Found my childhood best friends - what next?

[drgnfly30]

My 20 year High School reunion (gulp) is approaching so I decided to mess around in Classmates.com, since I moved the summer after 8th grade, I decided to pop into the message boards of the school I WOULD have graduated from if I hadn't moved to see what they were planning...

I found a link to another class related website then into another & low and behold found the email addresses of my childhood best friends (they were twins that lived across the street from me)... I was friends with these girls from the time I was 2 years old until I moved at 14... We lost touch almost immediately after I moved & I really haven't looked back...

I'd really love to reach out just to see how they are, But for some weird reason I'm nervous! I have no idea what to say to them!! Am I nervous that I haven't done 'as well' as them, one appears to be married to an Oral Surgeon (and only lives within a 150 miles of me now!) .. Any ideas how to get them to even read my email without trashing it as Spam!?!?

 

[agnes!]

Maybe put your full name(including your maiden name or perhaps nicknames you were known by when a child) in the subject line?

Good luck,
agnes!

 

[fabumouse]

I've had a number of old friends contact me (and I, them) via Classmates and pretty much we just say "Hi from Christine X, your long-lost friend!". People have always been very friendly and seemed to be touched that I made the effort to look them up and contact them. You've got a dog with his own web page - I bet Mrs. Oral Surgeon doesn't have that!

 

[drgnfly30]

You've got a dog with his own web page - I bet Mrs. Oral Surgeon doesn't have that!

or is that more proof that I have no life!?!

 

[BuzzBoyMom]

I've had lots of friends whom I haven't spoken to in years get in touch with me - and I can't tell you what a great feeling it is. Some of these people I was very close with and others just casually. After that initial few correspondences (emails/phone calls), it becomes pretty obvious whether you totally rekindle the friendship or not. Seriously - go for it! You would be surprised. You just might make someone's day!

 

[Barb D]

I just got in touch with one of my childhood friends, and we've been e-mailing back and forth for a few weeks now. It's been great getting to know her again!

 

[Pop Daddy]

dont do nothing you will probably hate them

 

[JoyG]

I"ve sent a few emails through Classmates. I found my first boyfriend and gave him a "shout out." It was nice to hear he's doing well.

Then a casual friend of mine from high school contacted me and we exchanged a few catch up emails. Neither of these people are people I'd want to become close to again...otherwise we'd probably never lost touch in the first place. But it's neat to catch up with one or two emails.

The thing with Classmates now is I think you have to sign up for their service to even read an email someone has sent you. It never used to be like that.

 

[Sherri]

or is that more proof that I have no life!?!

Oh now thats not true. Bojangles is about the cutest dog ever.
I found an old friend on classmates a few years back and we reconnected as if no time had past even though it had been 17 years at the time.
I am so glad I took that first step. I even got to be the matron of honor in her wedding. But like you I was hesitant as so much time had past. I just said that I saw her name on classmates and wrote about two sentences about myself and family and left the ball in her court. I received the longest e-mail from her and we got together that very week. The rest is history.
There is nothing like childhood friends.

 

[drgnfly30]

dont do nothing you will probably hate them

You're probably right! I told me Mom today & all she could say was "God those two were SO annoying!"

 

[roseprincess]

I was able to find a long lost friend thru Classmates.com, about 3 yrs. ago. I was in somewhat situation like the OP, I moved right after 8th grade graduation, knew her since kindergarten. I looked up my friend at the high school she attended, thru Classmates (the HS I was supposed to go to if I didn't move). Anyways, I made the initial step and emailed her thru the Classmates.com email and she responded back. I do have her home email address, we had been emailing each other once in a great while since, tho we haven't met up yet. Sounds like she is real busy with her 2 kids and her work situation. And maybe she is nervous about meeting up with me,since it's been about over 20 yrs since I seen her last. We did email a couple of pics back and forth.
2 yrs. ago was my 20th HS reunion. I was a little nervous of going to my reunion, not sure who all was going to be there. It actually worked out fine! My dh came with me as my date. I was able to reconnect that night with my old friends/acquaintances from HS drama club and HS choir. I was so glad some of the people I knew were there at the reunion! I was an acquaintance with the girl who organized our 20th reunion,so I felt at ease if I needed to email her a question about the reunion. I was able to read other classmates' bios a few months before the 20th reunion, so at least to catch up with what was going on in their lives( I'm a Classmates.com member).

OP, hope you will be able to reconnect with your long lost friends via emails or just even at the reunion itself. Best wishes


Rosemarie

 

[FergieTCat]

Last year, I found an e-mail address for a childhood friend who I hadn't seen in 30 years. I was curious to see what happened to her. She answered my first e-mail, but never answered my second one.

Whatever happenes, just remember not to take it personally.

 

[Lezah]

I reconnected with my best friend from high school through gradfinders.com about 3 years ago and we e-mail each other every day. Have had quite a few weekend visits with each other at each others houses. Now that we each have Vonage phones and can call each other for free we call each other all the time (last weekend for an hour and a half on Sunday!) and we're going to see Donny Osmond playing Gaston on Broadway (my first Broadway play!!) in October together in October!! Go for it!!! It was totally worth it for us. It was like we had never been apart. We've been through too much together and are still going through even more!!! I thank God for her every day!! HTH!!