For only children

[tinkerbellandeeyor]

Do you find that you need your space

I feel so weak and selfish admitting that but thought maybe I might not be a alone

 

[zoemurr]

I'm not sure it's an only child thing.. although I am an only. I have two kids and they both need their own space on occasion, although my husband (who has a brother) doesn't seem to crave it. I think everyone is different. Some people want constant attention, and some need down time. There is need to feel selfish about it. Just be honest, and be there for others when they need you. Remember they want to spend time with you because they love you.

 

[Mirielle]

I guess I do Tink...had never stopped to think about it though. Guess I got used to spending time alone as a child and it's filtered over a bit. I can spend hours and hours alone and not feel alone at all.

 

[tinkerbellandeeyor]

I'm not sure it's an only child thing.. although I am an only. I have two kids and they both need their own space on occasion, although my husband (who has a brother) doesn't seem to crave it. I think everyone is different. Some people want constant attention, and some need down time. There is need to feel selfish about it. Just be honest, and be there for others when they need you. Remember they want to spend time with you because they love you.

I get it it's a personality thing not a only child thing and I spend plenty of time with others and don't have a problem with it as long as there is time for just me

 

[kimblebee]

I'm the oldest of four and I definitely need my space. I'm not sure if it's leftover from having my own space or if it's an ms thing and my brain is just wired that way.

My daughter is an only child and she rarely spends time alone. That may also be because she's a teenage girl LOL

 

[MIGrandma]

I'm an only and I do need/want time to myself. I like at least an hour or two a day to just be by myself, to read, watch a movie, go for a walk by myself, etc.

But I enjoy spending time with DH, our adult children and grands, and friends. So I guess it's the best of both worlds.

 

[shoney]

I'm an only and need my own space. I dislike loud chaotic places as well. I like my house nice and quiet.

 

[Hikergirl]

Do you find that you need your space

I feel so weak and selfish admitting that but thought maybe I might not be a alone

Don't feel weak or selfish for feeling that way, plenty of people want their own space. I think its very healthy for everyone to need to be alone every now and then.
I am an only and I definitely need it, but my dd has siblings and she needs her space too.

 

[usnuzuloose]

How to explain this, I have a half sister but did not grow up together. She is 10 years older. So yes I am an only child per say. I am home alone all day, except for my doggies. I keep the t.v. on for noise. Everyone needs time alone, weather it be an hour or a whole day. Depends on the person. But I can't stand quiet. I do need noise.

So don't feel bad Tink, nothing wrong with needing time alone.

 

[Meriweather]

I'm an only and grew up with doing a lot of things myself.
Older now, but DH traveled a lot before he retired, so definitely got used to being alone again.....and I do like it.
I like it when he has a meeting and I get an evening alone.
I love alone time.

 

[marcyleecorgan]

I guess I do Tink...had never stopped to think about it though. Guess I got used to spending time alone as a child and it's filtered over a bit. I can spend hours and hours alone and not feel alone at all.

Yep.... me too.

 

[eeyoreandtink]

I was an only for the majority of my childhood and I do find that I prefer to have my own space and like my house quiet and calm.

 

[frostedpink]

I think it might be more introverted related vs being an only child. Either way don't feel weak or ashamed. Be proud of who you are.

I love alone time. My favorite time of the day is when I put my DD to bed and I get an hour or two to myself

 

[AquamarineSteph]

I am an only child. My mothers' friends used to 'compliment' me by saying that I didn't act like an only child. (When I was younger, I was always curious what that meant. Did only children refuse to eat peas? Did they all wear a certain type of shoes?)

As an adult, I NEED my private, quiet space. This was an issue when I was first married, but over the years we've worked around that need to the point where I am now comfortable and all is well between us.

 

[Christine]

Only child here and yes I need my space. Not sure if it's because of that (only child) or the fact that I'm an introvert.

Since I had no siblings, my childhood in the home was really quiet and sedate. I used to go to friends' homes, sleepovers, etc, where there was lots of action. Loved it but was absolutely overwhelmed by the yelling, fighting, etc after a few hours.

 

[SallySkelington]

I'm not an only child, but would probably kill for some alone time these days.

 

[tinkerbellandeeyor]

I think it might be more introverted related vs being an only child. Either way don't feel weak or ashamed. Be proud of who you are.

I love alone time. My favorite time of the day is when I put my DD to bed and I get an hour or two to myself

Yeah I am interverted

 

[mom2rtk]

I'm not an only. Far from it, I'm one of four. And I definitely need my alone time. I think it's just a personality trait.

 

[Magpie]

I'm an only, and I don't do well when I'm alone. With just a single mum working two jobs to keep a roof over our heads, I was alone a lot, growing up. But I'm actually at my happiest and most productive when I'm surrounded by people.

I don't think there's a right or wrong way to do things, though. My daughter is definitely the kind of person who needs her alone time. While my son is like me. I think it's more personality, than anything to do with how you grew up.

 

[bdcp]

I'm an oldest and have always needed my alone time. It's called being an introvert.