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[L107ANGEL]

Ok so my friend who is newly single has been seeing this guy we can call "Jim". They were out the other night and had a little too much to drink. Anyway she came home with a "hickey". Now she is my age, 30 something and her 14 yo DD was watching a movie with her DBF and another friend. Granted unsupervised. When "Saw" was over and the 2 boys left, she noticed the "mark" and flipped out on her Mom. Now friend feels terrible, but what is she to do at this point?

 

[MagicKingdom05]

Now that I reread it again, I finally realized it was one situation and not two. I guess my question is did the mother know that the DD was going to have her BF over when she was gone or just the friend.

 

[WonderfulDreamer2]

First of all, what kind of mother leaves her 14yo at home with her BF while she's out with a man? I think you need to take a closer look at the people you associate with.

 

[Serena]

She left her daughter alone with them. I think she has more to worry about than her daughter catching her with a hickey.
Frankly, that part is none of the daughter's business.

 

[lovemygoofy]

Well I guess I'm going to be the voice of the other side. Hope someone has sprayed me with flame retardant today lol.

She is 14 old I guess her parents just got divorced or whatever. It's weird when your mom is dating again and even weirder when they realized that she is a sexual being and I don't mean that in an ugly manner. When I was that age and had a single mom I expected her life to revlove around me and yes thats selfish but its a teenager thing. The daughter is going to be upset and yes I think the mother has to talk about if no other reason than its time for another "the talk" because its hard to be an example for the daughter when the mother has a hickey.

Some may say that the mother doesn't answer to the daughter but I dont agree with that because in some ways whatever the mother does is going to affect the daughter's life and right now Im sure the daughter is just needing assurance. I hope things get better for your friend, Angel.

 

[Michie]

My daughter is 8

 

[FroggyinArk]

My daughter is 8

just wait michie,, she'll get there.

 

[Loubon]

Is your friend hot?

 

[L107ANGEL]

Is your friend hot?

How r you doin?

 

[SillyMe]

 

[Duckfan-in-Chicago]

My daughter is 8

Did they cover this birth on Believe it or not, because of the ages involved?

 

[bananiem]

My daughter is 8

Mom, did you come home with another hickey?

 

[SillyMe]

Mom, did you come home with another hickey?

Was it the Waffle House guy or the Enchilada Man?

 

[Maleficent13]

Well, my opinion is that 30 yrs old is old enough to know how to make out without leaving visible traces.

As to what she can do about it now, I think I would sit down with my DD, show her the mark and say, "See, this is just an example of what can happen when people are under the influence of alcohol. That's why you have to be careful with it; even adults can act stupid when they drink it. Mom was pretty dumb, and I'm sorry."

And then I'd say, "And oh, yeah...your butt is grounded for having your boyfriend over here when I wasn't home."

ETA: I do not have a problem with a grown woman drinking OR making out. But I would use it as a learning opportunity with my DD. And I don't think I'd do it again when I knew she was home.

 

[SwedishMeatball]

Did they cover this birth on Believe it or not, because of the ages involved?

 

[RickinNYC]

Didn't your friend learn back in junior high that you can "brush" out the hickey with a plastic pocket comb? Geez...

 

[L107ANGEL]

Didn't your friend learn back in junior high that you can "brush" out the hickey with a plastic pocket comb? Geez...

That does not work!! Does it?

 

[WonderfulDreamer2]

That does not work!! Does it?

Pssttt.....no it doesn't. And putting toothpaste on one doesn't help either.
This so called "friend" isn't you is it?

 

[mudnuri]

1st I see 2 problems...

1 a 14 year old girl left home with her boyfriend while her mom goes out......going to end up having some serious sexual health issues with that girl, especially when she see's her mom coming in after going out with a "guy she's dating" with marks on her neck etc.

2nd- what was the mom doing- making out in the car? Shesh im 29 and the last thing I want to do is make out in a car..the mom isnt showing the daughter very good behavior.....not the type of behavior you'd want your 14 year old following is it?

Brandy