I love POFQ and currently have it booked for my May trip. It’s so beautiful, quiet, and compact at the same time! A big benefit is that there is only one bus stop, and when buses share with Riverside during low times, FQ is generally the first stop.
From an adult-only perspective, you can easily find good cocktails at Mardi Grogs pool bar, Scat Cat’s off the lobby, and also at the River Roost just upstream at POR. River Roost does get extremely busy and loud on nights when YeeHa Bob is appearing.
The food and pool itself are weaknesses in-resort at POFQ, since it only has the smallish food court, and the pool is more family/child oriented. That said, you are welcome to use the pool and restaurants at POR, which are about a lovely 10-minute walk or a free ”Sassagoula River Cruise” ride away. If you stay at POR these things are in-resort, but you would have to deal with multiple bus stops and the possibility of a loooong walk from your room anyway, since the resort is so spread out (but gorgeous too!).
If you are willing to take the River Cruise down to Disney Springs (a pleasant 20-minute ride) you can find all the great food and cocktails you are looking for, as well as a lot of unique shopping. Same from POR. I love coming into Disney Springs from the water, it’s so much more relaxing and atmospheric! No traffic snarls, busy bus stops, and exhaust fumes everywhere. Just a sweeping panoramic view with lights on the water as you glide in.
I guess it depends on how willing you are to leaving the actual grounds of the resort. At both POFQ and POR, you can easily find everything you’re looking for close by, and the journey is pleasant. Between the two, I would choose the one whose theme appeals to you more (for me, that’s FQ). Also, POR is currently undergoing room renovations, and reports are that some of the non-renovated rooms are in pretty bad shape. If I stayed there, I would definitely request a renovated room.
Good luck with your decision. It sounds like a fun trip!