarce for a while but I'll pop in every chance I get.

Big Hugs to everyone.

Hi Shmu!!! Its so good to see you again!!! No worries. Life definitely get in the way of dis time sometimes. Pop in when you can.

 

[lighttech]

Hi racetrack! (Just saw you on my "buddy list.")

 

[racetrack18kb]

Hey lighttech!!! I saw the update on BL. That's good news. And my DH is the same way with details. He can't really remember anything. Or actually, he can't remember anything that I think is important. Now if it's anything to do with work or his truck, he can remember every little detail. Drives me nuts.

 

[lighttech]

Why is that? Are the detail remembering skills on the same chromosome as the milk-in-the-fridge-finding abilities?

 

[lighttech]

I'm waiting on an update from DH now. Temp was still at 99.? around 2:30, and BL was falling asleep eating his bottle. I'm assuming DH took it again/will take it again when he wakes up. Hopefully it will be under the mark.

Then we take up the next debate. We're supposed to go to breakfast w/ MIL and FIL. I'm thinking its probably o.k. as long as the fever stays down, DH, of course, doesn't even consider it a question. "Its fine" as always... But, I'm not as sure.

 

[MagiKitty]

Evening girls! How was your day?

Ah, a little man-bashing. Totally deserved. All the cliches about the Y chromosome are a cliche for a reason: they're all true! My BF totally runs his mouth off about something "missing" before actually looking! Or deciding that he wouldn't like something even before I finish asking him about it! The one that drives me absolutely bonkers is how he can drop anything anywhere, leave it on the floor and expect me not to trip on it, be annoyed by it, or just grossed out by it. Its just so inconsiderate and it just makes me want to scream.

Lighttech, glad to hear that BL's fever is staying down. I don't know about the breakfast either, especially taking the little guy out in the cold. Could your MIL and FIL bring something over and you can have breakfast at your place? Or maybe your DH could run out and pick something up? I wouldn't want you to fret about making something.

 

[racetrack18kb]

I have no idea why they can never find the milk either. Had to help mine find the milk today.

Yeah, I get the "it's fine" remark all the time. If the kids get sick, I usually don't worry too much anymore. You know, been there done that. But if I think it's bad enough to call DH at work to see when he will be home, then I expect more than the usual "she's fine"

 

[lighttech]

MK - my favorite is when he leaves stuff lying on the floor in an awkward place and then gets mad at ME for tripping on it!

No, having them over won't work. Its a special breakfast buffet. Its actually going to be like 60 here tomorrow (weird), so the cold isn't an issue. As long as I keep him close and don't let strangers poke at him, I'm kind of thinking its not an issue. I probably wouldn't take him out if it was just me, but I don't really think its a problem either, and I might just cave on this one to avoid another argument... honestly, I'm just too tired. And, you know, "pick your battles."

 

[lighttech]

I have no idea why they can never find the milk either. Had to help mine find the milk today.

Yeah, I get the "it's fine" remark all the time. If the kids get sick, I usually don't worry too much anymore. You know, been there done that. But if I think it's bad enough to call DH at work to see when he will be home, then I expect more than the usual "she's fine"

I hate that expression!!!

Oh well, I gotta run. DH did say he's checked BL several times, and the temp hasn't been over 99. TMI WARNING!! He also said he's exploded and had diarhea a few times, but I think that tends to happen from the tylenol,( and also the little bit of stuffy nose) since he's never had anything w/ sugar in it.

Thanks for the "sisterhood" today. Now I've cleansed and can go home and attempt a nice night w/ DH w/o snapping at him for the dumb stuff. Afterall, its not his fault he's X chromosome deficient.

 

[BKMETV]

Hey Ladies:

Lighttech - Hope BL is feeling better...I find smacking DH on the back of the head helps...at least it makes me feel better.

Why is that? Are the detail remembering skills on the same chromosome as the milk-in-the-fridge-finding abilities?

I think it something to do with the inability of men to change the toilet paper roll!!

 

[D&DDisney]

Howdy Ho Everyone!

Well, I made it through a family Christmas get-together. Only had to have one glass of wine and tried a shot of Irish Creme (which by the way is quite yummy!) Thankfully everyone was nice and remembered that we get together for our Mom and for the kids to have fun w/ cousins.

Lighttech - Hope BL's fever is in check now. My youngest gets very high fevers when he is sick. Has gone to 104. Even as a baby his would spike and scare me half to death. Doc just says its his body's way of dealing w/ illness. Still scary though. Hugs to you!

Happy belated boxing day to our Canadian pals!

Kitty - I agree with you and Bopsmom. We should all move our get togethers to Dec. 2009. December is a great month to be at WDW. Plus 3 of us will get in free on our b-days! TKers take on Disney in Dec.

Went to the after Christmas sales but didn't find much. Got some cheap 50cent rolls of wrapping paper, Hershey's Candy Cane Kisses half-off, and a large candle warmer (so I don't have to light 'em to smell 'em) for $5. I'll give it a week or so and then venture out again hoping for 75% or more off. Now that's a sale.

 

[mariezp]

Evening all you TKers! I know everyone has probably already gone to bed. I am always just a little late for the big rush! Oh well, just about to go to bed myself.

We went to a wedding and then attended DH's family Christmas today. Neither event was at the top of my to-do-list but we showed our faces so we did what was expected of us. DH was really annoyed because he had other plans and then all this came up. Aaaah, the joy of obligations.

lighttech, I hope BL is feeling better and you are too. I bet your DH doesn't mean to be a pain in the butt... they just can't help themselves.

I have given up trying to figure out why mine does the things he does. Besides I know I probably drive him just as crazy as he does me. I have figured out that I will be the worrier on some things while he is calm and then on others he is the worrier while I am calm. Maybe that's what's up with your DH. He knows you are worried so he is trying to pull it off that he knows what he's doing. As for him just being forgetful, I really can't criticize anyone on that cause I am the worlds worst!.... now what was I talking about?

Also, it's just one of those darn Murphy laws for kids to get sick right before the weekend.

If my DH was to find the milk in the fridge he would do one of the following:
1. Drink it all and leave the empty container on the cabinet for the trash fairy to clean up in the morning.
2. Drink all but 2 teaspoons full and put it back in the fridge just in case someone else needed that last drink.
3. Put it on a totally different shelf than where it belongs.

Even worse than the problems with milk is his habit of leaving the kitchen b00by-trapped with left open cabinet doors that are just level with my forehead. Why is that?
And you can always tell what he has been eating because it is never put back in the pantry where it came from. Men.....
In his defense, even though he does not know how to change the toilet roll, he does usually put the toilet seat back down in the girl's bathroom.

 

[lighttech]

Thanks for all the support everybody! BLs temp never went over 99.something yesterday. And, last night it was at 98.2. This morning I didn't even bother taking it. He felt cool as a cucumber, and, to be honest, I hate doing that rectal temp if I don't think its necessary.

Hey Ladies:

Lighttech - Hope BL is feeling better...I find smacking DH on the back of the head helps...at least it makes me feel better.



I think it something to do with the inability of men to change the toilet paper roll!!

Thanks for the laugh. I'll give that a try. And, we now have a double toilet paper roll holder... so that, in theory, when one runs out, you replace it and never are stuck w/o. But, DH manages to let both run out before replacing. (To be fair, I've forgotten myself once or twice though.)

Howdy Ho Everyone!

Well, I made it through a family Christmas get-together. Only had to have one glass of wine and tried a shot of Irish Creme (which by the way is quite yummy!) Thankfully everyone was nice and remembered that we get together for our Mom and for the kids to have fun w/ cousins.

Lighttech - Hope BL's fever is in check now. My youngest gets very high fevers when he is sick. Has gone to 104. Even as a baby his would spike and scare me half to death. Doc just says its his body's way of dealing w/ illness. Still scary though. Hugs to you!

Happy belated boxing day to our Canadian pals!

Kitty - I agree with you and Bopsmom. We should all move our get togethers to Dec. 2009. December is a great month to be at WDW. Plus 3 of us will get in free on our b-days! TKers take on Disney in Dec.

Went to the after Christmas sales but didn't find much. Got some cheap 50cent rolls of wrapping paper, Hershey's Candy Cane Kisses half-off, and a large candle warmer (so I don't have to light 'em to smell 'em) for $5. I'll give it a week or so and then venture out again hoping for 75% or more off. Now that's a sale.

I think someday when our kids have all grown up and we actually have free time we should have a TKers reunion in WDW. It'll give me something to look forward to in 20 years or so.

Evening all you TKers! I know everyone has probably already gone to bed. I am always just a little late for the big rush! Oh well, just about to go to bed myself.

We went to a wedding and then attended DH's family Christmas today. Neither event was at the top of my to-do-list but we showed our faces so we did what was expected of us. DH was really annoyed because he had other plans and then all this came up. Aaaah, the joy of obligations.

lighttech, I hope BL is feeling better and you are too. I bet your DH doesn't mean to be a pain in the butt... they just can't help themselves.

I have given up trying to figure out why mine does the things he does. Besides I know I probably drive him just as crazy as he does me. I have figured out that I will be the worrier on some things while he is calm and then on others he is the worrier while I am calm. Maybe that's what's up with your DH. He knows you are worried so he is trying to pull it off that he knows what he's doing. As for him just being forgetful, I really can't criticize anyone on that cause I am the worlds worst!.... now what was I talking about?

Also, it's just one of those darn Murphy laws for kids to get sick right before the weekend.

If my DH was to find the milk in the fridge he would do one of the following:
1. Drink it all and leave the empty container on the cabinet for the trash fairy to clean up in the morning.
2. Drink all but 2 teaspoons full and put it back in the fridge just in case someone else needed that last drink.
3. Put it on a totally different shelf than where it belongs.

Even worse than the problems with milk is his habit of leaving the kitchen b00by-trapped with left open cabinet doors that are just level with my forehead. Why is that?
And you can always tell what he has been eating because it is never put back in the pantry where it came from. Men.....
In his defense, even though he does not know how to change the toilet roll, he does usually put the toilet seat back down in the girl's bathroom.

Too funny.
Mine does the cabinet door thing too. Luckily, the cabinets are ridiculously high in our kitchen... I have to use a stool to get to the top shelves, so the bumping isn't a problem.

 

[lighttech]

DS3 spotted the smilies on the computer again and wants to send you guys some... so here's some random smilies from the LO.