Flower girl not walking yet

[AuntieKels]

Hello everyone! I was wondering what you all may have done with a flower girl who isn't toddling yet by your wedding date. Her sister is 3.5 an also a flower girl but I don't think she will be much help. We are getting married in a Catholic church so any old wagon wont pass inspection by our church lady. Also, both her parents are in the bridal party and rules show that they must walk a spacific way with an escort (not carrying a baby.) Should I just have a random cousin carry her? Maybe try to bedazzle some kind of wagon?

Help!

 

[dakcp2001]

Is there someone else you can choose to be a flower girl, she is obviously a bit too young. Even if you find a way to bypass the no walking thing, she is not going to get that she is supposed to toss the petals. Little ones are unpredictable! I think a wagon would be super cute bedazzled, but you need someone to pull it still. Co flower girls maybe? Flower brigade? Seems like an odd choice for flower girl.

If you do have a random cousin carry her,make sure the random cousin gets a special role too, otherwise they could have hurt feelings for not being chosen.

 

[Mindyjoy]

Doesn't seem odd to me at all! You can't choose one sister and not the other!!

My only niece will be our flower girl and will be 11 months at the time of our ceremony and her mom (my SIL) will be carrying her down the aisle. I am making her a flower wand so there is nothing for her to toss. We just want to recognize her in a special way.

I'm a big proponent of there being no "rules" you must follow for weddings. No one is going to freak out and leave if your flower girls parents break rank and walk with her down the aisle. Don't sweat it and just do what you feel is best for the child!

 

[erin.w]

My nephew wasn't walking at the time of the wedding so my sister carried him. We were very much a no-rule couple. Don't get me wrong I wish he was walking at the time but I wouldn't have not included him because he wasn't walking yet.

 

[AuntieKels]

My youngest niece will be a co-flower girl to her older sister so it isn't like we have the baby do it or no one at all. My nearly 4 year old niece will do a great job but I don't want her little sister to look at pictures when she's older and see that she wasn't part of it. I care for the girls at least once a week so they mean very much to me.

While I would like to be a no-rules couple we are getting married in a Catholic church so the rules don't come from me. The church sets the rules and sticks to them HARD CORE. We would be fined if any petal is dropped in the church so the girls will just have small bouquets and the processional must follow mass order and guidelines.

It seems crazy, I know.

 

[kirstyc822]

My neice who is also my god daughter will only be one year old when we get married in September, We have decided to put her on the programs as 'honorary flower girl' and her mummy (my sister in law) can walk down the aisle with her in her arms, we are going to give her some sort of wand to hold, but honestly im just so happy to have her part of our day I dont mind what she does!

Im glad you guys have posted on this as I thought I was the only one to have such a young flower girl!

 

[Jilian]

Wow, I've never heard of such strict rules @ a catholic church. I guess it must vary from church to church. Will you have an aisle runner, if so could she crawl down with someone to catch her on the other end? Or, if she's walking with help by then maybe someone could hold her hands and help her walk down the aisle? How old will she be? If she can't walk and her parents aren't allowed to carry her and you really want her in the wedding then a designated person to carry her might be a good idea.

 

[roxysmum123]

Maybe have a cousin not in the wedding party help her down the aisle? Or a friend that's good with kids? If you can find/borrow a vintage Radio Flyer wagon that would be cute too if the aisle is wide enough, but those are generally smaller than current wagons so you might be ok?

 

[BecBennett]

That's a really tricky situation... To be honest I'd probably only have the one walking flower girl if it was me, as chances are on the day the youngest one will decide that she doesn't want to go down the aisle, as she doesn't want people looking at her, and spend the whole time crying...

I was at a wedding where the couple had 2 young sons, both of walking age, but the youngest one was only just walking. The plan was to have them walk down the aisle ahead of the bridesmaids, but on the day the youngest one just did not want to walk anywhere, let alone into a scary building with lots of people looking at him, and then the elder one didn't like the attention the younger one was getting, so also had a hissy fit, in the end both boys had to be carried down the aisle by the bridesmaids.

With little ones at that age you can't predict what they're going to act like on the day, so if the rules at your church are so strict that you can get fined for things going wrong I just wouldn't risk it...