I remember your previous thread!
IIRC your previous visits were on a Saturday. Weekdays are
so much better.
The most important tip is Early! Early! Early!
On Monday morning, I highly recommend getting to the Security Tables no later than 7:30am; and 6:30am for the Magic Mornings on Tuesday and Thursday. (Yes, I know 6:30 is very early.

But it makes a
huge difference and it's worth it!

)
I agree with the others --- see the Fantasyland rides during the Magic Morning on Tuesday.
The following is
far from perfect, but it might help a little.
1- I kept the backtracking to a minimum.
2- DH should skip some of the rougher rides.
FWIW...
Monday
8:00am: Everyone else goes to Astro Orbitor (while you hold
all the tickets and get FPs for Space Mtn)
Astro Orbitor
Buzz Lightyear
Star Tours (DH should skip this one.)
If inclined.....now might be a good time to consider Jedi Training if it's getting ready to start. Either way nab a Buzz FP for later if it's time to nab one.
Take DL Railroad from Tomorrowland to Frontierland (Grand Canyon/Primeval World dioramas)
Everyone else goes to Pirates (while you get FPs for Splash Mtn)
Pirates
Haunted Mansion
Winnie the Pooh
(Gotta visit Poohs Corner!)
You got that right.
Ride Splash Mtn (using FPs)
Get FPs for BTMRR
(The next one wasnt on your list, but ...
the Mark Twain Riverboat is calling... )
The rest of Monday is wide open, but remember to use the
FPs for Space Mtn and BTMRR.
& Buzz.
Tuesday (Magic Morning)
7:00am Peter Pan
Dumbo
Alice
Matterhorn
Both sides.....because you can.
Mr. Toad
Mad Tea Party
(ETA: King Arthur Carrousel) 
The entrance for Adventureland will open at 8:00am. Just before 8:00am
you will want to be at the AL entrance.
& You'll be 50 steps ahead of the riff raff non MM patrons
who are lined up behind you on Main St.
(You might have time for the King Arthur Carrousel, Pinocchio and Snow White, otherwise these
can be done in the early evening or during Thursday's Magic Morning.)
8:00am: Everyone else goes to Jungle Cruise (while you get FPs for Indiana Jones)
Jungle Cruise
Tarzans Treehouse
(Its time for a Dole Whip!)
Tiki Room
Indiana Jones (using FPs) (DH might skip this one.)
(Your youngest won't be tall enough for Indiana Jones, so if you're going to ride Indiana Jones it will need to be on Monday or Tuesday.)
10:00ish: Hop to DCA
Get FPs for Soarin
Get FPs for GRR (its not on your list, but GRR is fun in the summer...)
I agree completely....Griz is a must do....& the Soarin'/Griz FP two step is a great "first thing in DCA strategy".
Paradise Pier
-Mulholland Madness (DH should skip this one.)
-Sun Wheel
-Orange Stinger
-Jumpin Jellyfish
-Zephyr
Ride GRRrrrr (using FPs)
Ride Soarin (using FPs)
The rest of Tuesday is wide open.
Thursday (Magic Morning)
Your second Magic Morning is a great time to re-ride favorites! The Matterhorn is calling!
8:00am: A great time to collect a couple of FPs!
(This isn't on your list, but I would recommend the Storybook Land Canal Boats. Storybook isn't available during MM, but it usually opens a little after 8:00am.)
(ETA: To add to what Molly and Gail posted, 9:00am on Thursday (or Tuesday) would be a good time to visit Mickey's Toontown (since MTT opens at 9:00 on both days).
9:00am Get FPs for Roger Rabbit's Car Toon Spin
Gadget's Go Coaster
Visit Mickey's House for photos
Play in Minnie's House
Ride RRCTS (using FPs))
(Stroll by the
Snow White Grotto near the Castle, if you haven't, already.)
Hop to DCA
Get FPs for Soarin
& Griz....because you can.
ToT
Monsters Inc.
Turtle Talk w/ Crush (its not on your list, but TTwC is not to be missed... )
Agreed MUST NOT be missed.
(Did you ever see the Toy Story Zeotrope? Me neither, but its in the
Character Close-Up in the Disney Animation Building, and Ive heard its
pretty cool. They will dim the lights every so often, and the "show" is just a few minutes.)
Muppets
ITTBB
(ETA: a bug's land) 
Remember to ride Soarin' (using FPs)
Bugs Land has some neat rides & the TRATATORIA is a nice spot for a relaxing meal. Also the Redwood Trail area is a great place for kids to scamper.
The rest of Thursday is wide open.
Got Maps?
DL
http://adisneyland.disney.go.com/media/dlr_v0200/en_US/map/images/DLPLowbandMap.pdf
DCA:
http://adisneyland.disney.go.com/media/dlr_v0200/en_US/map/images/DCALowbandMap.pdf
HTH