But the thing about that is, appearances ARE important in our society. Those nice clothes, manicure, styled hair, make-up are an expectation in many settings, including a LOT of jobs. Do you imagine that Macys is going to hire a salesperson who comes in wearing old clothes with neglected hair & nails? That any nice restaurant would hire a waitress that doesn't look well groomed, well-dressed and classy? That an office looking for a receptionist isn't going to give preference to the more put-together looking applicant? In a lot of jobs, even low-wage/low-skill jobs, image is part of the package. And when you're judging that woman in front of you paying for her groceries with her food stamps, you have no idea whether or not maintaining a certain appearance is essential to her job or job search (many food stamp recipients do work; in fact there are work requirements for those who don't have preschool-aged children).
Oh brother. You really thing this is a need? I have never in my life has a manicure or a pedicure. I wore make-up on my wedding day and no other day. I can be dressed clean without those nicer clothes. I get my hair cut for $15. I never put in hairspray or use dryers or curling irons And guess what I have a JOB that pays many times that coveted Macy's job. I get complements on my nice skins and hair all the time.
That mentality that you are endorsing is why they will never get out of their situation and why their kids will follow in their footsteps.