Well, in DH's large family, we were the 3rd wedding, with the same flower girls in all 3. DMIL has apparently paid for all of them, and selected for the first 2. I'm way too much of a control freak for that to happen. Unfortunately she picked the exact dress I would have wanted for the wedding preceeding mine by 5mos. So I started an endless search...and ended up at Dillards. I found some that were on clearance and were GORGEOUS so I called for sizes and we bought them then. No input from the parents of the girls on any of those 3 weddings. Not even on shoes for two of them-their mom called me and I told her what I wanted (she knew there were shoes at Target that I liked) and she bought their little white ballerina shoes there. They were adorable!!