For those who are overweight(fluffy)

[minniecarousel]

Yeah - Kelleigh, you look terrific!

I wore a top last evening to a concert that I never thought I'd ever wear! It was sleeveless, fitted and a V-neck! I admit, it'll look better when I lose a few pounds, but I fit into and it looked OK. Listening to my thin friends talk about not liking to wear sleeveless tops because of their "flabby" upper arms, I realized that that is a common complaint of most women. So, I just apply the self tanner there to avoid the "farmer tan" look, and wear the sleeveless tops when it's THIS hot!

 

[AprilShowers]

I am fat too. I weight 200 lbs and am 5'4". I've gained about 40 pounds in the last 3 or 4 years. Before then I was overweight, but still could do what I wanted.
Recently, I've noticed things I cannot do. I can't reach my feet to paint my toenails pretty. The bugs me really bad.
I can't fit on some of the rides at Cedar Point. Technically I FIT, but I'm uncomfortable and embarrassed so I avoid them.
Last year we took the kids horseback riding. I watched the people there size me up to find "just the right horse for me". Completely humiliating.
I will now avoid those things until I lose some weight.
I am working out 3-4 times a week and try real hard to watch my diet (some days I'm better than others.)
As far as clothes, I wear shorts, but not fitted shirts because I have a giant roll right above my waist and I hate it to show.
I still wear a swimsuit and take my kids swimming. It's not their fault I'm fat.
Take heart, there are lots of us in your situation. Just do the best you can to be healthy and forget what others think.

 

[illini]

I too am about 40 lbs overweight. My son starts kindergarten next week so I was thinking I should 'join' somewhere. Are any of you doing Curves? Do you like it?

 

[sunlver]

Wow, you ladies are all so wonderful and upbeat. I have a friend who recently lost about 50 pds. It took her about 9 months or so, but she did it. Even when she was heavy, she never had a negative outlook about her weight. She even told me being overweight wasnt going to stop her from doing anything or wearing what she wants. She also wore short skirts, tank tops etc...Now though she wears the same and looks awesome...
I wish I just had some of that confidence.
Im in a panick mode, we are going on a cruise in 30 days. Its been planned for 16months now. Ive done WW 2 times since then. This will be my 3rd weigh in today UGH...Im such the procastinator. I wanted to lose at least 10 pds before we go, but I dont see that happening, unless I literally starve myself.
But the postive things Im doing is, I exercise 5-6 days a week, I do Jazzercise, I walk ,and I ride my exercise bike. I drink 10 glasses a water a day, and Im writing down every morsel of food I put in my mouth. Im doing all the right things, Im just not seeing the scale budge...
I dont even have any thing nice to wear for my cruise... I mean Im a shorts and tshirt kind of gal, that is what Im most comfortable in.
Wish me luck at weigh in today

 

[kelleigh1]

Thank you ladies!!!

 

[Snowysmom]

Being pooh sized myself, I don't let it restrict my activities. At WDW, I go on the rides I want and go to the pool each day. I also exercise at least 4 times a week. I try to find clothes that flatter me but then again, I think most women of any size do the same thing. I don't really care what other people think. I believe it is more important to be happy with yourself and be a nice person. I have found that presenting yourself confidently helps alot. I am trying to lose some weight just to stay healthy as I grow older but I will never, ever be thin. I am the same person whether I am fat or less fat.

 

[WatchinCaptKangaroo]

These posts are inspiring. I am 5'7 and have had weight issues my entire life. Right now I am 178ish. At my heaviest I was 230 and my lightest I was 149.

I want to be back to 150 but whenever I go on a diet I end up gaining weight. I just finished off a pint of Haggan Daz (started it earlier today) and now I am so mad at myself.

I'm in my late 20s and last night I was totally being hit on by a 20 y/o solid muscle guy. Yummy. Silly me made him get my number from a mutual friend instead of giving it to him myself. He hasn't called yet. So now instead of remembering that he was totally hitting on me last night, I'm thinking he thinks I'm too fat and won't call.

Oh well.

 

[Tiggeroo]

my biggest fear with my weight is flying. Up until now we went everywhere as a family of five. This meant driving not flying even to fla. Now my kids are older. Some of the place I need to go I'm alone. Flying would be much easier. But I took a train to Chicago because I heard about people getting on airplanes and being told they're too fat and need two seats. I'd die if this happened to me. But I'm also not willing to pay for two seats just in case. Also I'm a bargain hunter. The only way I could afford to fly is if I bought my tix in advance at a discount. If I got to the airport and was told I needed two seats the second one would be very expensive and I might not have enough money. I wish there was a way to figure out if this is so. I want to go to WDW this winter alone and would have to fly.

 

[cyndibelle]

Remember that people are beautiful of every shape and size...now if i could only take that advice for myself things would be good...i am so critical of myself and i think i look so hideous..i am 5 foot 6 1/2 and i weigh 155..i have a curvy figure and i think i am fat..my hubby thinks i am wonderful the way i am..but i always wanted to be that stick thin jeans falling off ya girl....Well i have realized after two babies that that just isnt gonna happen..my hips wont allow it...ha ha ha ...I look at other people that are overweight and they are beautiful..but i just cant be happy with myself no matter what...isnt life grand....ha ha ha

 

[Stitchfans]

Just remember:

Those who mind dont matter and those who matter dont mind





Well said my thoughts exactly. If people don't like what I look like then don't look. I see people snicker sometimes and I know it bothers my oldest DD. I really don't care. As I have said many times before: I am big and beautiful and here to stay!

 

[LisaNJ25]

I'm the same way. I don't wear sleeveless shirts or shorts. I did buy a few pairs of shorts (long), but I rarely wear them.

I live for fall and winter, so I can wear my jeans and sweatshirts.

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I am the same way..give me fall and winter... I wont wear shorts outsite... I bought capris for the summer.

I am a jean and sweatshirt girl.

I do know i have to start exersicing and drop alot of pounds. Having the last 2 babies back to back has really done me in.

My goal isnt even to be thin, just thinner. get me into a size 12/14 and I will be happy.

 

[slk537]

I was very overweight when I married and became pregnant four years later. I have PCOS and every time I had tried to diet the low fat way, I would gain weight. After having DS, I was at my all time high and tried to lose weight through low carb. I did okay, but then after I lost my mom to an accident when DS was 8 months old, I was determined to lose the weight. I managed to lose 80 pounds and instead of being very overweight, I was just overweight. I loved it. I was able to finally shop in normal stores and wear normal plus sized clothes. And I could wear CUTE clothes!! My best friend, who is 160 pounds, 14/16 and not fat looking at all has huge issues. She would talk about how fat she was, how wobbly, how awful. I was a 22 and thrilled about it. I was able to ignore her and feel good about me and then look towards my new goal, which was 14.

Unfortunately, I went through some tremendous stress and I dealt with it the way I always have - eating. I am now back up to a 26 and trying to lose again. I didn't let it keep me from doing much - I'll still swim with DS and DH, wear shorts, etc. But then right before our trip, I picked DS up from school and one little girl asked me if I had a baby in my tummy. That got me feeling very self concious. I have now become the most paranoid overweight person alive. I am having a rough summer again and it has been hard to stick to a diet, but I will. I know how much better I'll feel.

I try not to let my weight keep my from things - I have my best friend as an example as to what I don't want my weight to do. I just have to work on me.

 

[simpilotswife]

I wear what I want. No one likes it, they don't need to look. At 47 and dealing with hot flashes you can be darn sure I am wearing tank tops, especially in the summer.

I don't wear shorts cause I'm just not comfortable in them but do wear capris. If I'm going someplace nice, I will wear a sleeveless dress or suit. Sorry but I'm not gonna sit and suffer because someone else thinks I am too big.

Bathing suit? Heck yeah. Again, no one likes it there is a whole other panorama for them to enjoy.

Honestly, would I like to be a size 9 again? Yep. Will I be? Probably not. I'd rather eat what I want than worry about it. Maybe because I understand that there will always be someone who wants me as I am. DH does, but if he didn't there would be plenty of others.

 

[bunnywabbit!]

I appreciate all of you overweight folks who refuse to wear revealing outfits. Thank you for being considerate of others.

 

[sunlver]

You know what, I dont wear certains things because of how I feel about myself. I am not worried what others think. I just dont want my rolls of fat showing through on a tight shirt, I dont want my big flabby arms being exposed because I do not like it. I know there are other women bigger then me. I just try to cover the fat as much as I can.

 

[beachbunny]

Kelleigh: That is a wonderful dress and you looked beautiful in it!

20 years of ballet absolutely destroyed any perspective I had on weight. I'm within normal range now and have a good BMI but I will not wear sleeveless shirts or dresses (they had to get me a huge organza wrap to wear over a cute spaghetti strap dress when I was a bridesmaid recently), or a bikini.

 

[hentob]

I appreciate all of you overweight folks who refuse to wear revealing outfits. Thank you for being considerate of others.

Do you mean just overweight people?

Considerate of others what?

 

[hentob]

Well, first off, I would like to tell kelleigh1 that her dress is lovely and she looks awesome in it!

Big gal here. I was a solid 18-20, but now (due to walking and tons of water--No diet yet) I am inching towards 16-18! Yahoo!

In my opinion, I feel good when my hair is done (colored and cut), my eyebrows are freshly waxed and I have a good pedicure/manicure. Once those things are complete, everything else falls into place. Really.

Lane Bryant, Old Navy, GAP, J. Jill, Jones of New York, Liz Claiborne, etc. all make classy, attractive clothes for us big gals. The days of wearing a moo-moo if you are plus sized are long gone!

Go get yourself a facial, a pedicure, a new haircut and color and splurge on some new outfits. Don't wait until you are skinny to take care of YOURSELF!

 

[simpilotswife]

I appreciate all of you overweight folks who refuse to wear revealing outfits. Thank you for being considerate of others.

How is that considerate? There are many people out there that like looking at fat chicks so why deprive them for you?

 

[BedKnobbery2]

How is that considerate? There are many people out there that like looking at fat chicks so why deprive them for you?

Right ON, simpilotswife. bunnywabbit is just being a, um, butthat, as my Dad would say.